I've been back in the dating scene for a few months now from a 4 year relationship with a girl I believe I wasted 4 years on, but nevermind with that. I've been trying to get into a relationship with a girl thats down to earth, pretty(but doesnt have to be like a gorgeous top 10 model or whatever), has goals in her life, sort of independent, by that meaning shes independent but not to the point that she doesnt accept help, and has some sarcasm, when you really think about it thats not that much to ask for, and yet I keep getting either turned down, or just ignored by people on here and people in every day life, and its not like im going up to the girls saying hey will you be my wife, or will you have sex with me? I mean I just dont understand how this works... Why is it that when a nice guys asks a girl how she is doing, the girl takes it offensively...? I just dont get it, am I doing anything wrong here? Is it that im trying too hard? Is it that im too caring of a person? Or is it my looks? I know my pictures show im not exactly the most attractive with the hairy chest but thats why I put that picture there to make sure that its known before something happens where I go on a date and the girls like "oh, your hairy, nasty" (which has happened before.) I know it takes time, but nowhere in my profile does it say i have patience lol jk. Sometimes I just get so down that I think I should just become a manwhore and screw all the girls over but thats just not me. I just wanna meet a girl, someone to help me feel like im cared about is all =\. Anyone got any ideas? Or even just care to chat?

Well, you still have a lot of living to do. Kudos for being a decent guy. Some girls don't trust guys online. Truth. But other girls won't mind chatting with a guy that sends a nice message. You just haven't messaged the right girl. But remember, don't spend most of your time searching for that girl. Get yourself...your life in order first. And join in the forums! You will meet plenty of members. You may even find someone to your liking. Best wishes to ya!

I can only tell you what I have experienced in life. There is something about a person's aura or whatever you want to call it when they are eager or anxious or excited about something. Sometimes this aura can put somebody off. I don't know why, it just seems to. About the time you aren't thinking about a girl and you run to the corner store in your slippers, zoo breath and a weird t-shirt THAT'S when you will run into that special somebody! Mark my words on this. Relax, forget about it, be yourself to everybody you run into and it will happen.

You are trying too hard Stop "trying" and just be yourself

My suggestion would be to post in these message boards more. That is how almost all of us got to know one another. Good luck.

Relax... your still your still young, time is on your side.
And spending 4 years with a person can never be a waste... there must be something you learned from it.

My Bro, Be yourself!!! Dont change!!! Some girls like chest hair! lol. Seriously.... Be You!!! Be confident!! You will find someone!!!

Man up.Quit B!tching

Stop whining. Go to where the women are. Relax. Don't act stupid. Be friendly. Something will happen.