Perhaps this should be in "Well Wishes" ...today should have been my husbands 61st birthday. I try very hard not to predict, plan or predetermine how these still present 'days' should play out. I have learned to simply let them be what they are and let me 'be' how I need to be....For the first time since his death, today brought muses of how the day would have been if he were still alive...fantasies I guess. Mostly, as the day draws to its end, what I get from this is realizing how far I have come, how very much I lost and how far I have to go BUT the big news for me is that WE ALL HAVE FAR TO GO sooooo I am right where I need to be. Tears and all.

I did my annual 'remembrance' celebration and feel good. Strangely perhaps, knowing you are here, helped.

One more biggie in July...our anniversary - July just kicks my butt. You are the greatest bunch of strangers i could have ever hoped to come across, so again, thank you all!

Glad we could help!

You hang in there ..like you have been doing(I could only imagine)He is gone but not forgotten

You're gonna make it I can tell, and if you ever need to talk about anything, you can always PM me.

How long has it been since he passed out of curiosity?

My condolences

My condolences
Its been 2 yrs since I lost my husband and my mom.. Its still very hard sometimes..just remember the good times..it helps...

Three and a half years. I was so very blessed/lucky to have shared my life with him.

Wishing that you find the peace and strength to keep moving forward life at times is rough but what a glories life it is...

I bet, always cherish those times, remember them when you feel sad, that you were able to have those moments with him while he was here.

How long were you two married?

that is why many of us here feel like family, we help each other through good times and bad!!! I hope U have many happy memories of him and can find some comfort in them!!!

Thank you, and thank you all. I am starting to feel a new family or at least a group of friends I can count on. FRIENDS RULE!

Yes, life is glorious!

the kindness and strength of people on this site are awesome!!!


for you sea:

My best to you. I am also widowed. If you ever want to chat....It was 10 yrs for me in June and I know about those "days".

Hugs

Ten years. There was a time I didn't think I'd see a week then a month...at least now I know that time does pass and bring change. Thank you so much for your kind offer, not all of truly know about those 'days'. I may just take you up on your offer...grief is a weird, powerful bond, don't you think?