Would you consider thinking about cheating or talking about it to be cheating??? or is it only cheating when it's physical

whatcha think?

(disclaimer....ya know)

I'm thinking someone needs to take those
drugs away from you

Thinking about it....not really.

Talking about it...seems like they have pretty much decided to do it anyway.

don't intervention me too

makes sense.

emotional dishonesty can be so much more damaging that physical infidelity.

If you are directing attention and energy that ought to be going to your partner to someone else ... that's not good ...

The litmus test is ... would you do or say that if your partner were there with you ... if not ... if it walks like a duck ... quacks like a duck ... yada yada ...

I'm with Artgurl on this one .Talk about it,you are.

Always cheat

If you need to talk about that with another person, then obviously there are problems in the relationship. Talking leads to other things, maybe not with the one that person's taking to, but the thought is already there. .02

when my ex hubby cheated before during and after we got together, he didnt tell anyone.. there werent problems in the relationship that i knew of it was just him that thought he was gods gift to woman. he a cronic lyer. and when we got married i kicked him out of the house 4 diffrent times and the 4th was the last. and while we were separted he got involved with this one lady and they were together for awhile and they had a child. while he was with her, he cheated on her with his 2nd wife. and he told her that we were divorced which we werent even yet. i gave him a little over a yr to get off his butt to file but his excuse was there was no place to file. yea right there a place to get married there a place to get a divorce, he just didnt want to pay. and im pretty sure he cheated on his wife even before they got married..i know when there daughter was little they broke up for a brief and he had came down to visit and he said something i would prefer to say it in email not the forum, and i sent her a letter and she accused me on lying why should i had lied to her when he was to her...

I haven't had anyone in over 3 years, so it wouldn't be cheating
Come on over

To ne thinking about it and talking about it isn't really cheating, but it sure shows a screwed up mind that isn't happy with what they have.

But then again, some people aren't happy no matter what they have.

Morally, cheating in ones 'heart' is still a sin. Because I dont read hearts though, I am more concerned in my relationship with what my partner does. As long as there is no physical intimacy, or dishonesty,,I dont consider my partner to be cheating.

lol what is it with people, you know what cheating and being dishonest is no one needs to tell you, unless you were born yesterday come on.

When the mind wonders so does the body. If your partner is only talking to someone, it should be you.

I don't think talking about it or thinking about it is cheating

However, if they are talking about it...then they are obviously thinking about it. It could easily lead there or it could be happen opposite as well(I've had that happen once) the other times it led to cheating. Guess you could only talk to them and figure out what it is they THINK they are missing

Thinking about cheating is no more cheating than thinking about robbing a bank is bank robbery. But, it is the first step.

All I can say is live it once and then decide !

Well....first of all....I need a girlfriend to actually cheat on or else it wouldn't be cheating....right now I am just a whore..