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 Do you really think we are dogs? That all we want is to HUMP? Stay focused.... Okay, maybe...there are the small percentage of men who are like that. But who cares about them because I do not even consider those people men. That small percentage? It is probably 20 percent. Guess what? THAT IS A LOT! Cuz there is like a billion or so guys! So that means there are what? 200 million guys like that? Ya see what I mean now? Percentages are small, NUMBERS are big |
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we are the guys who say, "Hey do you like music?" and you are so surprised that someone is talking to you that you go, "durruh, yeah" and then we go, "are you waiting for someone?" and you go, "duuurreuhh yeah" and we go, "wanna help me pick out a cd for 10 minutes?" and you go..."duhhahrhhh sorry...no" and then you see us 15 minutes later and walk away so we dont see you...but, we do 
Maybe I'm just paranoid. See, whenever any man comes up to me to talk, I automatically think "if I talk to him he'll assume I want to have sex later". Is this a misnomer? Cuz the few times I HAVE actually talked back, it's been the case. |
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I had a friend tell me last summer that the best way to interest a guy is to act like a dumbass. "Men don't want to talk about books. That makes them nervous and makes them feel like you're acting better than them. Just flirt and use all your physicality. THAT'S what they want." Sad thing is, she's in a GREAT realtionship rigt now. SO...?! not all guys want this. and the ones that do deserve to feel like idiots. . . . I'd like to agree with you, but then where are all the men who AREN'T like this? Y'all got a secret commune or something? |
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**waits for someone to tell him how many men there are in the WORLD**
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... What, for you, is the difference between a girl who you want to date (IE try something meaningful with), and a girl you think of as just a screw? Wow this can be a loaded question 
I would have to say it would be about like interests. If I can meet a woman and hold a decent conversation with her (2 sided) then there is a good chance I would pursue more. You can tell alot about a person from the first 30 mins you talk to them. So you'd actually TALK to a girl, not just flirt with her? Yeah. Not all guys are full of the typical lines that get thrown out there. Edited my reply above. Very relevent to what you just said. :) ETA: Here: I had a friend tell me last summer that the best way to interest a guy is to act like a dumbass. "Men don't want to talk about books. That makes them nervous and makes them feel like you're acting better than them. Just flirt and use all your physicality. THAT'S what they want." Sad thing is, she's in a GREAT realtionship rigt now. SO...?! That can attract a guy to a certain extent but is it who you would want to attract. Men are very visual. So yes physicality plays a role. There is a fine line where physicality turns into slutiness though. Exactly. So... finding that balance sucks. You men are confusing!
But ask yourself who do you want to attract? Physicality could be just a strong presence that you exude also. Kind of like confidence. It doesn't mean you have to show 95% of your leg Or half of your breasts. Confidence is as much a turn on for men as it is women. Show skin and see what you attract. Then go to the same place and exude confidence and see what you attract. You will get both spectrums of men there. You're obviously a very pretty woman so i wouldn't think you'd need anything but the confidence. 
Thank you.  See, I'm VERY unconfident. Hugely. Fearfully.
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... What, for you, is the difference between a girl who you want to date (IE try something meaningful with), and a girl you think of as just a screw? attitude/personality/class if she has a pleasant personality then i'll entertain the idea of a relationship. if not, then no deal. class also play a role. if she's just plain trashy/uncouth then she'll never have a place in my heart. . . . Hod should a woman dress to catch notice but not seem slutty? personally, i like a girl who dresses a little trashy. just a little. that said, i'm not a fan of a girl who has her breasts hanging out. if you want to wear something form fitting fine(within reason), but keep the cleavage to a minimum. women always complain when men stare at their breasts but then they wear tops that barely cover those breasts. would you like to have your cake and eat it too? i know i don't speak for all men and that i'm pretty much standing on my own here. this is just what i prefer. i like a girl who wears a ball cap, sometimes. i like jeans on a girl. you women look at each other and know what looks like trash just as much as we know what looks like trash. . . . |
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Damn. This has become about me. Honestly, I asked because my friends and I talk about it all the time, and I was curious. It's so hard to understand you male types.
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... What, for you, is the difference between a girl who you want to date (IE try something meaningful with), and a girl you think of as just a screw? attitude/personality/class if she has a pleasant personality then i'll entertain the idea of a relationship. if not, then no deal. class also play a role. if she's just plain trashy/uncouth then she'll never have a place in my heart. . . . Hod should a woman dress to catch notice but not seem slutty? personally, i like a girl who dresses a little trashy. just a little. that said, i'm not a fan of a girl who has her breasts hanging out. if you want to wear something form fitting fine(within reason), but keep the cleavage to a minimum. women always complain when men stare at their breasts but then they wear tops that barely cover those breasts. would you like to have your cake and eat it too? i know i don't speak for all men and that i'm pretty much standing on my own here. this is just what i prefer. i like a girl who wears a ball cap, sometimes. i like jeans on a girl. you women look at each other and know what looks like trash just as much as we know what looks like trash. . . . Noted. I guess it really comes down to confidence and good old fashioned chemistry. Which means... at least half of it's a crap shoot. 
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**waits for someone to tell him how many men there are in the WORLD** World? LMAO! I can't even travel the COUNTRY!
