Ok, How about i start with this.

Me and my girl have been dating since Feb of 08... So about a year and a half... We've had our ups and downs like every couple but i loved her with all of my heart... Well almost 2 weeks ago now this is wut happened...

Me and her where hanging around the house (my sisters house bc she was letting us stay with her for a little while) tryin to get **** together... Well my sister wanted us out by the weekend so we had to find a place to stay. Neither one of us had a job at the time bc there was really no jobs to get. So we didnt really have anywhere to go but we usually figure something out. Well it was around Noonish and she said she's gonna go put in a couple applications... she also said she would be back around 3-4pm. Well she left and didnt come back till 10am the next day with 2 small hickies on her neck... She said she went to her aunts house and her Aunt wanted her to move in with her for a while. Well i told her that if she moved in with her aunt that we couldnt be together bc i would most likely be moving out of town bc i have nowhere to stay in the town i live in. Well we where talking about it all day. (I let the hickies on her neck go for the time being) Finally i said "Lets just go to sleep and we'll talk about it in the morning." she said ok and we went to sleep...

When i woke up the next morning... She was gone with all of her stuff... My Brother in-law said she was being really quiet and packing her stuff while i was sleeping so not to wake me... then she snuck out when he left the room... Its been almost 2 weeks and i haven't seen or talked to her since... I cant stop thinking about if she's ok, where she is, or if she even cares.

If you took the time to read all of this... can u please give me some advise? I really need it.

Yep. Firstly, I'm sorry you are hurt. Let her go. Clearly she's been doing things she should not have been until she ended things with you first. Focus on you, finding a job and a place to stay.

All of that is already taken care of. I now have 2 Full time jobs and my own appt. but i still cant help but think bout her. I kno she cheated... and i kno i shouldnt be worried bout her... but i still love her and i still care.

Couldn't have said it better Connie!

You will get over that once the anger of what she did sets in. Don't want to be with someone who doesn't care more about you and for your feelings.

Time to move on. Maybe getting out of town is exactly what you need...

Then that obviously makes YOU the better person! Congrats and be glad she is out of your life. You cannot move on until you forget about her....

hookers are cheaper....

Simply put, that sux! I'd never have let the love marks on her neck go. But how to move on - that sux too, but it just takes time. Fill your days with looking for a job, hanging with friends / family - just keep busy.

This type of stuff always happens to me with girls. I'm a very nice guy and obviously u can tell i have a sensative side. im the guy every girl "SAYS" they want. but they really dont.

I understand you feel that way now. But you are just 21. There is a lot of life left to live and many people that have not crossed your path yet. Hang on to your caring/sensitive side. Just give it Only to the one deserving of it.

At least she didn't break up with you via email (see 'Dear Joan'Thread). be seeing you

She bounced like a bad check homie ....


sounds like she did you a favor

I've had that happen before too. with the only other girl i ever really loved. after 2 years. ****in myspace

Not knowing and not hearing from them is the worst. I went thru this over and over with my ex. It's pretty gut wrenching. I'm so sorry you're dealing with it.
Basically she's a coawrd. Physically she's fine. She hasn't been kidnapped or in the hospital. She just simply left and was to cowardly to tell you to your face.
As much as it hurts, this isn't the type of person you want to spend your life with.
You two were in the middle of a crisis and she just bailed. That should piss you off and remind you that next time another crisis comes up... she'll bail again.

my bf of a year and a half broke up with me via text message...
over and over again he would do the same crap. Disappear without a word and then poof! Here he is. I can't and won't deal with it anymore. As much as it hurts for him to be gone... it hurt more when he was here.

thats VERY true. i didnt have to be in that situation. the only reason why i was, was bc i sacrificed alot to be with her... bc i loved her... and she couldnt sacrifice to bc with me? That shows where her heart really was.

but... no matter how much i try to be mad at her. i still miss her. just as i typed "i still miss her" my eyes waterd up... EFFIN A!

Her heart wasn't with you. As much as that sucks to hear I know. Going thru it myself. What she did was very selfish.

I want to be so pissed at my ex. I am so pissed at him. I mean super pissed! But... I love him so damn much I still cry all the time when I think about him...