At the age of 21 (I'm 20 at the moment but will be 21 soon), what do you think my chances of finding a "pure" girl are? By pure, I mean one that has not had sex or one that has done it only once with somebody she had been with for a very, very long time and thought she was going to get married to. Also, I like a girl who doesn't smoke, drink, or party. I also have to find her attractive, though.

I'm really having a heck of a time... I've been searching for a girl like this pretty much my entire life. I finally met one online a little over three months ago and we hit it off great. Not only did she meet all of my above criteria but our interests matched perfectly (which is rare, I have odd interests), and we'd constantly say the same thing at the same time. Then when we met in-person she stopped liking me. This was very hard for me because I was beginning to lose hope before I met her, and she turned that around. Now I am wondering if an opportunity like this will come by again or if I've just lost the ONLY person who meets my search criteria.

And before you ask, because I know it will be asked: purity is important to me because of three reasons - 1) I am pure, and want a like-minded individual, 2) I think it says a lot about a person's character because it shows that they are strong-willed, 3) If somebody has not had sex before then it means much more to them when they do have it. I think of sex as both a physical, emotional, and mental bonding experience that should only be shared with those you love deeply and want to spend the rest of your life with. I couldn't leave somebody I've had sex with unless under extreme circumstances, because I see it as a bond; but if somebody has already had sex they certainly won't see it this way.

So... what are my chances? Any ideas of places I can look to find the kind of girl I am looking for? Sadly I've searched this site inside and out and only maybe three girls out of the 4000 results I was provided even came close to matching what I was looking for. And the funny thing is eHarmony told me, "You have no matches." My search criteria? The world.

Maybe the kind of girl I am looking for doesn't use dating sites at all, and when using MySpace/Facebook sites they never set themselves as looking for a relationship or dating? Because I don't get much luck searching through MySpace or Facebook for people who are looking for relationships or dating, either.

Slim to none.

that is asking for a lot. you should just like a girl for who she is. not for mistakes she has made in the past.

You might have better luck with really religious women, many of them are "saving themselves for marriage." Have you tried looking at church or some other religious gathering?

Soo...I just noticed you're agnostic. That nixes my earlier suggestion for you. I have no advice, sorry. Good luck though.

sure but you'll end up on MSNBC

I only read the topic.. but.


Sunshine and lollipops.

Join a church group.

Thats ALOT to ask for in a person.
Maybe you should go for Taylor Swift :)

dude it going to be hard to find a woman at your age with their hymen...good luck though i guess

"By pure, I mean one that has not had sex . . . "

Don't go there bro, believe me, I married a girl who had only ever had sex with me. For a year before we got married I had to play the role of teacher. Then 7 years later, human nature kicked in and she started wondering what else is out there and she cheated.

To make a long story short, there is nothing wrong with a girl who has had sex with many different guys. We guys get idolized if we tap many different girls, I think it shouldn't matter "how many" she's had. She knows what's out there already and is obviously content with you if she stays with you.

Fortunately, my ex had to find out what she lost the hard way, as I don't go backwards in a relationship ever.

I think there are many young people who are virgins and not just in the religious community. It is a choice like any other. I doubt it makes anyone superior as a companion. I think putting so much emphasis on one factor is likely to make for a greater chance at being lied to.

Ummmm I don't think you'll find her on a date site..

Most of my dates come from Facebook....Good times

There are girls like that on Mingle

really...hmmmmm

LOL...it's all about attitude! Take it from me

I'm not kidding.




I think Rob the Knob should sign up

Most people don't regard it as a mistake, though, and actively seek it out. If I met a girl who had done it before and she really wishes she hadn't and would be willing to wait for me then I wouldn't hold that against her at all. But most people expect sex in a relationship.



Yeah... Well I actually have considered joining religious groups just to meet girls... but I'd feel bad, because they'd all be there for God and I'd just be there for a relationship - and not the heavenly kind. Maybe I need to try to become religious. I wonder if that would increase my chances. The only reason I'm Agnostic is because I've just never really gone to church because my parents never took me.

actually i have i just haven't been on there for awhile...may have to go back