Well I'm sure we all have done it from time to time and had the unexpected happen. Yeah I'm just as guilty thinking that I really knew someone when evidently I did not know them as well as I thought I did.

What did I do I did what most would do for someone you would call a dear friend I loaned him money to get him out of a bind.

Sure he promised to pay me back within 3 days and of course since we had been friends for over 20 years it never crossed my mind he would not do so. Here it is 8 months later he avoids my calls and when I do finally get him on the phone he never mentions the money.

Well the last time I talked to him was about 3 weeks ago and I decided to just bluntly ask him about the money... of course I got more excuses...


It is sad that someone you have been friends with that long would toss a friendship out the window why not come clean and acknowledge they owe it and make the effort to pay it back.

So what actions have happened to you that was the final blow to a friendship that should have never happened........

Do some really take friendships so lightly now days?

YES

Yep, but luckily I'm really good at finding people (ahh, the wonders of the internet). Kind of freaks them out when after two years of not seeing me (since I loaned them that grand to get them out of the bind), but I got my money back...I guess it is easier when you have the 'au naturale' serial killer look going on.

yes i agree also

That sucks Txs and yes it's happened to me as well

Hell but I'm glad because for a measly $20.00 I found out the type of person she was, so of course I came out the winner. Money comes and goes but true friendship cannot be bought.

Ah dear girl, the quickest way to lose a friend is to loan them money. You could forget them and be glad that the amount of the loan is what it took to get rid of them. Or you could forgive the loan, that is if the friendship is more important. Or you could go to small claims court. The court thing sound harsh, but you already lost the friend. Of course you need plenty of evidence that it was a loan. If you ever want to help someone in the future, be sure you start out thinking it's a gift, that way you don't lose the friend if you don't get paid back. Good luck girl.

Fear one thing for sure I have never had a problem tracking others down to where they live as well as where they are working at the time.

Mine was not a grand I loaned him $300 I finally did actually get $125 back from him about 4 months ago of course with more promises he would give me the other back before I left on the cruise for he knew I was counting on that for extra spending money..Well it would have been nice to have the extra but figured I would not get it in time so I had not really counted on it.

Bummer.

I know it's hard to know what to do when people really need money. I loaned somebody $15,000 they really needed.....still haven't seen a dime and it's been 5 years now.

wow....that's too bad to lose a friend for such a small amount of money.

You know though, giving something to someone with the expectation that you're going to get something back kinda defeats the purpose of giving doesn't it? If I give someone something, I do it out of the goodness of my heart, not with any expectations of getting paid back. If I do, that's great, but if not, no big deal.

But I suppose that's just me.

I use a philosphy with money and friends. It works really well.

I NEVER LOAN A FRIEND MONEY, I GIVE IT TO THEM. IF THEY GIVE IT BACK TO ME GREAT BUT IF NOT GREAT.

Do not give a friend any amount of money you need to have back and that way you never have to go through losing their friendship.

Hello

Been there done that. Some people don't realize what there actually doing when they do this. I just wonder how some can live with themselvs. So today, i just done give out what i can't afford to lose.

Hope everything else is ok

We must think alike lol.

Kristi, I am so sorry that happend to you!..


You know, I have had two incidents happen to me like that.

Me being the dummy and softy I am, one of my relatives barrowed a large sum of money from me and I just knew they would pay me back, did I ever see the money, NO. She had the never to tell me she would rather owe it to me the rest of her life then rather beat me out of it.


Not learning from THAT!..Here I go again. A "SO CALLED FRIEND" needed a something. I told that person I would LOAN him the money to get it. Well It was to be paid back in 3 payments. Every other week. Well one excuse right after the other and have I seen one RED cent of that yet? NOPE!..Do you think I ever will? NOPE!!..I tried talking to my friend and kept saying, Oh, I havn't forgetten, I'll pay you back..But, never nothing. Now I have just given up. I know I won't ever see it so this person is NO LONGER my FRIEND.

What a sad way to end a FRIENDSHIP!!!..Relatives you can't end..Friendships it hurts!!..

Ohhhh I hear you this is one that I called my best friend for over 20 years. There had been times he had no place to live I opened my home to him on more then one occasion. Till he was able to get back on his feet.

Sure if he pays me back I will still talk to him but..........will I stick my neck out for him again the door that was once opened to him it seems he has slammed it in my face.....

This is y friends should never ask for money and friends should never give them money.If u still want the friendship with him,then just figure it this way,lesson learned.

Sorry to hear that happened to you. But I was always told never to loan a friend money no matter how long you have known the person, because they wind up not paying it back.

Wow it seems there are alot of "suckers" here. Looks like we all fell for this at one time or another, and will probably do it again. I know I've done it more than once.

Sadly people like these always need help in one form or another. Thankfully I have mastered saying, No, sorry can't help you.

Because even if the amount is $1.00 to like 1956 said $15K, it was loaned out with the expectation of it being repaid.

I've been waiting on some money from one of my bestfriends for over 2 years now... he never mentions it and whenever I do he gives me a small amount of it and goes back to "forgetting" about it. Our friendship is more important than the money so I don't bug him too much, but sheesh $500 isn't really chump change... ya know