I has occurred to me that the power and beauty of living in the information age
is a two edged sword. Being here on Mingle has been for me the equivalent of walking through a superstore of every type of lover imaginable, all on display
and ready for our inspection.
what then do we do when we all at once come across that one person- the one that stops us dead in our tracks, the one that makes our heart jump, when we realize that the price we might have to pay might be far too much than we are able?
I suppose that I must at once check myself- examine my motives for being in what turns out to be the wrong section- I mean after all, would it be wiser for me to limit (God I hate that word) myself to those that are easily accessible?
Being intelligent I was told means choosing the best- not only over the worst, but also over the second best. I believe that there is no other perfect for me than the one I choose- regardless of aggravating of mitigating circumstances.
When faced with limits- in any respect- my natural response is to exceed those limits, for I remember that my entire life has been just that- a series of successes over the gravity of this thing called life.
So wherever you are my love make your light shine.... and I will find you.
and then we will fly.

Clean up on aisle 6. be seeing you

Thing is, not everybody on here is looking for love, some r just looking for friends, participating in forums, killing time etc.

The minute ppl get in a mindset that they r consciously "looking" for a mate, seems to be when it doesnt happen imo.

I think ppl put way too much energy in to finding a love interest....wat will be will be, no point in pushing it.

although I agree that love has a mind of its own, the thought of what will be will be seems nihilistic. Everything that is has become because of will.
I know how communities are- I also know that what I read in the profiles of women here. I know there are many reasons a person might
enter this community, I suppose that if they didn't say they were looking for love, I wouldn't be writing this...

I dont agree with that at all.

When i met Dan, we were on another site, and we were good friends for the first yr. I wasnt looking for romance at all, it was after a group meet up that our friendship evolved into a romantic love.

I didnt will it to happen, and none of us planned it, it just happened very naturally, which is the way it should be imo.

I believe there is no such thing as best over worst or second best. Everybody has strengths and weakness'. Personalities are as diverse and plentiful as grains of sand on a beach. What we do is form friendships and when we form a friendship with someone who has a personality and intellect that compliments our own we start feeling an attraction toward that person. It's not something you can fake or force to happen, it's chemistry. As time goes by and we see more and more each day that we have a connection with someone that connection grows stronger until one day long after it's happened you realise "Wow, I'm in love."

On the flip side and this is the rub,
You don't even have to have contact for this to happen and this is where the internet plays into it. You could be following someones' posts and by reading what they say start thinking you have a feel for what and who they are. After a while you start feeling a connection to that person but, you will only go further if you initiate direct contact.

Think I drifted a bit from the O.P.'s intention but, you get me point I hope.

I don't think there is just "one" person. Perhaps what stage you are at in life is what determines who that "one" person is. IMO, it varies, and evolves, throughout your life. Just enjoy the ride.

My problem with this (as far as the internet). It takes soooooooo darn long.

Not having the presence of the essence that is a person as quickly as one can in physical range.

Internet is a binary interface... Takes a long time for essence to filter through that.

Sooner or later though, you willed to be close.
Will is the same force that caused creation
and yes the will came upon you it had nothing to do with your
intent.

You should get into math...that is always a bubble burster in dating.