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Topic: Worry
synergized Joined Sat 02/07/09 Posts: 1196	Sun 02/21/10 07:55 PM
I used to worry about everything! I think Betty and I would be going head to head for the Queen of worry contest! But, I have finally come to realize that worrying only gives credence and power to the negative things, so now I try very hard to constantly see the great outcome I am looking for. I say try, because worrying is a habit that is totally ingrained, and it takes time and lots of 'scooping' out of the old. You have to constantly (at first) concentrate on what good can come of any situation, and when the bad slides in, notice it fast and nip it in the bud! Now I find the bad scenarios slip fast through my mind, and then I smile at all the good things I see happening instead. Less tums!!! are you listening Betty ?? Sure I am.. Hugs Betty. I was 50 years old when I finally figured out that worrying justs makes you stress out. I still have to make a concious effort, but I think if I still allowed worry to run my life I would probably be dead of a heart attack by now. With being unemployed for a year with a son to take care of, and of course all the money worries, along with my other children having issues in their lives,my toes would be tickling daisies. Of course, laughter helps, and you have a great personality and sense of humor, so I know that helps alot! Everytime something bad happens, force yourself to see something good about it, or how you could turn it into a story to make others laugh. That helps. Great advice Yes, I also started asking myself, will this matter next week, month, or year? that puts things in perspective for me and stops the angst. Thanks Deli Hmmmm...maybe thinking about whether it would matter or not is a good way of doing it! I just always think, I know that I always get what I want or need, so there are no worries. As for my kids!!!! well, my son can go for his driving permit this year, and I am already clutching my heart and hyper ventalating...hahahahaha. And I don't want to discuss my daughter's new marriage. Sighhhh

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Mon 02/22/10 08:32 AM
awww Kathi sorry to hear about your daughter. I guess we all agree that our kids are the ones we worry about the most.Am I right?

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Mon 02/22/10 08:50 AM
I worried about my kids for long enough. All are over 30 & if they can't handle life by now, time they learned. I am here if they need me or my thoughts. All I can do.

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Mon 02/22/10 08:57 AM
Thats a good point Don. But I still worry about them and always will, not on an everyday basis cause they are both very grounded. But when they get sick or go away ,I worry like crazy.

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Mon 02/22/10 07:12 PM
Betty, does all that worrying do you any good? I have MANY, MANY concerns. I do what I can, as I can. If I allow these concerns to run my life, I would never get anything done. What is that prayer of acceptance? Something about "change what I can & accept what I can't?" Just a thought. It doesn't do a bit of good Don. And usually it goes unappreciated as well. So you all are right! With the exception of my kids I will do my best to "knock it off" Cause you are right!But asking me not to worry about my kids is like telling me not to breathe! That is a MOM for yah :) I've got one and the anxiety at times is huge but it comes with the territory :) oh hell...I make my kids worry about me LOL she does that too :)

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Tue 02/23/10 06:28 PM
Betty, does all that worrying do you any good? I have MANY, MANY concerns. I do what I can, as I can. If I allow these concerns to run my life, I would never get anything done. What is that prayer of acceptance? Something about "change what I can & accept what I can't?" Just a thought. It doesn't do a bit of good Don. And usually it goes unappreciated as well. So you all are right! With the exception of my kids I will do my best to "knock it off" Cause you are right!But asking me not to worry about my kids is like telling me not to breathe! That is a MOM for yah :) I've got one and the anxiety at times is huge but it comes with the territory :) oh hell...I make my kids worry about me LOL she does that too :) good

synergized Joined Sat 02/07/09 Posts: 1196	Fri 02/26/10 11:05 AM
awww Kathi sorry to hear about your daughter. I guess we all agree that our kids are the ones we worry about the most.Am I right? We can't help it can we?

synergized Joined Sat 02/07/09 Posts: 1196	Fri 02/26/10 11:07 AM
I worried about my kids for long enough. All are over 30 & if they can't handle life by now, time they learned. I am here if they need me or my thoughts. All I can do. Well, my kids are 27, 20, and 15. But, I think I would worry a tad about them no matter what, because I love them.

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Fri 02/26/10 01:07 PM
awww Kathi sorry to hear about your daughter. I guess we all agree that our kids are the ones we worry about the most.Am I right? We can't help it can we? no we can't!! Andf it seems the older they get the more we do But to be honest my girls don't give me a lot of reason to worry about them. But when I do they are very much worth it.

delilady Joined Fri 07/24/09 Posts: 23825	Sun 03/21/10 06:38 AM
Does the fact that no one has posted in 23 days mean that we all have no worries?

