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Abracadabra,
Every thinking human with opinions is a hypocrite. Nobody is completely truthful with themselves, so don't beat yourself up. Eventually, I'm sure, you will be honest enough with yourself that you will feel you can be a good parent. |
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I think the title was phrase absolutely wrong, therefore the confusion
here. What I don't understand, without trying to pass judgement, is, that a healthy young woman doesn't want to give childbirth. There is nothing more satisfying than to hold this precious new life in your arms for the first time. |
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invisible wrote:
What I don't understand, without trying to pass judgement, is, that a healthy young woman doesn't want to give childbirth.There is nothing more satisfying than to hold this precious new life in your arms for the first time. ========================================================================================== SpiderCMB replied: Let me help you out here with reasons why "a healthy young woman doesn't want to give childbirth". 1) She's not currently ready for children and she doesn't know if she ever will be. 2) She just doesn't want kids 3) She has an emotional / mental hangup that we aren't aware of. 4) God has moved her to not have children because: a) He wants her to be the adoptive parent of a specific child b) He knows that she can't have children and doesn't want her to experiance the heartbreak of that would occur when she found out. c) He knows that her first pregnancy will kill her and he is saving her for another purpose. I don't see any reason to judge someone, because they don't want children. You choose to not judge people on their lifestyle, religion, beliefs, behavior (if they are your friends) and for many other reasons. Why do you think it is that you can't help but judge a Christian woman who doesn't want children? |
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Spider wrote:
“Every thinking human with opinions is a hypocrite. Nobody is completely truthful with themselves.” Speak for yourself Spider. |
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Spider wrote:
“Every thinking human with opinions is a hypocrite. Nobody is completely truthful with themselves.” Speak for yourself Spider. ========================================================================================= I must be a Jedi. I can feel the whole universe laughing at the arrogance of one small pile of dust. |
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Spider wrote:
“I must be a Jedi. I can feel the whole universe laughing at the arrogance of one small pile of dust.” I love you Spider whoever you are. |
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I assume that comment was towards me, about thinking God does not
condone adoption: I for one never intended for amyone to feel adoption was against God. God is for all to know their parentage. I was merely stating what could be found in the Bible. It wasn't negative, it was showing that adoption should be done knowingly and without secrecy. Adoption according to the word is not as it is today. The question was asked and I gave the best answer I knew how. I am also an adoptive parent. Two boys. Diffrerence with us is; we all know each other. We, all the parents and the children know each other. We have much love all around. Gratitude all around here. I was showing that the church in many cases and the law have taken it in their own hands and given less value to the biological parent, and in keeping the identities away from all, is in my book, questionable. I've seen the pain of some adoptive children from not knowing the circumstance and the identities of their respective biological parent. I find it heartbreaking to see. I am all for adoption; but I wonder if it wouldn't be better for the church and the law to stay out of it and let individuals work out their own ways of handling it? Seems to me that when the church and the law gets involved things go awry.(Did I spell that right?) Kat |
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hey BoredChick...there is nothing wrong with adoption... if that what
you know in your heart to be the best for you.... then go for it.... i believe if you have a lot of love and are willing to share it with anyone .... thats great.... the whole world needs more of it.... |
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Moses found out his heritage by accident,it wasn't intended by the
adoptive mother that he find out.Every child deserves a good home whether you are raised with or without the religion you were born into or are adopted by people who are not your race.Me,I would raise mine to be a good person regardless of anything because I am so sick to death of christian american,afro american,etc. I as an adoptee have found the whereabouts of some of my siblings and my birthmom.It would be nice to see some people who look like me but I know where my people are...here in NH across town. |
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No no no no no no. You misunderstand me.
Moses's mother breast fed him for three months and then let him down the Nile for safekeeping, in hopes that someone would adopt him and raise him as their own. The queen did this. She hired Moses's mom to keep him as a mother would. She found out later who was his real mother was. She kept it from him. But, all the time both women knew who he was, with the blessing of each. The Queen was in fear of letting anyone know who he really was, so protected him for many years. When it came time to protect him once again, she, the Queen, led him to his own mother. PLEASE do not think me against Adoption. I am not. I am for the good of the child. I feel that churches and law need stay out of it. There would be many more happy adoptions if it were to be by the biological and he adopted parents. Of course there are many happy adopted children out there. One would wonder if they knew their own parents whereabouts and heritage if they would be even more happy. Kat |
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Adoption is not against God's will. It is God's will. Society should
take care of the widows, orphans and old folks. But for the grace of God there go I. |
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I believe that also. God is not against adoption. He is however for
blood heritage. For those that cannot raise their own, to have a blood relative to do it. Or at the very least, have them know them. I cannot find where anyone sees it says that here, that God is against adoption. I simply do not see it. If God was against adoption would I have considered it? Probably. It was in the good of the boys, the families as well as me. ADOPTION IS NOT AGAINST GODS WILL...LOVE IS THE WILL OF GOD. |
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Holy cow...I just read a mistake I made earlier. I have three adopted
boys. Big Justin, little Justin, James. My two natural are Jay, and Che. Look at this: two more letter J's, Jerry and Johnathon, lived with me off and on as late as two years ago. They adopted me. I have a lot of boys. I'm a lucky woman. I sure would like to have a girl in my family though. Kat |
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Red and Bl8t the way to avoid judgement and turning this thread into an
argument is not to jump to assumptions. I never said I would neglect a child with a different background. With that said, I alread answered you're question. Next time don't jump into assumptions..you don't know me. You think you do. |
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It amazes me people start an argument about ANYTHING. It could
be a discussion on something as small as atoms, dust and it will turn into a HUGE misunderstanding.. |
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Thankyou Spider you hit it right on the nail! I don't even have to reply
because you broke down exactly how I feel |
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I know this is old... but I was adopted!!! And I'm SOOOO glad I was. I
met my biological parents when I was 14 and they lived such messed up lives that I'm glad I was given to the people I was given to. And it had to be God's Will because my parents had to be in the right place at the right time to get me. My little brother was adopted as well... |
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aww redangel that is beautiful thankyou for sharing.
I now will definitely do adoption in the future |
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I have one by the old fashioned way... and I plan on having one more...
but I want a house full!!! And I feel like there are so many more kids that were in my position that just need love!!! And that's what I want to do.... There's nothing wrong with adoption, and maybe you'll change your mind about the childbirthing process... but as long as you're comfy with it in your heart and you know you're doing the right thing, you'll be okay!!! |
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thankyou red angel..you respect my personal decisions. I will pray on
that when I get there |
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