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You're treating her like a booty call and she knows it. She wants to be bumped up on the list. You don't want to do that. Time to call it quits before somebody gets hurt. No, never have treated her like a booty call. I have shown nothing but respect to the time her and I have had. I just cant deliver what she wants.... It doesnt help that she stalkes me on Facebook and myspace. THank god she knows nothing of this site. Better yet, she even had the nerve to say to me yesterday that I talk to my daughter more than her! Just because I was on the phone with my daughter for about a half hour yesterday. That really pushed me over the edge She sounds like drama now 
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So I met a women about 6 months ago. When we met she knew (because I told her on several occassions) that between my job, my daughter, and buying a house my time is quite consumed. With several new projects at work, a limited schedule to my daughter, and going to settle on my house in 3 weeks now I am getting..."Where do I fit in?" "Where is the future for us?" I am going to blow!!!!!!!!!!! You've been seeing her for 6 month's.........and, she still doesn't fit in.........anywhere??????????? Its tough...really tough. I dont feel settled in my life yet with my goals I still have I agree. I dumped a guy about a month ago cause he seemed to busy. |
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You're treating her like a booty call and she knows it. She wants to be bumped up on the list. You don't want to do that. Time to call it quits before somebody gets hurt. No, never have treated her like a booty call. I have shown nothing but respect to the time her and I have had. I just cant deliver what she wants.... It doesnt help that she stalkes me on Facebook and myspace. THank god she knows nothing of this site. Better yet, she even had the nerve to say to me yesterday that I talk to my daughter more than her! Just because I was on the phone with my daughter for about a half hour yesterday. That really pushed me over the edge WOW!!!! Just WOW!!!!!!!! |
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I am going to see within to see my true inner feelings. I told her I needed some space and I am taking time off from her until I move in my house in 3 weeks. If I find myself missing her than I know...If I find myself not missing her than I know even more
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So I met a women about 6 months ago. When we met she knew (because I told her on several occassions) that between my job, my daughter, and buying a house my time is quite consumed. With several new projects at work, a limited schedule to my daughter, and going to settle on my house in 3 weeks now I am getting..."Where do I fit in?" "Where is the future for us?" I am going to blow!!!!!!!!!!! You've been seeing her for 6 month's.........and, she still doesn't fit in.........anywhere??????????? Its tough...really tough. I dont feel settled in my life yet with my goals I still have I agree. I dumped a guy about a month ago cause he seemed to busy. Good for you..You deserve greatness..... |
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I'd have avoided anything with you in the first place with a list given to me like that. She needs to move on. Obviously you haven't been able to give her any time as is. Or have you? Perhaps you HAVE made enough time for her to get close to you in spite of your words and now she is getting more mixed messages. I dunno! But if a man wanted to date me and said those things on the first date, I'd have taken those words seriously and pressed on. I simply wouldn't waste my time on someone who isn't ready for a relationship and had the guts to say so. Casual is the only way to go.
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You're treating her like a booty call and she knows it. She wants to be bumped up on the list. You don't want to do that. Time to call it quits before somebody gets hurt. No, never have treated her like a booty call. I have shown nothing but respect to the time her and I have had. I just cant deliver what she wants.... It doesnt help that she stalkes me on Facebook and myspace. THank god she knows nothing of this site. Better yet, she even had the nerve to say to me yesterday that I talk to my daughter more than her! Just because I was on the phone with my daughter for about a half hour yesterday. That really pushed me over the edge She sounds like drama now
I could go on an on |
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 IF YOU, break it off?
How will you know that THAT was the right choice? SHE, could be everything you ever wanted or needed to find in another woman...? And if you go on THIS WAY,,,she will find another out? So if I was YOU,,,MAKE TIME FOR HER,,,SEE,,,FEEL her heart, and then BOTH OF YOU,,,make THAT decision...... And be GOOD with it,,,, If you two just quit NOW,,,you both will always wonder,,,and later maybe you could find that out, but sometimes,,,LATER,,,never gets another try,wink. This way,,,,NO REGRETS MAN,,,no wonder,no looking back,,,just forwards....  
OH,,,and another thing,,,PLEASE,,make sure if her and your daughter our tight,,,that your daughter fully understands everything and your reasons,,,both reasons,,as she might be very fond of her? |
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Obviously her feelings are more than what you are feeling towards her. Do her a favor and dump her already.
