ok so there is this guy that works at the gym i go to. i really like
him and he likes me. how i kno that is bc he asked me out. well i am
leaving in a month for college far away and now that he knows he is
really holding back. he just wants to stay friends but i don't. i kno
he likes me as more than a friend but bc i am leaving soon he won't get
into a relationship with me. what should i do? i really like him. he
is different than other guys i have dated.

Are you going to a college out of state or something?

All you can do really is try to convince him that things will work out.
I do know the first year adapting to college is tough. There are many
obligations with school projects, presentations, essay and research
paper. Also, if you're a party person or really busy person in
extracurricular activities that's another thing

If it's long distance and you think you can balance school with work..go
for it. If not, they will be other guys on campus.

perhaps he prefers to have someone closer to him,maybe distance

is'nt his thing- ask him...

i would sleep with him.if he sux in the sack then you wont feel so bad
about his backing off.

maybe u dont like him as much as u think he likes u? yea if u dont want
to see him tell him no dont play games with his heart....

Why can't you ask the one person who could answer this question honestly
and sincerely?


Just a thought?

Maybe he knows better about himself, that he should not get in a serious
relationship w/someone who is not going to be close by. Maybe the timing
just is not right w/you and this guy. But, ask him. He might be glad you
brought it up.

Cute wrote:
“i would sleep with him.if he sux in the sack then you wont feel so bad
about his backing off”

What does she do if he’s really great?

Change her college plans?

(ha ha)

no but at least she'll have a smile on her face

If you are leaving for college, go for it. You need to think of your
future right now and, who knows . . . you may graduate college as an
attorney, and he's still working in the gym. Give it more time.

Smart guy, starting a relationship with a girl who is going away to
college can be a big problem. Stings on your hearts, lost love, all the
frustration of distance.

Talk him into moving with you if you really like him.

Let it go.You are leaving,save yourself all that long distance
worrying,and trust me you will. But it's up to you in the
end Good Luck

People move so quickly in relationships now-a-days. What's the rush?
Honestly, how long have you known him? Ultimately, isn't the "mate" that
you keep for life not just a lover, but a best friend as well? Be
friends, get to know each other. It takes a lifetime to truly know
someone - and its an impossibility to completely know anyone. Enjoy the
friendship, if it's worth having, you'll maintain the friendship and
maybe even find that you ARE compatible. If not, worst case is that you
know, which puts you ahead. The other alternative is that you don't work
as a couple, but as a couple of friends, you work fine.

You need to respect his feelings. It is not fair of you to expect him
to commit to a relationship when you are about to leave so soon.

For now, stay friends. Take more time to get to know one another
through mail, e-mail, and the telephone. Once you are done w/ school
or back for summer break, then maybe you to would have known each other
well enough to become more than friends.

You know Luv, a BJ might go a long way in changing his mind