hi all, so i have been talking to this guy on msn and txt a few times, he made the initial contact thru an internet dating site, we have never met up as he lives 600km away. He use to live near me, and is finalising things where he is and coming back to finish his study here. We have been sending emails back and forth everyweek, he will send me random emails, just saying hi, or telling me something about work. i would reply.

ok so the problem, the other week i asked if he were talking to anyone else thru internet dating, and he said there were two woman who he has just started talking to. so i came back and asked him what they were like, he mentioned that they were far away but nice to talk to.

than tonight i get this email telling me more about them, one of them he said she was chinese and spoke min english, but was funny, yet the other he says, .....her name is Rhionna, she was the girl i was writing a letter to on saturday. We txt often and speak on the phone most nights. She's funny. smart and independant. She lives in Perth and we have alot in common. I hope to take some time off over xmas and fly over and spend xmas and the new year over there with her in perth. So i guess we'll see what happens there.....

so in saying that, does it mean he isnt interested in me at all? i mean i dont mind so much,if he finds someone who is more campatible with him,thats what happens i guess, but im just not sure how to take it..

He is by his actions making it clear you are a "friend" and probably never going to be anything but. No big deal ask him to help you in your search. He may well know someone really nice and since he likes you can probably find someone good.

Yeah i kinda figured that might have been the hidden message, and at the end of the day, your right, it's not a big deal, least i tried, and it's one more friend that i didnt have before.

thankyou for helping me.

bianca x

He is telling you that you are a friend. But he is also keeping the lines of communication open with you in case things with the other woman fall through. And, I do not mean this in that he is trying to be an a-hole. He would only be that if he told you things like he was really into you, or that the felt that something could materialize between the two of you. If he were professing love for you, and then mentioned this other woman, then it would show you that he has you on the backburner. Hope that makes sense.

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