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sun 03/21/10 06:51 AM
Does the fact that no one has posted in 23 days mean that we all have no worries? works for me actually I do have a worry. been chatting with a woman on another site and I'm worried about meeting her

delilady Joined Fri 07/24/09 Posts: 23825	Sun 03/21/10 06:53 AM
Does the fact that no one has posted in 23 days mean that we all have no worries? works for me actually I do have a worry. been chatting with a woman on another site and I'm worried about meeting her Why worry? You are handsome and charming and she will enjoy your company!

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sun 03/21/10 07:04 AM
Does the fact that no one has posted in 23 days mean that we all have no worries? works for me actually I do have a worry. been chatting with a woman on another site and I'm worried about meeting her Why worry? You are handsome and charming and she will enjoy your company! oh thank you , but I'm more worried about what I'll think of her

delilady Joined Fri 07/24/09 Posts: 23825	Sun 03/21/10 07:08 AM
Does the fact that no one has posted in 23 days mean that we all have no worries? works for me actually I do have a worry. been chatting with a woman on another site and I'm worried about meeting her Why worry? You are handsome and charming and she will enjoy your company! oh thank you , but I'm more worried about what I'll think of her Well you must like her enough to agree to meet her so whether it is romance or a friendship just relax and enjoy yourself! Remember it could be me, Carol, Shasta and Viv instead!!

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sun 03/21/10 07:09 AM
Does the fact that no one has posted in 23 days mean that we all have no worries? works for me actually I do have a worry. been chatting with a woman on another site and I'm worried about meeting her Why worry? You are handsome and charming and she will enjoy your company! oh thank you , but I'm more worried about what I'll think of her Well you must like her enough to agree to meet her so whether it is romance or a friendship just relax and enjoy yourself! Remember it could be me, Carol, Shasta and Viv instead!! that's true, it could be one of you gals

delilady Joined Fri 07/24/09 Posts: 23825	Sun 03/21/10 07:12 AM
Does the fact that no one has posted in 23 days mean that we all have no worries? works for me actually I do have a worry. been chatting with a woman on another site and I'm worried about meeting her Why worry? You are handsome and charming and she will enjoy your company! oh thank you , but I'm more worried about what I'll think of her Well you must like her enough to agree to meet her so whether it is romance or a friendship just relax and enjoy yourself! Remember it could be me, Carol, Shasta and Viv instead!! that's true, it could be one of you gals Or all of us at the same time!!! When are you meeting?

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sun 03/21/10 07:15 AM
Does the fact that no one has posted in 23 days mean that we all have no worries? works for me actually I do have a worry. been chatting with a woman on another site and I'm worried about meeting her Why worry? You are handsome and charming and she will enjoy your company! oh thank you , but I'm more worried about what I'll think of her Well you must like her enough to agree to meet her so whether it is romance or a friendship just relax and enjoy yourself! Remember it could be me, Carol, Shasta and Viv instead!! that's true, it could be one of you gals Or all of us at the same time!!! When are you meeting? I don't know. Haven't even talked to her on the phone. I called her last night and she didn't answer, like she said she would . I'll be off all week starting tomorrow so I'd like to get it it done this week..

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 03/21/10 07:15 AM
Meeting all of you at the same time would prob. be the safest.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sun 03/21/10 07:20 AM
Meeting all of you at the same time would prob. be the safest. you are MUCH braver than I am

delilady Joined Fri 07/24/09 Posts: 23825	Sun 03/21/10 07:21 AM
Does the fact that no one has posted in 23 days mean that we all have no worries? works for me actually I do have a worry. been chatting with a woman on another site and I'm worried about meeting her Why worry? You are handsome and charming and she will enjoy your company! oh thank you , but I'm more worried about what I'll think of her Well you must like her enough to agree to meet her so whether it is romance or a friendship just relax and enjoy yourself! Remember it could be me, Carol, Shasta and Viv instead!! that's true, it could be one of you gals Or all of us at the same time!!! When are you meeting? I don't know. Haven't even talked to her on the phone. I called her last night and she didn't answer, like she said she would . I'll be off all week starting tomorrow so I'd like to get it it done this week.. Well I bet she is sorry she missed the call. "Get it done"! Don't make it sound like a chore, Mano. Think of it as a pleasant adventure. But you will be able to tell more about your feelings after you hear her voice. That is what convinced me with my present crush!