How do u cut someone loose who wont let go? What if they threaten to harm themselves? I care very deeply for this person but I just am not happy and I have ended it but he just wont let go and its becoming so difficult,, I am crying nights because I dont know what to do and I am so stressed, worrying both about his safety and my happiness,,,,,


anyone with similar situation who can give some good advice?

First, regardless of what he does... you aren't responsible for him. he is likely just trying to manipulate you, but you can't know for sure.

Contact someone that is close to him... mother, brother, whatever, and let them know that he's threatened himself.

And then cut him loose. Completely. Break all contact with him. it's probably the only way he will move on.

Do you really want to stay with someone because they guilted you into it? Seriously, I know you feel bad, compassionate people do. So, call one of his friends or relatives, explain the situation and let them help him. His mental health isn't your problem. If he you truly believe he's serious, call 911 and tell them he's threatening to hurt himself and why. They will take him into a hospital for evaluation and treatment. If he's this broken up over a break-up, he more than likely has lots more issues that need addressing.

We dont live in the same place. Last month he made a suicide threat about something else and I did call the police in his area. They went to his home, but they did nothing but ask questions and leave. He has no family close by either. I understand his health is not my responsibility, but the what if factor keeps weighing into my mind. I would be devastated if he went through with it....

I understand that, I would be too. But ultimately, whether he does or doesn't and for whatever reason, it's his choice and his responsibility. He can only assign you blame if you choose to take the blame and responsibility. Seriously, he sounds as if he has other problems, normal people do not commit suicide over a breakup.

Good point..

People who truly want to commit suicide don't advertise- any threat is a call for help- you are not responsible for anything he does- don't allow yourself to be manipulated into staying in any sort of relationship that is unhealthy

as hard hearted as it sounds- you have to cut all ties- its tough love in a way and it sucks but you are going to be miserable- more than you are now if you allow this to continue!!

Good Luck!

Thank you. Seems I am getting the same advice all the way around. Cut the ties however much guilt may come with it. I guess it will pass.

It sounds as like emotional blackmail where as someone knows that you still feel something for then hence try whatever in despiration to hold you or make you feel sorrow or guilt .Its really cruel to be kind in this totally cut all ties maybe after once again stating it clearly that there can not be anything else between you as you no longer feel the same way .You may wish to do upon cell certain cells can anable you to record a conversation in event there's any contradiction if any case of later events that may arise considering you mentioned you may be fearfull for your own saftey aswell .Another step that you might like to take up upon is mentioning to a relative or couple close bit friends as if say worst case came to maybe going to police or court again as you fearing for your saftey you have others that know in and out of what has happened .

Generally people like this are insecure, depressed or loaners or don't have many friends or some other lying situation going on in cases I've known anyway good luck to you .

Ps you demonstrate any weakness he'll see that as a maybe so beware and tgc of yourself .x;-)

Note : as another user states YOU ARE NOT RESPONSABLE FOR ANOTHERS ACTIONS bye for now x