Damn, Sometimes I think I should join the club.
Lie like crazy to attract a partner.

My life in a nutshell,
I have a good job, Southern attire, serious but joke a lot to avoid most stress, somewhat of a home body, remodeling my home is my biggest joy at the moment, Love to take something that looks like crap and make it look new again, so... between work and remodeling it don't leave a lot of free time.
I don't need to get drunk to enjoy life.
Dinning out is a treat not something I do often.
I tell it like it is, and not into bs..ing just to find someone.
They can take me as I am or keep walking.

That said....
Seems all of the women I have met want the BS.
As if the more a guy can lie and make himself appear to be such a catch, Even if it is CLEARLY bull...thats the one she wants.

Is reality and down to earth really such bad traits in a guy??

Well, in my experience, it's actually worse than that.

From what I've seen, 99% of the women want a guy who is docile, easily led, easily domesticated, and who has no thought processes, creativity, or self-concept whatsoever.

In other words, they want a farm animal. Probably a goat, although I suppose there are several other animals who would suffice for this purpose.

If/when I do run across a woman who actually claims she wants a guy with some intelligence, creativity, and talent, she's either 90, deranged, or otherwise ineligible. Or being completely dishonest about what it is she really wants.

I mean, I've written three books, I'm in reasonably good shape, I've been told I'm "easy on the eyes" by a few here, and yet I've generated zero interest in three years. Why is that? I have to assume it's because women don't want a thinker, they want a drinker. Which I will never be....

Telling the truth is good. It's how you say it than can be a major turn off. There's nothing wrong with softening a statement and usually people are more likely to actually hear and accept something that is stated without harshness. It's not dishonest. It's just good communication.

Oh but you left out the little tidbit about you having 7 kids.

You eliminate a large percentage of women because they have children. Which is not wrong, it is good that you do that if that's not something you want. I'm just saying that there are more women that would be interested if not for that fact.

Strange, Most people (not just guys) online.. pump out so much BS that they don't even know who they really are any more.
Honestly.. how many have you seen here that run off into a dream relationship with someone they met online (and in the RW) just to find out it was all a front, and soon fell apart!?
Being honest avoids most of this.

A lot of what is in most profiles is BS.. sorry.. I don't have a bs divining rod

But you are right, people want to believe the BS fantasy, and burned so often that we don't believe the honest ones.
Like the song * You give love a bad name* sort of situation.

Well, in my experience, it's actually worse than that.

From what I've seen, 99% of the women want a guy who is docile, easily led, easily domesticated, and who has no thought processes, creativity, or self-concept whatsoever.

In other words, they want a farm animal. Probably a goat, although I suppose there are several other animals who would suffice for this purpose.

If/when I do run across a woman who actually claims she wants a guy with some intelligence, creativity, and talent, she's either 90, deranged, or otherwise ineligible. Or being completely dishonest about what it is she really wants.

I mean, I've written three books, I'm in reasonably good shape, I've been told I'm "easy on the eyes" by a few here, and yet I've generated zero interest in three years. Why is that? I have to assume it's because women don't want a thinker, they want a drinker. Which I will never be....

I had to laugh
First thought that came to mind was...
If she has kids, she has too good of a reason to drink,

And you left out the tidbit that they are all grown and on their own, and it wouldn't have been 7 if it were not for a set of triplets in the mix.
But on the other hand, this thread wasn't started to tell my entire life story, that is what emails and getting to know each other is for.
And your point was???

Well im glad i dont fall into the "most" category......i have never BS on a profile of mine,i have also never posted a thread to complain about my own choices of past men.

I wasnt sure about wat u said about being right? that wasnt wat i said...if i think someone is BS-ing about themselves or their lives, i usually find out pretty quickly before i get too attached. I dont disbelieve honest ppl, i just have red flags appear when a man complains publicly about how MOST women dont want an honest guy and claim to be 1.....

Best of luck to you.
If you have found a good man you have done well.
But be real and read the forums.. story tells itself over and over.
But honestly, you don't know the first thing about me,, so how sweet that you think you know me so well

You are doing exactly what I have described.. judging

This thread may not have been started to tell your entire life story, but you put it out there and left out a big piece of info. You state you don't want anymore children...but yet you leave out the fact that you have 7? This is no where mentioned on your profile.

My point is that you self proclaim to be this great catch, but you leave out any info that doesn't benefit you in your shining light of self promotion. You are also assuming that others will find you to be such a catch. I would say you having 7 kids is a big deal whether they are grown or not.

So perhaps when you fluff yourself up for things you think are the reasons why you are so boring and that's why women don't flock to you, perhaps it's the reasons you don't list.

I am lucky enough to have found a good decent, honest, caring man,

Welllllllllll.........let's not exaggerate.


JUST KIDDING!

Haha!! thats wat i mean!! he doesnt promote it!!

First thought that came to mind was...
If she has kids, she has too good of a reason to drink,

You eliminate a large percentage of women because they have children. Which is not wrong, it is good that you do that if that's not something you want. I'm just saying that there are more women that would be interested if not for that fact.

Ahhh....but Lex....u have set ur standards way too high.....but i think u already know this