Sometimes people or myself question, "how did I get myself into this", or " why is this happening and how could I have let this happen to me".There are always signs and symptoms of a bad realationship from every corner. How to avoid them? It is not an easy task but with some effort and time, you could keep your spouse a lot longer than most people.

What not to do in a relationship:

1. If an argument spawns up and both parties of the fence have valid points, DO NOT over exaggerate your point. Learn to be humble and know that when two people argue, it is because they love each other and want to express they're points because they feel the other person might not understand. Which usually boils down to a misunderstanding.

2. Jealousy! This one is usually the cause of breakups and heart aches. If you happen to know what makes your spouse upset or jealous, DO NOT continue to allow something that makes them feel uncomfortable or uneasy. Sometimes it is the little things that can make a person feel insecure. Talk it out and find out why that person feels that way to begin with.

3. Being honest! Plenty of people these days have the habit of telling "white lies". Though it is difficult not to tell a white lie but please do try and tell the entire truth to the best of your ability. This usually causes insecurities, doubts and future arguments. Even telling a single lie can lead to a disaster in the future so it is always best to be honest from the start.

4. Expectations! Oh man, this happens a lot in relationships. Especially when one "thinks" they know what the other is thinking before asking instead. It is always good to express the feelings of one another and talk about what may be a problem that could be causing a bad relationship. Just remember, the person cannot read your mind, so speak up and tell them how you feel. Not everyone is a mind reader :P

5. Last but not least is something that breaks two people apart is the ability to hold grudges. If something wrong appears and it is the bearer of bad news, it is ok t be upset and have space of your own to ventilate. But DO NOT and I would highly suggest that you take "too much" time away from your spouse because not only could time "make the love grow fonder" but it could also mean your giving that sign to not want to repair the issue. Life is short, kiss and make up because sometimes you don't know what you got till it's gone!

Well that is all! Hope this can be useful for those in these type of situations and even for those who have great relationships who could use the touch up. Good luck all! ;)

Thanks for the info.........Are you related to Dr. Ruth?????

It sooo true.....

ESP. On line!!!

cool stuff maynard

Who's Dr. Ruth??? X_X

Dr Ruth: Woman psychologist on TV giving advice to couples on how to have a better relationship

Your points are valid , it would be nice if people followed this advice

dammit!

you waited thirty years and three divorces to tell me?

surely you could sum it all up in one word COMUNICATION

Why So Serious???

those points are absolutely right. Doing any of those is guranteed to make the relationship worse.

All good points! Too bad not everyone follows these!

I agree, that's why it's here for a reason ;)

Let's hope people try to follow them

Better than Dr. Phil giving relationship advice...sorry? How many failed marriages do you have again?

nice one there man.

Haha!!!