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Ok heres my problem tehes this guy ii been friend widd since we were in high school and hes been there for me through everything thick and thin. And just recently I realized ii have feelings for him as more than a friend and wanna pursue but heres teh thing hes got a girl friend and I dont kno what to do im scared that if ii dont tell him ill end up reuiing our friendship
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Edited by
shoesmonkey
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Wed 09/02/09 11:44 AM
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The guy is straight? Leave him be. Don't mess with his head.( Pun not intended). lol......sorry sorry sorry.
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If he is not gay, I would not tell him because that likely would ruin the friendship.
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thats the ting hes bi but ii dont wanna risk telling him ii have feelings for him when hes got a girlfriend and destroying our friendship but its get harder n harder to deal widd everytime we hangout
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thats the ting hes bi but ii dont wanna risk telling him ii have feelings for him when hes got a girlfriend and destroying our friendship but its get harder n harder to deal widd everytime we hangout |
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thats the ting hes bi but ii dont wanna risk telling him ii have feelings for him when hes got a girlfriend and destroying our friendship but its get harder n harder to deal widd everytime we hangout If it is harder for you emotionally when you 2 hang out...I suggest telling him and letting him go |
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He's got a girlfriend, leave it alone. Tell him nuthin! If perhaps sometime in the distant future they split, then after givin him ample time to grieve the split then tell him. U may need to find other friends to spend time with until ur feelins for him cool down. JMO, live ur life
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Ok heres my problem tehes this guy ii been friend widd since we were in high school and hes been there for me through everything thick and thin. And just recently I realized ii have feelings for him as more than a friend and wanna pursue but heres teh thing hes got a girl friend and I dont kno what to do im scared that if ii dont tell him ill end up reuiing our friendship |
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ughhh ii hate making hard choices like this...
ii mean like ina way ii dont wanna lose a friendship but the more ii dont tell him the more it bothers me and everything but at te same time hes been my bestfriend and has done alot for me and ii dont kno wha ii would do without him round |
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He's got a girlfriend, leave it alone. Tell him nuthin! If perhaps sometime in the distant future they split, then after givin him ample time to grieve the split then tell him. U may need to find other friends to spend time with until ur feelins for him cool down. JMO, live ur life |
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be careful, you may just loose a friend... the more he cares for his girlfriend, the more it could intensify his reaction... this is a difficult situation, I have lost a friend in the past (female) when I told her I was attracted to her - while she was already in a relationship. Be prepared for this if you tell him.
I guess one question that you may consider asking yourself, is it worth the risk of loosing his friendship? |
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Edited by
Gossipmpm
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Wed 09/02/09 11:54 AM
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Don't start trouble
If he leaves his girl then bust a move!!! |
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ughhh ii hate making hard choices like this... ii mean like ina way ii dont wanna lose a friendship but the more ii dont tell him the more it bothers me and everything but at te same time hes been my bestfriend and has done alot for me and ii dont kno wha ii would do without him round |
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Its not worth the risk but at the same widd me having to avoid him like ii am isnt going well hes callin and textin me nonstop he randomly showed up at my house yesterday while ii wsnt home thankfully questionin why ii am not talking to him and ii juss keep ignoring him and realli dont kno wha to do
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Its not worth the risk but at the same widd me having to avoid him like ii am isnt going well hes callin and textin me nonstop he randomly showed up at my house yesterday while ii wsnt home thankfully questionin why ii am not talking to him and ii juss keep ignoring him and realli dont kno wha to do |
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He's got a girlfriend, leave it alone. Tell him nuthin! If perhaps sometime in the distant future they split, then after givin him ample time to grieve the split then tell him. U may need to find other friends to spend time with until ur feelins for him cool down. JMO, live ur life Let me put it to u this way. Do u wanna be know as the skanky homewrecker? Cause u know that's what'll happen if u break em up. U know how folks are. |
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ii guess it cant hurt to try and talk to him about it...Im juss praying that he`1l understand and it wont DESTROY our friendship...And the last thing ii wanna do is break him and his girlfriend up hes happy with her and ii dont wanna take that away from him
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ii guess it cant hurt to try and talk to him about it...Im juss praying that he`1l understand and it wont DESTROY our friendship...And the last thing ii wanna do is break him and his girlfriend up hes happy with her and ii dont wanna take that away from him |
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I am straight and got gay friends. Don't come off as rabid but also don't expect him to take it well either.
The thing is that if he has a GF you are treading dangerous ground! |
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Yea ii kno thats why im so hesitant on trying to talk to him about it...But also at the same point ii cant keep avoiding him like the black plague cause all its doing is causing him to think im pissed at him which im not
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