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Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Mon 01/11/10 09:20 PM
"yes dear" is at the top of his vocabulary. ("yes dear" only means he is not even listening to you HATE THOSE WORDS!!!!) A man that I know is going to counseling. The male counselor told him to say, "Yes, dear." I told him that those words sound like he's being sarcastic and agreeing when he doesn't agree. I don't like those words either.

Updawg Joined Thu 11/19/09 Posts: 3254	Mon 01/11/10 09:21 PM
Sorry all good but these three..... knows how to put the seat down, and actually does it. (I could not give a chit if he does it or not) understands that shiney new pretty things equals more sex (if he gets more sex it is because he is good at it not what he can buy) sending me flowers to work equals more sex (Flowers will not matter see answer above) "yes dear" is at the top of his vocabulary. ("yes dear" only means he is not even listening to you HATE THOSE WORDS!!!!) Very well said. Its not in what he does, its why he does that matters. Updawg your a sweetheart too bad your not 20-30 years older Dammit just looked at your age fooled me for sure but ya still a sweetie............ Thanks

Drifters13 Joined Tue 12/25/07 Posts: 1769	Mon 01/11/10 09:21 PM
I can understand. I WANTED my wife. She NEEDED something else. I don't know. Never got an explaination from her about what I did that was so horrible.

Updawg Joined Thu 11/19/09 Posts: 3254	Mon 01/11/10 09:22 PM
Maybe it was not what you did. Maybe its what she did!

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Mon 01/11/10 09:23 PM
Hey don't get me wrong I'm all for doing for another but I'm a true believer in what one receives one gives. Men as well as women like little things done for them if it is a note saying your the best ect. Ya know the little things will get ya a long way......... Now to find the man I can do those things with would be a blessing.......... Ya see I don't want someone that needs me I want a man that wants me....... I couldn't have said it better. One sided NEVER works. You get, you give. You give, you get. That's the point I was trying to get across. You just worded it sooo much better then me Ohhhhhhhhhh girl you had it I just added to it...........but you had the main part believe me........

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 01/11/10 09:23 PM
I can understand. I WANTED my wife. She NEEDED something else. I don't know. Never got an explaination from her about what I did that was so horrible. Because you probably didnt actually do anything horrible. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. I know I always looked for an answer that would make me say "OK, now it makes sense. Had I done this or not done that, then maybe things would be different" but I'm here to tell you, you're wasting your time and energy. Look ahead not back.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 01/11/10 09:24 PM
Hey don't get me wrong I'm all for doing for another but I'm a true believer in what one receives one gives. Men as well as women like little things done for them if it is a note saying your the best ect. Ya know the little things will get ya a long way......... Now to find the man I can do those things with would be a blessing.......... Ya see I don't want someone that needs me I want a man that wants me....... I couldn't have said it better. One sided NEVER works. You get, you give. You give, you get. That's the point I was trying to get across. You just worded it sooo much better then me Ohhhhhhhhhh girl you had it I just added to it...........but you had the main part believe me........ I sounded a but like a gold digger tho after I re-read it. I can see how it came across as "buy me things if you want sex " Thanks for helping get my foot outta my mouth.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Mon 01/11/10 09:24 PM
"yes dear" is at the top of his vocabulary. ("yes dear" only means he is not even listening to you HATE THOSE WORDS!!!!) A man that I know is going to counseling. The male counselor told him to say, "Yes, dear." I told him that those words sound like he's being sarcastic and agreeing when he doesn't agree. I don't like those words either. OMG would love to get a hold of that counselor those words make me cringe...........

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Mon 01/11/10 09:26 PM
Maybe it was not what you did. Maybe its what she did! Ditto, don't beat yourself over it she was not worthy of you you will see that within time...........

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 01/11/10 09:28 PM
Maybe it was not what you did. Maybe its what she did! exactly! put the blame where it belongs. If she failed you and your marriage, then stop beating yourself up. You can't make someone be a good spouse. Try if you can to ease up on your guilt.

