hot 18 peace my brain shut off when she said yes

work towards something better for yourself. You need to be happy with yourself first, then it's harder for you to settle for less

YOU have US man!!!!!

I'm thinking of the cymbalta commerical and song...LOL! Dude, I'm sorry...I can be a real A-HOLE sometimes...

na i got a side to

don't even have friends who have been arrested. i guess that's a personal choice then? so i should consider any of ur criticism not friendly then? cos i'm a twice convicted felon. you wouldn't want me for a friend and i get the feeling ur better than me because i've been to prison. correct me if i'm wrong. that's the message i'm reading between the lines.

and when i met this girl i didn't know she had just served two years in the feds and that she was on state probation and still doing some fed probation too. i learned this after i got to know her some. we started seeing each other and then she messed up on probation and so she's goin back for a little bit but i'm not the type of person to abandon someone i've been friends with just cos the going gets rough. she was my friend when nobody else really cared to be. she never judged me for being a convicted felon. i guess we're just two peas in a pod, maybe there are a hundred other girls out there who might be interested in me and aren't locked up, but i don't know them. i know her and i know i'm in love with her and i'd like to see where things go. i'm willing to gamble on it. it's only a year, i can wait.

i got out 2 1/2 years ago

skanktricil,

I'm not saying that at all. I am speaking more from what you said about not knowing how she feels and what's going on. It's no fun being in the dark when it comes to the heart. And why should you stay that way? Don't you deserve better?

I'll be blunt. YOU control your life. YOU need to take the ball into your court and do what is best for YOU.

No way do I think I am better than anyone! I am just a normal girl. I may have high standards, but otherwise, I am normal.

We are just having a discussion. There is no criticism.

I work as an intern for a criminal lawyer, and my graduate degree is in criminology. Not only do I have to keep myself clear of criminal activity and people, but my friends have to be clear too. I want to work for the DOJ or FBI and they do background checks on everything about my life!

We are a product of our environment. We make choices. That is all you need to take from my comments. I still come in peace!

As I said, I wish you the very best! You deserve to have a normal relationship.

I just asked my 18 yr old son what I would say to him

he said "mom....you'd tell me to put on my big boy pants and work on myself first and don't settle"

amazing he listens to me huh???


I don't give advice that I wouldn't want to hear myself. I went through a bad time back in February and many people here helped me through it. Whether comforting me or telling me to snap out of it.

I love that line from Moon Struck by Cher!

"Snap out of it!"

me too. sometimes you need to hear it. I know I did back then. and now, looking back I just think

why did i not listen will try to start now

well thanx for setting me straight. i was mistaken, forgive me.



i'm sorry, i think there was some mistake here, i was quoting something melodygirl said to me, or at least i thot was directed towards me, maybe something u had said was captured in the quotes, so i took the liberty of addressing each with ur own respective quotes. shame the quote feature on this forum doesn't have an equal sign operator to designate the owner of the quoted material.

ennywei, i might deserve better. but i might not even deserve as much as i have right now. try and remember i'm a twice convicted felon. i would definitely like to know where i stand with this girl but maybe that's part of the intrigue. getting to know her slowly. she doesn't let on much. you know, she probably doesn't have many other people she can write to who will respond as quickly as i will. i was locked up so i know how important mail is to keeping one's morale up and helping one get thru their time. you stop counting days so much and instead focus on mail call and when the next answer to ur letter is coming back to u.

so i figure i'll have a minute to find out if she's for me or not. all the same i'll still write to her and be her friend even if it turns out she's not the girl for me.

You have no reason to apologize.

You were polite and I had no reason to think otherwise. Discussions don't have to be heated or cause people to get defensive.

We are good!

well if that doesn't work...my son says the next step is for mom to kick him in the butt we have nudges for that here

skanktricil,

THAT is your problem. You just hit the nail on the head. You think you don't deserve better. Well why don't you??? do you not deserve to be happy and at peace?

well, i think i lost my thread somewhere along the lines of responding, got my fon goin off with texts every few seconds and i got a hard time following a thought thru to completion. and there goes the fon again. a friend is texting and she can't seem to complete a single thot in one text so she sends 3 instead. ennywei...

so i think i was going somewhere with that but got distracted. and i'm watching "that 70's show" so all in all, i can't concentrate. terrible attention span.

***edit***

okay, lemme try again, so i think the part where i was saying something about maybe i don't deserve better i was being facetious. again, please forgive me, i'm coming off of a few different drugs all at once. psych meds n others, 4 different scripts.

but yeah, i really like this girl. i'm willing to invest the time and energy to get to know her better and now that she's locked up and isn't going anywhere, she's got nothing but time on her hands and time to respond to me and my letters. soooo, if i don't hear from her as often as i suspect i should then it may be because she just really isn't into me. and i'll take the hint then. when she was out, she stayed plenty busy with work and school and of course she has other friends. i didn't want to make any demands on her time or impose on her that she needed to come see me not less than once a week. i was glad to see her when i could and would make the best of whenever i did get to see her. but all the same often i felt like i didn't seem to matter as much as i thought i should to her. or maybe it's i didn't feel like i mattered to her as much as i wanted to matter to her. i think it's the latter.



i'm not either polite. i'm a little jerk. who are u tryin to fool? hahahahaha

but all the same, yeah i hate cops and i won't apologize for it, u don't care for the criminal element. just different sides of the tracks u n me. i wouldn't expect cops to apologize to me for trying to lock me or my friends up. i'd be insulted if they did.

i wish they would