this message is from a friend. she is getting rid of her myspace all because this guy isn't confident enough.. she is a gorgeous woman, very smart. only thing wrong with her is that she is very shy. she has alot of confidence in herself and loves herself for who she is. she is also a mother of 2.. seems to me he has no confidences, so please tell me how the hell he got a new girlfriend and i can't?? when people have told me to be 100% confident to get a girl. what is a lie and what is the truth?



((((Well im leaving cuz the guy im gonna be datin feels more secure if im not on here talkin to guys i guess, so im doing it for him. I dont even know if its gonna work yet...))))

Why don't you ask her?

sorry, I don't understand the problem.


some people are just not secure in themselves and she wants to give the relationship a shot.

Why are you comparing yourself to him? (he got a girl but not me)
Maybe you're trying to hard?

because i been told many times by a thousand people to be confident. this guy isn;t and gets the girl anyway. sooo which is the right path? confident or not confident. did anyone read what i wrote?

i did, must wait for the reply... she's been single a while due to her shines. but even she has told me a confident guy is best then she flipps it and wants a non confident guy. i wonder what happen to her in the last day..

confidence is sexy but what matters most is the whole package.

good luck

and i don't need to try hard. someone wants me, just i can't get to her because just my rotten luck she lives on the other side of the country and i'm to poor right now for a plane ticket. or a train ticket.

you say you have been told 1,000 times your not confident..now sounds as though your trying to hard. Just relax, be your self. Meditate...

Shy women, with less confidence tend to fall for insecure manipulators. Seems like your gf there fell for whatever bullshyt he gave her or she's using him as an excuse to get rid of her myspace account.

IMHO

I think this is damn crazy!!!

okay i still do not understand.

what do women want? a confident guy or a less confident guy?

doesn't matter if she is shy or not, confident or not. i been told by women of all ages and races that every woman wants a confident guy. doesnt matter what he looks like as long as he is confident with himself. so come on now tell me which one gets the girl?? because my friend went for the less confident guy!

its not any one specific thing or quality but the whole package

my whole package isn't all that good. i was told confidence is key to grabbing a womans attention. now i'm not so sure.

hoped up out da bed turned my swag on

thats funny lol.

Do you personally know the guy she is interested in?

He may be confident. He just might feel that if they have entered into a serious relationship that it isn't necessary for her to be online.

I have to agree on that.

Wear the right shoes, get the right watch, act like you got money, not confidence.

You will have fluffy cottontails flocking around you!

You're confusing 'confident' with 'controlling', although the two have a lot to do with each other.

He likely has projected confidence... enough to get her attention. But because he is not truly confident he is also controlling. Having her cancel her myspace is his way of keeping her from getting away. I bet this isn't the first or last thing he will be trying to regulate.