Is the constent heartache worth the search? I'm beginning to wonder.

It's not. You're on the losing end of an ugly stick on that one.

I'm armed with a lovely variety of pain meds for the headaches so I prevail in my quest

No not really

For me mingle was just a stepping stone to finding what love really was in the " real" world

Just relax. Take it slow and don't push it

Maybe your looking at and meeting the wrong type

Just go slow

When it comes right down to it...finding that one for you will make all the heartache and headaches worth it.

yes

*sighs contentedly*

Hang in there, bro.

Why does it have to be constant heartache? Everyone isn't going to be
"the one". She's already out there, relax and let it happen.

I always think about that and it's come down to the fact that every guy i've ever had a relationship with blew me off, screwed me over, cheated on me, used me and just treated me like i'm not worth ****.

But then I began thinking, "what do I want?"

You should remind yourself every once in a while of who you want, what you want and what type of person will really make you happy.

When you search for someone you need to compare each and every person with your needs, wants and desires. If they don't fit - don't give them a chance.

Searching may seem like it's not worth the constant heartache, but one day - you never know.

I know what you are saying, just not sure why the ones that move me, are not moved, not in the way I am. I screen the people I am intrested in, not only by looks but by their soul, their personality, and then I see myself sitting here alone yet another day.

When the search hits paydirt...

Tell me if its worth it.

...the only heartache that exist ..is that which you allow...

Then try looking at the people that are moved in the way you are. It sounds to me like you are missing something or not allowing yourself to really understand the type of person you want to be with.

Are you spending long enough with mail. Phone calls

Or are you just asking them to up and move to you!!

Just wondering. Cause this all takes time and effort

I would, but it seems the people that are moved the way I am, are still eluding me.

you just divorced...you haven't been alone all that long.

ive been on here 2 yrs, finally meet someone and she lives 6 hrs away. we make the best of it and its all good. this whole process takes time, you didnt get here overnight

Been alone for 9 months now.

It's all relative, but that probably doesn't seem very long to most people here.

What search?