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you say hes 54. i think maybe mid life crisis that all men go thru
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He's a player. Dump him.
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Fri 07/17/09 02:47 PM
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He's a player. Dump him. I disagree on that point. A player will not tell you he/she wants to date other people. They do it behind your back and try to sweet talk you into a comfort zone. He just doesn't want to settle down and there is nothing wrong with that! It sounds as though he has strong feelings for you but he is not ready. |
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MelodyGirl that is what I need to hear. Thank you.. its been so long since I felt this way about someone - especially so damn fast that I'm scared to death. He is really a special person and I don't want to screw it up with jealousy and other crap!  Don't overthink it
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He's a player. Dump him. I disagree on that point. A player will not tell you he/she wants to date other people. They do it behind your back and try to sweet talk you into a comfort zone. He just doesn't want to settle down and there is nothing wrong with that! It sounds as though he has strong feelings for you but he is not ready. |
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He's a player. Dump him. I disagree on that point. A player will not tell you he/she wants to date other people. They do it behind your back and try to sweet talk you into a comfort zone. He just doesn't want to settle down and there is nothing wrong with that! It sounds as though he has strong feelings for you but he is not ready.  I agree
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Yes he is a big player. You're better than that. Find a new man that love you and only you. Throw him away
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I don't know for sure... My bf just confessed he's still in love with his ex and thats why we broke it off.
Sooo... I'm here to tell you, if he's not ready to commit, then he's just not ready. Go about your life and don't always be available to him. It's more attractive when he's chasing you down. I know, I know. Sounds stupid and yes it's a game. But, that's how it's played. Good luck. If you find out any good answers, I'd sure like to know too. 
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He has told me about pretty much every one he has talked to online so I have to agree with Melody again. He told me he was scared to death to get involved again so quick and I get that. Just don't know how much time he needs before it becomes more that what he told me! I need to slow down too, but damn, we have so much in common its weird almost!!!
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Also, I can totally see why he doesn't want to commit and settle down with you. It's only been a few weeks.
Dating USED to be just that, dating. You go out, you have dinner and hang out, go do stuff together and get to know one another. And yes, you could do this with multiple people at one time as long as you're A)not sleeping with them and B) not leading anyone on. He's not leading you on. Props to him for being honest. 54 years, he's from a whole different generation. |
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sounds like hes playing the filed and really doesn't want to be in a committed relationship and his reserve status!
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He has told me about pretty much every one he has talked to online so I have to agree with Melody again. He told me he was scared to death to get involved again so quick and I get that. Just don't know how much time he needs before it becomes more that what he told me! I need to slow down too, but damn, we have so much in common its weird almost!!! Go about your life. Do stuff without him and keep busy but keep in contact. But don't sit by the phone waiting for him to call. |
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sounds like hes playing the filed and really doesn't want to be in a committed relationship and his reserve status! |
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He's a player. Dump him. I disagree on that point. A player will not tell you he/she wants to date other people. They do it behind your back and try to sweet talk you into a comfort zone. He just doesn't want to settle down and there is nothing wrong with that! It sounds as though he has strong feelings for you but he is not ready. A good player will do just that, tell you he wants to date other people but still keep you dangling on a string. And if he's real good you'll keep a tighter hold on that string than he will. |
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Edited by
Jill298
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Fri 07/17/09 03:07 PM
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See, this is a perfect example of how people jump to "dump him!" immediatly. Can't he just be honest and proceed with caution without being a player?
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I don't know for sure... My bf just confessed he's still in love with his ex and thats why we broke it off. Sooo... I'm here to tell you, if he's not ready to commit, then he's just not ready. Go about your life and don't always be available to him. It's more attractive when he's chasing you down. I know, I know. Sounds stupid and yes it's a game. But, that's how it's played. Good luck. If you find out any good answers, I'd sure like to know too.
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I told him I would give him some time - he just broke up with someone a few days before we met so i understand that. But I also told him I wouldn't wait very long. If he can't see what I see between us, then he's got his head up his a$$! "He just broke up a few days before" You know he isn't looking for a date, he is trying to fill in an empty chair (or bed) with you while continues the search for others. Don't let yourself to be used like that. |
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He has told me about pretty much every one he has talked to online so I have to agree with Melody again. He told me he was scared to death to get involved again so quick and I get that. Just don't know how much time he needs before it becomes more that what he told me! I need to slow down too, but damn, we have so much in common its weird almost!!! He's being smart to not settle down if he has only been out of a relationship for a couple of days, IMO. He needs time to get to know himself again and to heal. I wouldn't even be dating that fast after a relationship. |
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He has told me about pretty much every one he has talked to online so I have to agree with Melody again. He told me he was scared to death to get involved again so quick and I get that. Just don't know how much time he needs before it becomes more that what he told me! I need to slow down too, but damn, we have so much in common its weird almost!!! |
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See, this is a perfect example of how people jump to "dump him!" immediatly. Can't he just be honest and proceed with caution without being a player? I agree.
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