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Topic: Dating deal breakers
LisaLuv2's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:46 AM
What are some of your dating deal breakers? Especially with all of us trying to find love online. A picture can only say so much. I recently met someone, fairly attractive guy only issue is his teeth. Although white, they are kinda fighting in his mouth. Should I let this small detail bother me so much....and I know I am not perfect.indifferent

SamaraNJ's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:49 AM
Smoking...


and sorry to say, I am not materialistic.. but I cannot date a man who shows up for the date wearing white plastic velcro bobo's....

There are some things you just can't skimp on...


lilith401's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:50 AM
If you can't stand the thought of getting your tongue caught on his snaggle teeth.... that is understandable. For me, I look at a man's mouth if I am atracted to him and really really bad teeth can be a total turn off.

My dealbreakers:
Gambling
Prison record, or are on probation
Addicts
Religious Christians
MMORPG Freakazoids (more than 4 hours a week)
Dumb, moronic, ignorant or otherwise challenged bigots
People who schedule everything around sporting events

Those are my biggies....

Oh, and I forgot Republicans.

LisaLuv2's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:51 AM
I like a nice smile, it is something that attracts me to the opposite sex.

SamaraNJ's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:51 AM
and I love it when a man has nice teeth.. I hate my teeth :P
but it would depend on the extent of the battle in there.. :)
can you picture running your tongue over those teeth when you kiss him? I think that would be the answer there...

lilith401's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:51 AM
What is a bobo?

SamaraNJ's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:51 AM

If you can't stand the thought of getting your tongue caught on his snaggle teeth.... that is understandable. For me, I look at a man's mouth if I am atracted to him and really really bad teeth can be a total turn off.

My dealbreakers:
Gambling
Prison record, or are on probation
Addicts
Religious Christians
MMORPG Freakazoids (more than 4 hours a week)
Dumb, moronic, ignorant or otherwise challenged bigots
People who schedule everything around sporting events

Those are my biggies....

Oh, and I forgot Republicans.


Ditto on the first line...

silly's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:52 AM
Edited by silly on Mon 08/17/09 09:56 AM
cursing all the time.smoking.addits,been in prison,or drunks,abuse.

no photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:53 AM
his teeth? how shallow is that?

SamaraNJ's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:53 AM

What is a bobo?
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**sing with me those who know****

bobos'.. they cost a dollar ninety nine
bobos... they make your feet feel fine..


bobo's are no name generic sneakers...

which really the bobo keds are cute...
but a man with white plastic ones that use velcro instead of laces.. is a little bit of a turn off

LisaLuv2's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:53 AM
well I am not really a run my tongue along there teeth type of girl lol....he kissed me lastnight, I tried so hard not to think about the war in his mouth

Eddiemma's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:54 AM
If that detail bothers you now it probably won't get better later... unless that is he has cosmetic reconstructing or caps put in...

I would have to say bad higiene, constantly belittling others and swearing to much while we are out in public are deal breakers for me..

LisaLuv2's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:55 AM
yeah his teeth, it is not shallow. It is a matter of attraction.

LisaLuv2's photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:56 AM

If that detail bothers you now it probably won't get better later... unless that is he has cosmetic reconstructing or caps put in...

I would have to say bad higiene, constantly belittling others and swearing to much while we are out in public are deal breakers for me..


I had braces when I was 26-27....I thought of mentioning it, cause I can tell he is shy about them

no photo
Mon 08/17/09 09:58 AM

yeah his teeth, it is not shallow. It is a matter of attraction.


it is very shallow, minor details like that are fixable, anyway ur clearly not 'attracted' to him in the 1st place or it wouldn't be an issue so move on but no need to be cruel about his teeth!

Ladylid2012's photo
Mon 08/17/09 10:00 AM
meanness, rude to people, judging others, arrogance, no spiritual interests...
I can work with everything else, we all have a past and quirks.

anthsm22's photo
Mon 08/17/09 10:01 AM
I had a date last night with a lady from POF.(plenty of fish). She had a great personality, really. But the breath coming off of those teeth all snarred together and upside down, couldnt get passed that. Im not perfect by any means, but couldnt get passed the dying tooth breath.

kidrhodes7877's photo
Mon 08/17/09 10:04 AM
Here are my deal breakers....

1) Cursing too much. A lady who cusses like a sailor just isn't pleasant to talk to.
2) Politics. I don't care if someone is a Republican or Democrat, but too much one way or the other, either way, is bad. Nobody is a centrist anymore I suppose.
3) Self-esteem. We all have issues. I get it. But when someone is so down on herself that she simply cannot accept a compliment, then she really has no business dating.
4) Drugs. I don't care is someone is a social drinker, or even a smoker, or if they even partake in a little 420 on occassion, but coke, heroine, pills, daily pot use - I'm not interested.
5) Disrespectful people. Enough said on that.
6) Women who move too fast. I'm not a prude or anything, and I'm all for sexually liberated women. But if you start talking sex to me right away, I'm going to get turned off, not on.
7) People who don't respect other people's cultures. I once dated a woman that I really liked. One day she made her feelings about southerners clear. "A bunch of racist, sexist, redneck trash". Um, I happen to be southern! I dumped her immediately.
8) Religion. I've never asked a girl to adopt my religious beliefs, but I've been asked a dozen times to change my views to match theirs. Um, no!
9) Women who claim to want what they don't want. When a woman claims to want a nice guy, someone with class, someone who will respect them, someone with a good job, etc., and they're describing me to a T, and then I contact them and they said they're not interested because I'm blonde, or something else stupid like that. Say what you mean and mean what you say!
10) STUPID PEOPLE!!!!

lilith401's photo
Mon 08/17/09 10:04 AM


yeah his teeth, it is not shallow. It is a matter of attraction.


it is very shallow, minor details like that are fixable, anyway ur clearly not 'attracted' to him in the 1st place or it wouldn't be an issue so move on but no need to be cruel about his teeth!


We cannot help what gets our mojo flowing. Can you? Would you date a woman who had a physical issue that made you ill? Even if it was "fixable"?

This lady is not at all being cruel. She's being honest and asking for feedback. If she was cruel, she wouldn't have mentioned it the way she did. Why are you attacking her?

Eddiemma's photo
Mon 08/17/09 10:04 AM

yeah his teeth, it is not shallow. It is a matter of attraction.


I agree... It's your life you shouldn't feel forced to be attracted to someone by a quilt trip of others stating you are shallow.
It's one thing if you wouldn't be his friend because he has bad teeth... (that's kind of shallow)
It's anouther thing to be romantically involved, dating and kissing him... (that is your preference and shouldn't be ridiculed)biggrin

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