My ex and I are having a problem being "friends" right now. We just can't seem to co-exist around one another without an argument happening. We stay away from one another, we are happier. I actually hope we can fix this, cause we used to be good friends.

My X and I were trying to stay friends, we just broke up a week ago, and the day after we broke up he was talking to this girl from the comp and she came to his house....im just irritatted right now.........grrrr!!

Chinese Proverb says "Speak softly of your previous choices." I think that is a great wisdom. Especially when children are involved and you move in the same circles.

However it is not realistic that a real friendship can exist after a break up. Not having contact is not necessarily being nasty. It actually is respectful. It allows both people to direct their energy at a reciprocal friendship. Realizeing not having what you are missing rubbed in your face or theirs is just being considerate.

Later, say several years, if everybody has moved on then being more friendly might make sense.

Caring about others is not such a bad thing if you keep it in balance. By keeping this in mind; might help. When you let people trample you it teaches them that it is sometimes allowed and sooner or later they will come up against someone who will fight back and not necessarily in a nice way. If you are nice about teaching people to respect you then you are not only giving yourself a gift you are truely giving them a gift.

I had to stop loveing my ex to stop hateing her. Now we are friends for my sons sake

If I am ever alone with my EX, she thinks I am there for sex.

No thanks !!!!!!

Yes, though sometimes after some time away.

Depends on how badly the breakup went. 2 guys I chat with occassionally, one guy could drop dead and it wouldn't bother me. The others just went their way.

I have put a Gypsy Curse on my ex-spousal unit so I can't go near.

I guess it's possible. For me though, I tend to not want to be friends with my exes. Better for me to pretend they don't exist

My ex and I remain good friends...It's so much easier that way, no drama...It's less energy to get along than not...