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Ok so my friend just told me that her boyfriend of a year is going on vacation in December right after christmas, without her! They live in seprate states and he goes and sees her for 3 days every 2 months. He hasnt been planning this for a while, it was just something he decided to do! She wanted him to just use the vacation to come see her and spend the holidays with her, but he said no. I think its kind of fishy, do you? I told her but she's in love and supposedly he is too, he's told her he wants to marry her someday! But seriously who does that? Idk, its on her I guess, but I just cant wrap my head around it, ya know!
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Ok so my friend just told me that her boyfriend of a year is going on vacation in December right after christmas, without her! They live in seprate states and he goes and sees her for 3 days every 2 months. He hasnt been planning this for a while, it was just something he decided to do! She wanted him to just use the vacation to come see her and spend the holidays with her, but he said no. I think its kind of fishy, do you? I told her but she's in love and supposedly he is too, he's told her he wants to marry her someday! But seriously who does that? Idk, its on her I guess, but I just cant wrap my head around it, ya know! After reading this...it sounded sooooo fishy to me...I had the urge to go get my tackle-box, reel, and some bait...go go down by the riverside! Good luck with your friend..."love IS blind"! 
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How many trips is she making to see him? Can she pay her own way on the vacation?
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Um.... yes. It is odd. Even if there is no other woman involved the fact that he is taking time without her, over Christmas, says his relationship with her is not that important.
It is what it is. |
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Edited by
Quietman_2009
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Tue 08/11/09 09:37 AM
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I don't make judgments on other people's relationships based on what other people not in the relationship tell me about it
I don't have enough reliable nformation to make a judgment and I figure its no one's place to make a judgment who isnt actually in the relationship |
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Ok so my friend just told me that her boyfriend of a year is going on vacation in December right after christmas, without her! They live in seprate states and he goes and sees her for 3 days every 2 months. He hasnt been planning this for a while, it was just something he decided to do! She wanted him to just use the vacation to come see her and spend the holidays with her, but he said no. I think its kind of fishy, do you? I told her but she's in love and supposedly he is too, he's told her he wants to marry her someday! But seriously who does that? Idk, its on her I guess, but I just cant wrap my head around it, ya know!  Time for your friend to get a new boyfriend
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I don't make judgments on other people's relationships based on what other people not in the relationship tell me about it I don't have enough reliable nformation to make a judgment and I figure its no one's place to make a judgment who isnt actually in the relationship Yep! Great prespective. Definately don't have all the information. |
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The picture being painted here is not clear. Different things work for different people. An outside view of any relationship makes it look "fishy". He may be the one who is making the most effort but you are hearing only one side of the story. There is no way to honestly evaluate "marriage" intentions. You cannot see into his heart.
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Edited by
Quietman_2009
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Tue 08/11/09 09:47 AM
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Ok so my friend just told me that her boyfriend of a year is going on vacation in December right after christmas, without her! They live in seprate states and he goes and sees her for 3 days every 2 months. He hasnt been planning this for a while, it was just something he decided to do! She wanted him to just use the vacation to come see her and spend the holidays with her, but he said no. I think its kind of fishy, do you? I told her but she's in love and supposedly he is too, he's told her he wants to marry her someday! But seriously who does that? Idk, its on her I guess, but I just cant wrap my head around it, ya know! who knows maybe he is going fishing with the guys maybe he is going to see his grandmother maybe a lot of things sounds like she doesnt have a problem with it but that you do. are you trying to influence her against him? |
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Ok so my friend just told me that her boyfriend of a year is going on vacation in December right after christmas, without her! They live in seprate states and he goes and sees her for 3 days every 2 months. He hasnt been planning this for a while, it was just something he decided to do! She wanted him to just use the vacation to come see her and spend the holidays with her, but he said no. I think its kind of fishy, do you? I told her but she's in love and supposedly he is too, he's told her he wants to marry her someday! But seriously who does that? Idk, its on her I guess, but I just cant wrap my head around it, ya know! who knows maybe he is going fishing with the guys maybe he is going to see his grandmother maybe a lot of things sounds like she doesnt have a problem with it but that you do. are you trying to influence her against him? Maybe he will see her at Christmas and then go on vacation.... maybe he has been saving for this vacation for a while. If he is committed to coming to see her 3 days out of the month and he fufills this with her, where is he wrong to go on vacation and not spend his vacation time with her. There is nothing wrong with couples spending time apart... regardless of the type of relationship. |
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If my BF went away over the holidays and he knew I wanted to see him I'd be sad.
If I had a BF, that is. |
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I can't make a call on this one since I don't know the whole story. Is he going to be spending time with family??? or maybe friends that he doesn't get to see often??? he actually gave her plenty of notice about it
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I don't make judgments on other people's relationships based on what other people not in the relationship tell me about it I don't have enough reliable nformation to make a judgment and I figure its no one's place to make a judgment who isnt actually in the relationship Well said, anyway I don't see the problem. |
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He is going alone, and all the other vacations he's takin previously were on singles cruises! hes goin to australia, no family! And I am in NO way shape or form influencing any decisions she makes, thats on her! Hes a nice guy, but idk! She doesnt go see him cuz she works 5 days a week no time off, hes a firefighter and only works 2 days a week! I just wanted to see if others thought what I did!
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I would take a trip by myself. No problem with me, but there has to be complete trust in the relationship for that to work.
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I would take a trip by myself. No problem with me, but there has to be complete trust in the relationship for that to work. Exactly what I would do 
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I stay out of others couples biz!!
It's safe that way!! No drama!! 
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Not enough info, though first impression says bad news especially being around the holidays. Personally speaking when I'm in love and that far apart, I would have to go see my woman. So doesn't look good so far
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perhaps he always wanted to visit Australia and he is tired of visiting her
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You guys all make very good points! Thanks!
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