are there any parents on here who have lost a child to SIDS? I have plenty of people around me. but none that know what I've been through. I also have a daughter who tried to commit suicide in 2007. She survived but she was down for so long, it took over a year for her to recover. I could use a friend who has been through what I have. someone who understands why after 22 years I still cry on my frist daughters birthday or the day she died.

im sorry for your loss
but i have not expereinced what you have gone through
but i had a aunt that lost her baby to sids when i was 2yrs old
her child died the same week of my grandfather. in fact i didnt find out untill several yrs ago there funeral was on the same day
my aunt had a sever brakedown where she ended up in the state hospitol for 6months.
but to let you know your child is around you spirit.
i had abortion when i was 16yrs old and for along time i was depressed didnt know why untill a few yrs ago i had learned i was going through post abortion syndrome, but i had known for along time he had been around me in spirit.
i also have a cousin that his oldest daughter died from sids i dont recall how old she was but his ex wife blame him for her death. he also had another child that he took custody of with his wife(now ex) when they split up
if you would like to talk email me

...altho i never lost a child to SIDS i bet it can be devastating,along with all the other problems you seem to carry,hardly a happy lifestyle..personally i would gather my children around me,try to put the past behind me and make a better life for me and my children..you can't change the past..you can only learn from it..i would alienate the father as much as possible because he doesn't seem to be helping much if anything it seems to me that he makes things worse ..put the goal in front of you to make things better for you and your family and move forward ..
..you have probably tried to do the best you can ..but you can't let the past ruin the future for you and yours ..you can do it... jmo

..stand up brush the past away,because it will only drag you down if you let it..this i know from personal experience...

Not from SIDS. I'm sorry for your pain and loss, and can
relate to remembrance on each birthday. All I can say is
while not dwelling on the pain and let it rule the rest
of your life and not letting you live, progress, and heal,
feel the comfort in knowing that your first child is with
God and being loved and taken care of, and relief and joy
for every precious moment you have with your other daughter.
It is hard, and your heart breaks, there is no getting around
that, you want your babies with you always, happy and healthy,
and when they hurt you hurt, but some things you just don't
have any control over, and you do what you can. As Queene said,
even people here are here for you, if you need to...reach out.