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Single= Not married. Not dating. Involved= Have a signficant other Married= LEGAL TERM... you are married until the courts say you are not. Separated= MARRIED Divorced= You were married and the courts finally say you're not. Once divorced, you will always be divorced. You can no longer say you are single. Not correctly. I don't date separated people. I don't date married people, and married is separated. Once a person has one relationship resolved and over with... then after a bit they can enter into another one. But no way I'm getting involved with someone that has yet to finish what they started with someone else. Unless they are missing in action, get a divorce. Then date. To do otherwise is usually totally unfair to everyone. I agree with this. I'm not interested in dating anyone who is separated, either. They need to be completely done with their marriage before I'll even consider it. |
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Yep, I agree with Lilith too!
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Single= Not married. Not dating. Involved= Have a signficant other Married= LEGAL TERM... you are married until the courts say you are not. Separated= MARRIED Divorced= You were married and the courts finally say you're not. Once divorced, you will always be divorced. You can no longer say you are single. Not correctly. I don't date separated people. I don't date married people, and married is separated. Once a person has one relationship resolved and over with... then after a bit they can enter into another one. But no way I'm getting involved with someone that has yet to finish what they started with someone else. Unless they are missing in action, get a divorce. Then date. To do otherwise is usually totally unfair to everyone.  I love ya too Lilith good thing huh as we think differently
I say I'm single and we ALL KNOW I'm just recently divorced. I'm single in my eyes, in my heart, not sure why it would bother anyone else what my status is, as everything else is a technicality. 
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Well, I use these guidelines for myself and those I might look at as potential dates. I certainly don't mean it to apply to all. Especially you.
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Well, I use these guidelines for myself and those I might look at as potential dates. I certainly don't mean it to apply to all. Especially you. Great guidelines especially if they work for you. I tend not to date separated men because they are only separated for the night 
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See, now you got it... you and I actually agree then!
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See, now you got it... you and I actually agree then!
Those are liars and there's many of those around. Does not apply to all separated people, honestly did not apply to me and I was separated for over 7 yrs. But again, if it works for you, woohoo. |
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Well, one married guy I went on a date with said he was divorced. He did live apart from his wife, but was really confused when I said he was married. He was like, um, no, I'm separated, but I know I wrote divorced. It just seemed easier.
Easier than telling the truth, I think he meant. |
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Regardless of marital status, there are those liars that f-things up for the rest of us honest people
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Exactamundo.
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I'm still single
 
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How does being legally seperated figure in???.....
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Yep, I agree with Lilith too! Same here. |
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How does being legally seperated figure in???.....
Separated is a LEGAL term, just as divorced is a legal term. You either are or you're not. |
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I struggled with the whole 'separated' thing. Never lied about it, but I knew that it meant many wouldn't want to invest any time in me. I was separated for some time simply because my ex had been a stay at home mom for most of our marriage, had no current marketable skills and therefore wouldn't be able to get health insurance. So we did the 'separated' thing.
I do understand why people don't want to touch 'separated'. Aside from the obvious, there's the mental 'recovery' that you really need to take time for after a marriage and very few people that are separated have had the time to go through that. But it was a struggle for me, being separated, coming out of a marriage with very few friends around me. Heck I just wanted some people to hang out with. So I guess I'm on both sides, but a little sympathetic to those that really are just looking to find a few friends. That's all I was looking for. |
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How does being legally seperated figure in???.....
Separated is a LEGAL term, just as divorced is a legal term. You either are or you're not. Yep! |
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I struggled with the whole 'separated' thing. Never lied about it, but I knew that it meant many wouldn't want to invest any time in me. I was separated for some time simply because my ex had been a stay at home mom for most of our marriage, had no current marketable skills and therefore wouldn't be able to get health insurance. So we did the 'separated' thing. I do understand why people don't want to touch 'separated'. Aside from the obvious, there's the mental 'recovery' that you really need to take time for after a marriage and very few people that are separated have had the time to go through that. But it was a struggle for me, being separated, coming out of a marriage with very few friends around me. Heck I just wanted some people to hang out with. So I guess I'm on both sides, but a little sympathetic to those that really are just looking to find a few friends. That's all I was looking for.  I'll be your friend now and forever
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I struggled with the whole 'separated' thing. Never lied about it, but I knew that it meant many wouldn't want to invest any time in me. I was separated for some time simply because my ex had been a stay at home mom for most of our marriage, had no current marketable skills and therefore wouldn't be able to get health insurance. So we did the 'separated' thing. I do understand why people don't want to touch 'separated'. Aside from the obvious, there's the mental 'recovery' that you really need to take time for after a marriage and very few people that are separated have had the time to go through that. But it was a struggle for me, being separated, coming out of a marriage with very few friends around me. Heck I just wanted some people to hang out with. So I guess I'm on both sides, but a little sympathetic to those that really are just looking to find a few friends. That's all I was looking for. I'll be your friend now and forever
You ARE my friend fran! 
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How does being legally seperated figure in???.....
Separated is a LEGAL term, just as divorced is a legal term. You either are or you're not. A legal seperation is different than just a seperation. The only thing it does not allow is to get remarried. A legal seperation is a contract parting ways. All financial business taken care of. I hate ****ing legal terms..............
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How does being legally seperated figure in???.....
Separated is a LEGAL term, just as divorced is a legal term. You either are or you're not. A legal seperation is different than just a seperation. The only thing it does not allow is to get remarried. A legal seperation is a contract parting ways. All financial business taken care of. I hate ****ing legal terms..............
I believe legal separation is mostly to create a legally enforcable framework for support and visitation. You're still married and can file taxes as such. |
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