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Topic: Why does dating have to be such a game?
isaac_dede's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:45 AM
All I have to say is if you are afraid of 'losing' someone after a first date because of games and you are afraid of being yourself then either they aren't the right one....but you confuse me on this a little because you say you are looking for a NSA relationship so why would you worry about possibly making a mistake? I mean you are pretty and I'm sure have no trouble finding a NSA relationshiop but it seems what you really want is more than that but if you are advertisieng NSA but what you really want is a relationship...well you are fishing in the wrong pond and need to be honest with yourself of what you really want

TNLakeLady's photo
Mon 10/26/09 09:02 AM
I see what you are saying..maybe I am..don't know until I try..No experience yet..just don't want to start a full fledged relationship with anyone because it seems to ruin everything..lol..but still want companionship so I won't get lonely..

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Mon 10/26/09 09:07 AM
I personally think NSA can mean alot of things....

countrymike's photo
Mon 10/26/09 09:11 AM
Now let's make up your mind ..companionship or sex...you started this post by using the words "sex" and "slut"...I'll repeat what I said before that you ignore as the truth..
To start I did not bring up the word slut...The lady from the lake did..Slut or slattern is a pejorative term meaning an individual who is sexually promiscuous..If she chooses to be such ,then so be it...But do not chastise me for recognizing it for what it is by definition.
My suggestion is to not wear yourself out before the good man finally meets you...He may frown on your promiscuous activity.But then again you do not care. right so onward we go..

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Mon 10/26/09 09:13 AM
Always has to be a fight.... frustrated

isaac_dede's photo
Mon 10/26/09 09:18 AM

Now let's make up your mind ..companionship or sex...you started this post by using the words "sex" and "slut"...I'll repeat what I said before that you ignore as the truth..
To start I did not bring up the word slut...The lady from the lake did..Slut or slattern is a pejorative term meaning an individual who is sexually promiscuous..If she chooses to be such ,then so be it...But do not chastise me for recognizing it for what it is by definition.
My suggestion is to not wear yourself out before the good man finally meets you...He may frown on your promiscuous activity.But then again you do not care. right so onward we go..

mike

Don't chastise her or she shouldn't chastise you jmo

countrymike's photo
Mon 10/26/09 09:19 AM
Adults discussing morals or the lack of does not make a fight...It is called sharing of ideas or voicing our opinion....We try to learn from others and when I see that done ,the day goes better.
I did not start the post and I do not like being attatcked for my opinion..and my posts are just that ...my opinion...

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Mon 10/26/09 09:29 AM
Your Jedi mind tricks will not work on me.....rant :laughing:

Sorry bad joke... I respect your opinion, just seemed worded a little hostile....

I wasnt personally attacking you, sir...


isaac_dede's photo
Mon 10/26/09 09:35 AM
Edited by isaac_dede on Mon 10/26/09 09:35 AM
...You say you do not like games but you are still married? .oh my my...
Now what we have here is a married (Oh yeah Seperated)woman who says that if a woman wants "it"she is not a slut..(the law calls that adultery not slut)...


...If she wants sex outside of marriage ,then so be it and the terms that go with it...what ever happened to calling it like one sees it...


...A virgin is such and should not be answering to a whore call...agreee or disagree ,English is just that....words that define behavior....


..Slut or slattern is a pejorative term meaning an inividual who is sexually promiscuous..If she choses to be such ,then so be it...But do not chastize me for recognizing it for what it is by definition...


...My suggestion is to not wear yourself out before the good man finally meets you...He may frown on your promiscuous activity.But then again you do not care...


Maybe you do not realize what you are actually saying implying to her but it seems to bear a common tone...I am not attacking you she is new here asking for an opinion for you to judge her and basically all around disrespect her is not acceptable treatment IMO


countrymike's photo
Mon 10/26/09 09:52 AM
Oh my...In no way have I passed judgement and have not shown any preconceived ideas as to what she will do.Let us for a moment look at the original post and then tell me that I am doing anything but sharing a thought or five on her questions.
If there is a label on a shirt that tells you what it is made of ,do you believe it or not..I believe that when a woman goes online to look for companionship and declares that sex without committment is an option (not to be confused with slut),then she has labeled herself...No attack ,just see it in the way it was presented.

scottyoyeah's photo
Wed 11/25/09 02:38 PM

My fist post and I just have a few questions..
I never imagined dating in my 30s would be so much of a game..You go on a date and there is obvious chemistry..you hit it off really well..afterward you go home and its like a competition to see who will call or text first. Everyone is afraid they are going to scare someone off, afraid to say what they feel. If out send a text message longer than 3-5 words it must mean your obsessive. I just like to talk and communicate. .. men seem to flatter themselves too much thinking that if you text them a couple times a day that you are infatuated..lol.. I'm just looking for a really good friendship and not interested in a soulmate at this point.
Also, as far as sex goes..I mean if you want it, you want it..and just because a woman wants it doesn't mean that she is a slut...lol

I believe in being honest and upfront about what you want and hate playing these stupid games..

So answer me this, why is dating such a game?




the part about the phone calls and texts is so correct. i mean my last relationship that my girlfriend would call me and my phones off or something and i call back 5 minutes later and it just rings all the way to the answering machine lol.

SitkaRains's photo
Wed 11/25/09 03:17 PM
I am sorry I have never looked at dating as a game to be played and find out who is the winner.

You state in your opening post that if a woman wants sex she wants sex no big deal.. You are right, I would hold you to the same code I would a guy. I personally wouldn't want a guy that I would have to be worried about how many of his partners are going to be in my bed. I am very picky who I unzip my jeans for. There has to be a lot more than chemistry. In saying that I expect the same from the man I give my body and heart to.


As far as the game of texting and all that other stuff only a game if you chose to make it.

good luck

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