Awww I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. Yes the words "I do" really do mean something, but it has to mean something to both people. You're right a marriage, a relationship takes two to work things out. Once it becomes one sided, then all is gone. That's great that you were faithful and good to her, hey, her loss. Some lucky lady will come your way.

Hang in there!!

Yeah, didn't work out... she suddenly got the "walking shoes" after a year and a half of marriage... So divorce, here we come lol

But seriously, it's ok. I've learned a lot from the last year and a half of marriage. I've learned that I can't always count on others to keep a promise. I've learned that compromise has to work both ways. I've learned that I can live and love and feel and hurt and be joyous and free. I'm greatful for what I had.

I can't say that I don't feel hurt. I feel betrayed. A marriage can only work if both people want it to work. I know I'm not perfect, but when I said "I will" I meant it. When I said "For better or for worse" I meant it. She walked out on me the second things got rough. She just gave up on the marriage. I didn't cheat, I didn't beat her, I always did my best to love her properly, and she answers me with "I just don't love you the way a wife should love a husband" and left me to try to figure out where things went wrong.

Any advice for a bleeding heart would be welcomed.

Welcome back Squiz. Seems like just last week to me when you announced your engagement

was talking to a friend last night who's girlfriend moved out

we decided "If it ain't there it just ain't there. and you can't make it be there if it ain't"

just chalk it up as a learning experience and keep living

Doesn't it though? lol

Yeah, didn't work out... she suddenly got the "walking shoes" after a year and a half of marriage... So divorce, here we come lol

But seriously, it's ok. I've learned a lot from the last year and a half of marriage. I've learned that I can't always count on others to keep a promise. I've learned that compromise has to work both ways. I've learned that I can live and love and feel and hurt and be joyous and free. I'm greatful for what I had.

I can't say that I don't feel hurt. I feel betrayed. A marriage can only work if both people want it to work. I know I'm not perfect, but when I said "I will" I meant it. When I said "For better or for worse" I meant it. She walked out on me the second things got rough. She just gave up on the marriage. I didn't cheat, I didn't beat her, I always did my best to love her properly, and she answers me with "I just don't love you the way a wife should love a husband" and left me to try to figure out where things went wrong.

Any advice for a bleeding heart would be welcomed.

When you take this kind of emotional hit I would say just try to be gentle with yourself and give it time to heal.

It will feel pretty hollow to hear you are lucky that it only lasted a year and some before your partner owned up to her real feelings. As time goes on and you do find someone who loves you, it will make sense, and you will see what a gift it was; so try not to let the anger fester.

I am not sure misery loves company but already I am sure you see yours is a familiar pain to many and hopefully that takes some of the sting out of it.

Trust takes time to rebuild but making yourself take a first step at it before you get so comfortable in the habit of trusting no one is probably not a bad idea. I am not saying jump into another relationhip but making a few friends who like you for who you are would be a place to start.

Mingle can be a great place to make friends and talk about all sorts of concerns. You can discover a lot about yourself. And many others. Have some laughs. Hope you will stick around and join our community.