I didn't read the whole post....


but it comes down to communication (the topic of the night)...

Both people need to be willing to communicate open and honestly and be patient when explaining cultural expections of family/friends.

This all needs to be discussed before marriage... the roles of each person in the marriage, children, work in and out of the home, the expected roles of them as their parents age etc...

I think anyone willing to marry someone that adhears to their culture and are not americanized, would make the effort to understand the culture... and those of non-american culture would take into account that they may have to compromise on some aspects.

If that made any sense.

Each person is different regardless of culture or background, etc.

Did you and the wife ever discuss any of this stuff before you got married? When I enter a relationship, I tell the guy how I am, I tell him what I expect and what I'm not going to put up with. He's free to do the same. That way, there are no hard feelings down the line, because I was upfront. It's pretty sad when people get married and they find out something about the other person that should have been shared early on, and then there's this whole "woe is me, we're doomed to divorce" mentality.