Updawg Joined Thu 11/19/09 Posts: 3254	Mon 01/11/10 09:29 PM
Maybe it was not what you did. Maybe its what she did! Ditto, don't beat yourself over it she was not worthy of you you will see that within time........... Oh and dont call me sweet or nice cause someone will get the wrong idea.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Mon 01/11/10 09:29 PM
Hey don't get me wrong I'm all for doing for another but I'm a true believer in what one receives one gives. Men as well as women like little things done for them if it is a note saying your the best ect. Ya know the little things will get ya a long way......... Now to find the man I can do those things with would be a blessing.......... Ya see I don't want someone that needs me I want a man that wants me....... I couldn't have said it better. One sided NEVER works. You get, you give. You give, you get. That's the point I was trying to get across. You just worded it sooo much better then me Ohhhhhhhhhh girl you had it I just added to it...........but you had the main part believe me........ I sounded a but like a gold digger tho after I re-read it. I can see how it came across as "buy me things if you want sex " Thanks for helping get my foot outta my mouth. Lmao, believe me it took me many years to get that foot out of my mouth. Ya doing good your farther then I was at your age just keep being you...........

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Mon 01/11/10 09:30 PM
Maybe it was not what you did. Maybe its what she did! Ditto, don't beat yourself over it she was not worthy of you you will see that within time........... Oh and dont call me sweet or nice cause someone will get the wrong idea. Okay "Buttercup"..........

Drifters13 Joined Tue 12/25/07 Posts: 1769	Mon 01/11/10 09:31 PM
Most likely ya'll are right, I just can't help but to wonder, "Could have I done something different? Did I work too much? Was I not there enough? Did my business actually mean more to me that she did?" I try not to think about it, look forward to this huge project I've got coming up in the next couple of days. It works for a while, but it slowly creeps back......

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 01/11/10 09:32 PM
Most likely ya'll are right, I just can't help but to wonder, "Could have I done something different? Did I work too much? Was I not there enough? Did my business actually mean more to me that she did?" I try not to think about it, look forward to this huge project I've got coming up in the next couple of days. It works for a while, but it slowly creeps back...... and how's that been workin out for ya?

Drifters13 Joined Tue 12/25/07 Posts: 1769	Mon 01/11/10 09:35 PM
Most likely ya'll are right, I just can't help but to wonder, "Could have I done something different? Did I work too much? Was I not there enough? Did my business actually mean more to me that she did?" I try not to think about it, look forward to this huge project I've got coming up in the next couple of days. It works for a while, but it slowly creeps back...... and how's that been workin out for ya? It's kinda hit and miss......

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Mon 01/11/10 09:35 PM
Most likely ya'll are right, I just can't help but to wonder, "Could have I done something different? Did I work too much? Was I not there enough? Did my business actually mean more to me that she did?" I try not to think about it, look forward to this huge project I've got coming up in the next couple of days. It works for a while, but it slowly creeps back...... Your young the questions are there for a reason. To make you search every aspect to see if it was you. But.....I assure you it was not meant to be or she would still be there........When the right one comes around dynamite will not even budge them away from you... Put it in the past move on or it will eat you alive.

Updawg Joined Thu 11/19/09 Posts: 3254	Mon 01/11/10 09:36 PM
Maybe it was not what you did. Maybe its what she did! Ditto, don't beat yourself over it she was not worthy of you you will see that within time........... Oh and dont call me sweet or nice cause someone will get the wrong idea. Okay "Buttercup".......... Stop it you'll ruin my reputation

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Mon 01/11/10 09:36 PM
Most likely ya'll are right, I just can't help but to wonder, "Could have I done something different? Did I work too much? Was I not there enough? Did my business actually mean more to me that she did?" I try not to think about it, look forward to this huge project I've got coming up in the next couple of days. It works for a while, but it slowly creeps back...... and how's that been workin out for ya? It's kinda hit and miss...... well if hangin onto it, going back to it over and over again isn't helping... maybe you should try something different.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Mon 01/11/10 09:37 PM
DIfferent strokes for different folks but that doesn't sound like a man to me. More like a trained dog.