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I'd have avoided anything with you in the first place with a list given to me like that. She needs to move on. Obviously you haven't been able to give her any time as is. Or have you? Perhaps you HAVE made enough time for her to get close to you in spite of your words and now she is getting more mixed messages. I dunno! But if a man wanted to date me and said those things on the first date, I'd have taken those words seriously and pressed on. I simply wouldn't waste my time on someone who isn't ready for a relationship and had the guts to say so. Casual is the only way to go. Cant blame me fore being honest at least. I wish she would have gotten up at least before the water was even served now.... |
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You're treating her like a booty call and she knows it. She wants to be bumped up on the list. You don't want to do that. Time to call it quits before somebody gets hurt. No, never have treated her like a booty call. I have shown nothing but respect to the time her and I have had. I just cant deliver what she wants.... It doesnt help that she stalkes me on Facebook and myspace. THank god she knows nothing of this site. Better yet, she even had the nerve to say to me yesterday that I talk to my daughter more than her! Just because I was on the phone with my daughter for about a half hour yesterday. That really pushed me over the edge She sounds like drama now
I could go on an on I'd say she's getting wrapped a bit too tight. Maybe you misconstrew the "stalking", IDK. Just break it off for the both of you. |
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I think you've answered your own question. Good luck to you!
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IF YOU, break it off?
How will you know that THAT was the right choice? SHE, could be everything you ever wanted or needed to find in another woman...? And if you go on THIS WAY,,,she will find another out? So if I was YOU,,,MAKE TIME FOR HER,,,SEE,,,FEEL her heart, and then BOTH OF YOU,,,make THAT decision...... And be GOOD with it,,,, If you two just quit NOW,,,you both will always wonder,,,and later maybe you could find that out, but sometimes,,,LATER,,,never gets another try,wink. This way,,,,NO REGRETS MAN,,,no wonder,no looking back,,,just forwards....
OH,,,and another thing,,,PLEASE,,make sure if her and your daughter our tight,,,that your daughter fully understands everything and your reasons,,,both reasons,,as she might be very fond of her? Excellent advice...very very good insight. I just dont know when I may be ready? Thats the trouble, my feelings/ambitions have never changed and wont until my goals are met. However hers have grown into more and I just cant meet them. Not sure how this one is going to go... |
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Sounds like you have one of those gals who ignores what you say and just wants to cling on to SOMEONE. Possessive and jealous of your kid? Come on!!! Yeah, you have a lot of undoing to do. A person like that would drive me nuts! I had one guy I barely dated and I forwarded a joke email to everyone on my list. He started WRITING TO MY FRIENDS. Nuts out there.........NUTS!!!!!!
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sounds like you were honest with her in the beginning and she wants more than you can give right now. It's just 2 different lives and schedules not merging right now exactly Life is tough...The Taurus in me is coming out now nothing wrong with us Tauruses. |
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Mon 11/09/09 06:00 PM
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I am going to see within to see my true inner feelings. I told her I needed some space and I am taking time off from her until I move in my house in 3 weeks. If I find myself missing her than I know...If I find myself not missing her than I know even more Are you missing her specificially or just having a person around? From what you have told us, she seems manipulative and pushy (by asking if she can move in). Why is she a good choice for you? |
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I am going to see within to see my true inner feelings. I told her I needed some space and I am taking time off from her until I move in my house in 3 weeks. If I find myself missing her than I know...If I find myself not missing her than I know even more Sounds like you have a good plan. There is always the risk that if you find yourself missing her more than you could have imagined she may have already moved on. But some times those are choices we have to make. The alternatives can be just as bad if not worse. Best of luck to you, with your house and your life.
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So I met a women about 6 months ago. When we met she knew (because I told her on several occassions) that between my job, my daughter, and buying a house my time is quite consumed. With several new projects at work, a limited schedule to my daughter, and going to settle on my house in 3 weeks now I am getting..."Where do I fit in?" "Where is the future for us?" I am going to blow!!!!!!!!!!! You've been seeing her for 6 month's.........and, she still doesn't fit in.........anywhere??????????? Its tough...really tough. I dont feel settled in my life yet with my goals I still have Totally unfair in my view. One assumes we are talking about a grown woman who walked in of her own accord knowing what she was getting into. The proper statement is she should not have entered into this if she wasn't going to be happy with what he told her he had to offer. |
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Just break it off with her
Do what you have to do in your life When your settled and content Then get a girlfriend!
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Ok, lets see if I got this correct. You told a gal that you want to take it slow to work on your house, spend time with your daughter and work and she will have to wait till you are ready. When will that be? When the house is painted, new carpet is installed, cupboards replaced, you change jobs, the raise comes through, the leaves are raked, your daughter graduates high school, college, gets married? When do you make time for you? Because fun for Jim is part of your life also. I can understand your priorities, but whats wrong with maybe having a loving female to help you with your goals?
And I dont know how you define facebook stalking, but maybe she sees that as the only time to talk to you, keep in touch and share a nice moment with you. I shouldnt go there but I did and could be wrong because I am not in your shoes. I just hope you give it some serious thought before you just dump her. Good luck and best wishes. |
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