I was reading the other day about how most peopple are so afraid of losing they won't take a chance on something even when the odds greatly in their favor. This started me to thinking.

Do you think you may be more afraid of having your heart broken than you are desiring of a loving relationship?

Dose this fear make you say no to so many people that you'll likely never find the love you really want?

Hmmm...

I really don't " fear " getting my heart broken. Hell...it's happened plenty of times.

I am just kinda sick of all the stuff that goes with it.

Besides...I have yet ( at least recently ) seen a situation where the odds are in my favor at all. much less heavily in my favor

i took a chance and got married and the odds were right it ended in divorce

All I can say is I have had 2 meetings set up from here...they were both no-shows. Maybe they were afraid, I wasn't.
My heart is healed and open, I just can't find a man who feels the same way.

I'm living it...got me pegged

Afraid?? Nahhh...

Just exceptionally foolish.

YES! I put in my profile"looking for a male friend" for that very reason. I would love to have a relationship, but the idea of one scares me. It's like once you start having feelings for that other person you are giving them the power to hurt you. I know this isn't the way to think and it's just setting things up for failure. I am realizing now that it all should be worth the risk and I should just relax and go with it, but it's much easier said then done.

To reach the highs of love and passion you must allow yourself to fly. But, you also risk crashing to the ground.

I think it's worth the risk.

I know I talk a lot about never wanting to marry again and seeing several women at once, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't commit if the right one came along.

But that's pretty much where the fear comes from. Women know how you are ( since I am pretty sure you let them know right from the get go ), but some may allow themselves to feel that they might BE that " right one " only to find out that you don't think the same.

Oh. Just wanted to make sure you know that my statement is, in no way, an indictment of anything that you do.

Getting hurt is just part of life. What you have to do is realize that you had some great times before the hurt. And you will have more great times with the next person in your life.

I would not trade my hurt feelings because they came with some great times in my life. Look at the good times you had and they will out weigh the bad.

I think a little o both. Saw my ex last night and was a little wistful. Yes...I don't know if I can do it again (fear?)
and i just keep putting the energy out there of whom I'll (we'll) be really compatible with to show up...
or...am i still in love? yes, but we both know we do but can't seem to get it right.

I never lie. I may not tell them everything they want to know, but I never lie.

One thing I can tell you is that special woman for me won't try to lock me up or force me to chose her over another. She'll have the confidence to know that I will I'll eventually come around and see the light that is her.

Didn't say you lie, dude.

But how many women do you really think are going to want to wait for you to " eventually come around " while you are out playing around with other women???

yeah...I had one who wanted me to wait around till he was ready to see the light that was me.... I said bye-bye and moved on. If a man is interested in a woman, he doesn't want her to wait around...he would not want to lose her. If he is willing to take that risk..he's just not that into her.

Only the one that loves me uncocditionally.

I find it utterly amazing that men and women have fears to open up. I mean, yeah, we all have been hurt before, and I am sure that we all have hurt someone as well. But here is what gets me.

I can be a stand up dude. I could really like a girl, and put all the signals out there that I am very interested. But then along comes a Mr. Smooth, who is a jackass, and well, that girl I like decides to date the jackass. Now, more than likely, ol Jackass put the moves on heavy, and while the girl didn't really intend to go out with him, she ends up doing it anyway.

Long story short, Jackass hurts her, scars her, and now she refuses to let love in. All the while, I was standing on the sidelines with a heart of gold wanting to show her I was the right choice for her. Yes, it is partly my fault that I didn't try harder to date her, but I aint fully to blame. She chose that route. She allowed the jackass in. And he hurt her.

Okay...I'm done.

Doesn't always work that way Goof....once there is a maturity level, the little games are no longer necessary. Some of us mature gals know what works and what doesn't, and aren't interested in a jackass.

I Have no fear !!

Well not anymore anyway.....

True. But I see it happen alot more often than not.

Hmmmmmm....perhaps I needs me a mature woman eh?

I don't know the age group you date...I did just perv you to see how old you are. At your age I'm going to guess your dating young..with young comes drama.