so just wanted to get a opinion of sorts on verbal abuse.

my so called boyfriend when he gets made or angry at me will cuss at me like for example i asked him if i could go out with friends and he replied through text message "do whatever you want im throwing up blood here so just go enjoy your damn self"

granted hes in another state playing solider right now and i wasnt gonna go out if he was throwing up blood when he always talks to me he told at at one point in a text i told him i was gonna stay in and he was like "then be ignored i dont ****in care"

it just seems when he gets angry he just cusses at me and thats not ok.

and its not the b word ot anything its just the f word and gd word and blaming me for me bugging him

oh and i got fired to day..

I spent years unhappy in a marriage where I was called every name under the sun. It's not going to change. You don't deserve this no matter what he is going through. Get out now before you marry him, have kids and end up wondering why you put up with it for so long! Good luck!

Why would you be with someone who verbally abuses you....or abuses in anyway. Sorry about your job, good luck

When a man loves you he does not abuse you in Any form at all

Love

does not hurt

does not make you question

Do yourself a big favor and get out now

If the word abuse even enters your mind

It can get worse

my love to you

Sorry you lost your job.

Verbal abuse is never okay.

Good luck with everything.

Edit: any sort of abuse is never okay, if it makes you feel bad, it's bad. It doesn't matter if he's having a bad day, or throwing up blood, or feeling stressed from the military, there is never an excuse to verbally, mentally, or physically abuse someone. If he can't be kind and loving towards you, maybe he's not in a position to be in a relationship right now. If he has issues, he needs to work on them. I know the military offers counseling, he needs to take advantage of it.

Making excuses for him doesn't help him or you. It's up to you how you choose to be treated, but keep in mind, every human deserves to be treated with dignity and respect.

And I agree with Xeno, no way in hell would I ask someone's permission to do anything, you're an adult, not a child.

i agree get out and find someone who is going to treat you good

Any type of abuse can be damaging from a male or female counterpart. You claim to be asking your boyfriend about going out without him? This seems to upset him? Does he go out without you? When your boyfriend is saying he is coughing up blood he is telling you that he needs some attention or affection from you it seems. In order for any relationship to be successful both must form boundaries, guidelines, and cooperative communication. Is he verbally abusing you? We will not probably ever know because every story has two or more sides in a relationship. Your story could be as plausible to he posting that his girlfriend goes out and cheats on him on another thread with vivid details how you never answer your phone or blow him off. Your statements are very vague and inconclusive themselves therefore assumptions are not a wise choice to make.

The fact that you had to ask him if you could go out with friends is a VERY bad sign. And, yes, talking to you like that is abuse.

And, I'm sorry about your job, too.

You do not know the whole story Ruth therefore you have given someone a guilty verdict before knowing the extent of the whole situation. If I give you an example Ruth, you may understand. Perspective #1-"Yesterday my wife viciously attacked me the broom and screamed obscenities such as I am no better then dirt. I feel this treatment was both physical and mental abuse." Perspective #2-" I could not believe it I came home and found my husband with another woman in my bad. I was so upset I was shewing at him with the broom and crying and sobbing anything that came to my mind." Ruth same story with two different points of view. Who is in the wrong the wife or husband?

Every post here is from only one perspective and if the OP is misrepresenting the situation, that is her problem. I responded to what she wrote. I have no obligation to try to "get the whole story" in order to respond to a thread. If people want good advice, it is up to them to give all the facts.

Based on what the OP has stated, I would break up immediately with the guy.

In many ways verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse..THOSE wounds eventually heal..but words break down your spirit which is harder to repair..DON'T let anyone do that to you!

Sorry about your job.

What do you mean he is "playing" soldier?

This whole situation leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Lots of growing up on both sides of the situation. You seem to be making excuses for his behavior by saying it's not the b word so you dont' feel it was that bad. If you say so. Personally, I don't like to be disrespected and I for damned sure won't be having to ask someone permission for anything.

Oh and for any women who have questions about any kind of physical or mental abuse contact your local womens resource center they will keep it confidential if you wish and can steer you the right way. Otherwise, men have you heard of that woman who liked a man and he was not into her? She then make false allegation that he raped her. 7 years later they did dna test and determined he did not rape. Upon the police questioning her she admitted she fabricated the whole story. She is now on her way to jail and the man is free.

WOW for someone who can't from an opinion without all the facts, I would say that you are making a MAJOR assumoption with that statement. As someone who has been in the situation, I am saying that if her boyfriend acts this way now and is accusing her of wanting to meet other people then it is not ever going to change. Better to move on now, in my opinion.

Maybe she just wanted to talk about it with the people that she knows here.

EF him nobody should accept that kind of abuse, you can do much better. Not all guys are like that and you will find someone. Run away!

Don't walk away run.Its not going to get any better,only worse.Y do u have to ask for permission to go out with your friends? If he really loved u then he wouldn't talk like this to u in the first place.Real love feels good not hurtful.

Hi all i just joined....hope its worth it