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I had a friend tell me last summer that the best way to interest a guy is to act like a dumbass. "Men don't want to talk about books. That makes them nervous and makes them feel like you're acting better than them. Just flirt and use all your physicality. THAT'S what they want." Sad thing is, she's in a GREAT realtionship rigt now. SO...?! not all guys want this. and the ones that do deserve to feel like idiots. . . . I'd like to agree with you, but then where are all the men who AREN'T like this? Y'all got a secret commune or something? yep, located right next to area 51. i personally want to connect with a girl on an intellectual level as well as on a physical level. i just can't seem to find any smart & attractive(what i find attractive) girls who want a guy that looks like me. they know that they can pick any pretty boy or jerk that they like and usually choose to do so. i'm not a pretty boy and i let others decide if i'm a jerk. . . . |
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Tue 07/14/09 05:25 AM
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I had a friend tell me last summer that the best way to interest a guy is to act like a dumbass. "Men don't want to talk about books. That makes them nervous and makes them feel like you're acting better than them. Just flirt and use all your physicality. THAT'S what they want." Sad thing is, she's in a GREAT realtionship rigt now. SO...?! not all guys want this. and the ones that do deserve to feel like idiots. . . . I'd like to agree with you, but then where are all the men who AREN'T like this? Y'all got a secret commune or something? yep, located right next to area 51. i personally want to connect with a girl on an intellectual level as well as on a physical level. i just can't seem to find any smart & attractive(what i find attractive) girls who want a guy that looks like me. they know that they can pick any pretty boy or jerk that they like and usually choose to do so. i'm not a pretty boy and i let others decide if i'm a jerk. . . . Unfortunately, physical attraction DOES factor in. I used to try and deny that out of some wish to be a "good" person, but I could never be happy in a relationship where I didn't drool over my man, as well as adore his mind. It's... human nature. I still don't like pretty boys -- my MO is usually more of the geeky, wiry type. But I DO have an MO, as do we all. |
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... What, for you, is the difference between a girl who you want to date (IE try something meaningful with), and a girl you think of as just a screw? ohhh okay, well to me the girl worth dating is one that wants to spend time with you and get to know you etc even after "a screw" as you put it, when determining whether or not a relationship is for me, it doesn't really matter if sex happens before or after the love has started, if the love is there, it's there, and that's great |
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if the girl stands up to me and puts me in my place while having above average intelligence, im probably interested
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... What, for you, is the difference between a girl who you want to date (IE try something meaningful with), and a girl you think of as just a screw? ohhh okay, well to me the girl worth dating is one that wants to spend time with you and get to know you etc even after "a screw" as you put it, when determining whether or not a relationship is for me, it doesn't really matter if sex happens before or after the love has started, if the love is there, it's there, and that's great So for you it's not automatically dead if you have sex right away?That's not average. if the girl stands up to me and puts me in my place while having above average intelligence, im probably interested
So... you mean confidence or, are you a jerk? Why would she have to stand up to you? |
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... What, for you, is the difference between a girl who you want to date (IE try something meaningful with), and a girl you think of as just a screw? ohhh okay, well to me the girl worth dating is one that wants to spend time with you and get to know you etc even after "a screw" as you put it, when determining whether or not a relationship is for me, it doesn't really matter if sex happens before or after the love has started, if the love is there, it's there, and that's great So for you it's not automatically dead if you have sex right away?That's not average. if the girl stands up to me and puts me in my place while having above average intelligence, im probably interested
So... you mean confidence or, are you a jerk? Why would she have to stand up to you? stand up to me in the sense that she is is confident and can take the lead when she wants to, lol i dont think im a jerk? |
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... What, for you, is the difference between a girl who you want to date (IE try something meaningful with), and a girl you think of as just a screw? ohhh okay, well to me the girl worth dating is one that wants to spend time with you and get to know you etc even after "a screw" as you put it, when determining whether or not a relationship is for me, it doesn't really matter if sex happens before or after the love has started, if the love is there, it's there, and that's great So for you it's not automatically dead if you have sex right away?That's not average. if the girl stands up to me and puts me in my place while having above average intelligence, im probably interested
So... you mean confidence or, are you a jerk? Why would she have to stand up to you? stand up to me in the sense that she is is confident and can take the lead when she wants to, lol i dont think im a jerk? I figured not, but to me "stand up to" means defense against attack, so... LOL |
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if you say slytherin.
darling, why would it be automatically dead just because you had sex right away? to me, for a girl to actually go out of her way to engage in sexual activity with me is a special occasion, so naturally after the event i would be nice to her, offering her a drink a time to sit down and chat, to me, a girl that has sex with you is worthy of your respect, and a sexual encounter can often be the beginning of a relationship. that doesn't mean sex has to happen before a relationship can start |
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if you say slytherin. darling, why would it be automatically dead just because you had sex right away? to me, for a girl to actually go out of her way to engage in sexual activity with me is a special occasion, so naturally after the event i would be nice to her, offering her a drink a time to sit down and chat, to me, a girl that has sex with you is worthy of your respect, and a sexual encounter can often be the beginning of a relationship. that doesn't mean sex has to happen before a relationship can start Lots of people -- men and women -- take it for granted. |
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take what for granted?
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Sex.
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