hi all, so i have been talking to this guy on msn and txt a few times, he made the initial contact thru an internet dating site, we have never met up as he lives 600km away. He use to live near me, and is finalising things where he is and coming back to finish his study here. We have been sending emails back and forth everyweek, he will send me random emails, just saying hi, or telling me something about work. i would reply.

ok so the problem, the other week i asked if he were talking to anyone else thru internet dating, and he said there were two woman who he has just started talking to. so i came back and asked him what they were like, he mentioned that they were far away but nice to talk to.

than tonight i get this email telling me more about them, one of them he said she was chinese and spoke min english, but was funny, yet the other he says, .....her name is Rhionna, she was the girl i was writing a letter to on saturday. We txt often and speak on the phone most nights. She's funny. smart and independant. She lives in Perth and we have alot in common. I hope to take some time off over xmas and fly over and spend xmas and the new year over there with her in perth. So i guess we'll see what happens there.....

so in saying that, does it mean he isnt interested in me at all? i mean i dont mind so much,if he finds someone who is more campatible with him,thats what happens i guess, but im just not sure how to take it..

I would not take it as an insult, or that he isn't interested in you, it's just that the hormones make men do crazy things sometimes. There is no way that I know of, to put to words the insanity that is the male sex drive.

I would not take it as an insult, or that he isn't interested in you, it's just that the hormones make men do crazy things sometimes. There is no way that I know of, to put to words the insanity that is the male sex drive.


Oh im not taking it as in insult, but am i being put in the 'friend' section never to be anything else, which at the end of the dya is fine, but i would like to know one way or the other..

As for the male mind, im pretty sure that is something that will always remain a mystry.

Maybe he thinks you aren't interested in him, so See's you more as a friend.

I wouldn't say he's not intrested , but intrested with others as well.Personally I'd wait till he moves back to your area.Invest time with your chat,day to day events etc, and keep looking as well.

I would personally reply to his emails when I found time, instead of quickly replying back. He obviously isn't giving you all of his attention to even SEE if the connection was there to pursue anything further. JMHO Don't give someone your full attention if you're not getting it back!

Maybe your reading to much into it

Ask him

"how do you feel about me?"
" where would you like this relationship to go?"


You have to ask to get answers!!