I have this on my refrigerator:

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.



They come through you but not from you,



And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.



You may give them your love but not your thoughts.



For they have their own thoughts.



You may house their bodies but not their souls,



For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.



You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you,



For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.



You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.



The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends with you His might that His arrows might go swift and far.



Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;



For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.



Kahlil Gibran

That's lovely, MM!

so, your daughter has only really had this one dating/boyfriend experience to judge this to be the only one...(good grief)

and she has not dated anyone else through college or spread her
wings, to meet new people and experience what they can bring to
her life... with out so and so hovering in the wings...?

this is the time she should be experimenting with many ideals, goals, aspirations, MEN, living free and unencumbered from what society expects
her to live...

graduate high school
date boy
still date boy in college
graduate then marry
have kids... (rolling eyes)

jeesse.. don't pat your self on the back to much...
where was the support from the mom, to tell her to
try new things in life??? and encourage her?

sounds to me, like your settling for whats seems to be always there
perhaps she is too..

is HE the the perfect man for your daughter??
heck she does not know! nor do you...
she has no experience to back that up...
and you seem to have no experience judging from
an adult angle looking after her kid...one guy.. (shaking head)

hope, she doesn't marry and have kids quick...
i see divorce..if she isn't allowed to feel NOT GUILTY
to be free in her young adulthood for a little while..

why is it parents always feel they did a good job
if they like the boy or girl and your kid is married?

we have the ability to LIVE longer so there fore be able
to EXPERIENCE more in our young adulthood before tieing the
knot and babies then taxes ect...BILLS ugggh

you might want to ask her on the side, SOON
have you ever even just a little, wish you were free from
so and so... so you could go on a singles adventure sport
trip and learn to river raft..ect... or go to europe?

ever???

and if she says YES...
now you know...

nothin but respect sent yur way .!!! cheers hun.!!