my x today sent me a email to tell me to give back all the pants and shirts and stuff that her father gave to me. witch he got from his other daughters kids the did not fit them no more. so it is right to pass down stuff to the younger ones in the family.my x found out that i bought $40 worth of dirt to stop water from cumming into the basement . she now is telling me that she gives me child support for the kid not dirt. so do i tell her off or tell her dad and mom on her or just not even answer the email.ps we were just getting along for the kid for the first time in 4 years after we broke up.oh the mom is bipolar.

Do'nt answer it .

give back the pants to whom???? someone that doesn't want them????

Dont even bother..JMO..Your ex has no right to dictate how c-s is spent..

and tell her mom and dad.

I would just ignore it and what would you "tell" her parents?

You guys are both adults right?

that is what i was thinking is just give them a call. i feel like it is ratting out on her. but she is sick and here mom and dad are well off and they give here money all the time.i wish here mom and dad would not give her money so she could know how hard it is to save a buck nowadays.

But how would telling her parents help anything? Bipolar is a disorder, not a misbehavior to punish.

Maybe I am missing something here.

the mom wants all of the stuff and she only gets the child 4 days a month.now is that crazy or what.my daughter loves the stuff she got from her older cousins.and now she wants to be a Indian giver. omg she is a wild mom

Sounds to me like she's on a rant an perhaps not takin her medication. I'd simply ignore it. Look after urself an the children. She's gotta learn to look after herself. If you tell her parents anything, I'd perhaps tell them you suspect she's not takin her meds. They don't need to be brought into the middle of anything concernin the two of you. But I'm sure they would want to know she's not takin care of herself as she should.

As far as the clothes go. The grandfather gave them to the kids. I wouldn't give the Mom anything back.

She will never know the feeling of Saving A Buck, as long as they are giving her money..It is very hard.Good luck and best wishes, with kids, my little ones dad is Bipolar.
My ex only gets lille one 2 days out of month, too.so I can relate.

when you are bipolar you do things that are off the wall. like when she was with me she spent $35k behind my back. if they are not on the right meds they are a hand full. here mom and dad might be able to talk to here. to here i am the worst thing in the world. so anything i say she goes off. sometimes one needs a 3 party to help. the stuff bipoler pepole do is so wild and so crazy sometimes that it will make you start think you are at wrong. all i know is that i do not want to fight with my x.i dont fight because of the child.it is not fair for the child. that is why i left the mom.

the spending.the mood swings so true...

thank you at least you understand what i go through even after i broke up over 4 years ago.

I understand what bipolar is.

So you were thinking of telling her parents that you suspect she isn't taking her meds?


Got it

I agree with redbean, however, as John may remeber from when I was here before, his ex and mine seem to be molded fromt he same container (and both live in Michigan lol).

I would not agree to telling her parents that you think she is off her meds, as there is no reason to belive so from what you have posted so far.

My ex takes her medicaton every day (she is severe bi-polar and minor schizophrenic), and yet it does not change her attitude nor her general behavior towards me or our children. From what I have seen first hand over the past 7 years or so, is the medicine willn ot stop a person from showing their true colors, so to speak. it will simply stop them from going from depression to mania at the drop of a hat, and vice versa, which is wht the bipolar issue is really about. A bipolar person has no natural middle ground in their emotions, so go from being real desperately sad, to really crazily happy go-lucky , or ogoing from one to ten without hitting all the other numbers in the middle. This causes a LOT of confrontational effects and dangerous habits for the person afflicted by it, thus the medication (when it works) helps to balance their actions out. however, if they are a stingy, cruel and mean person to begin with, they will continue to be so no matter how much medication they take.

thank you some times it is hard in life to do it all alone in this world.that is why i post to get other peoples views.i like to think out what i do before i do it to make sure i do the wright thing.

I know exactly where ur comin from with the Bipolar behavior. I dated someone who is Bipolar. I ended it because he wasn't takin proper care of himself, the erractic behavior, an because my own son is possibly Bipolar an he comes first. We've been over for 9 months now an he'll still occassionally call me wantin to talk. A week ago he called me at 3am. I told him in no uncertain terms never to call me after 9pm ever again. You've got to set down rules with her an stick with them. Tell her this is how it's goin to be. You need to do this not only for yourself but most importantly for your child.

thank you you explained it very good.lots of pepole just dont understand the disorder .my life is lots better now my x only gets the child 94 days a year.she is doing very good in school and pulling As and Bs and now just started to play with dolls at 8. she was so up set over the court fighting that she now is a child again.i am trying to keep the peace in michigan with the x.