What do you do if you think you are with the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with and they stare at other people??? Do you deal with it??? Do the same??? Or just feel like you are being played??? How do you take it???

stare at other people..that would be there looking which is normal for anyone to do. that doesnt mean they would cheat.
even if i was with another guy, and there was a guy that came by me and smiled i would had said hi and look back at him in a glance...

i remember many yrs ago the guy i was with at the time we were in the store and the clerk that we knew was shopping with her husband, you couldnt not stare at him for he was about 7ft tall. he was a giant teddy bear...

but you dont want or need to get jealous, all jealouse does is chase the other person away..

I think what I mean is stare at the good looking ones only. What do you think?? Is that different???

they are not wanting to be with you plan and simple. they are looking around to see what candy is out there for them. us guys do that cause we are never happy with what we have.

Thanks.....nice to hear a guys point of view too!!!!! Just might be the same thing I was thinking.

no it shouldnt even matter who the person is that your staring at..
i have stared at geeks for i have actually met one i was fond of.

i dont belive that. for every guy that i knew expect for my ex hubby. those other guys were not out to cheat...its normal and to me its not a big deal. staring has nothing to do with cheating

When you were with the one that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with???

that would had been yrs ago. but things change and no it had nothing to do with him or me staring at another person

Not all guys are like that! So your guy looks at other women when YOU are w him??! Once I was with my ex gf, and she was looking at another guy...So, I looked at her and said, "Do I need to go talk to him for you? Or, are you good?" Just becuz she looked at him, didnt mean she was going to cheat nor unhappy. I wasnt jealous, she was w me-not him! I would jokingly call him out tho. Just to see what he says! lmao

see there is a guy that agree what i said

I think people have a natural curiosity about other people. Whatever you do, try not to take offence to it. It isn't usually what it seems. I had it a while ago with somebody and I mentioned it and after a bit of talking it came down to the fact that I also look at other people, but I wasn't analysing what I do... just what I noticed her doing.. It is just a curiosity. After all, just because you are with somebody doesn't mean that she/he is supposed to only look at you... Take no notice... AND BY NO MEANS SHOULD YOU START PLAYING HER... because you could end up messing with a good thing you have :-)

I will do just that. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Awesome way to make people think about things!!!! Thank you!!!!

games are 4 kids... all you lil boys that like to play games, grow the F up and be a man and take a good woman seriously like she deserves. Cheaters deserve to be cheated on! And thats my 2cents..

I think,.. see yaa!.. theres a difference between a look, and a glance, and a stare.

I have been with plenty of guys who were intelligent enough to be decent, and not be checking out other women. Looking around at other people goes without saying is normal.


Going out of your way to make eye contact, and hold a stare, and checking someone out, and tryng to get someone elses attention.

Its rude, and unnessasary.

Some men do this to try to make themselves seem more wanted, because they are insecure.

If you arent shopping.. then theres no need to do all this.

I had a man who did this once to spite me. I know its possible to not do this, because I have the ability to be decent, and have been with men who never ever did this.


Does this mean hes going to cheat, or already is?

Who knows? who cares? Its all inappropriate. I dont put up with it, I walk.

sounds to me like insecurity. people are always going to look at another person.so what if they look at another person?its natural.as long as the person youre with doesnt compare you to other people and say why cant you look like that then youre fine

Personally, I find it terribly rude. It's so disrespectful. It show's that the looker doesn't care about your feeling's. To just look is one thing, to stare is. hit the road!