I find the so called "nice" or overly nice people are not genuine in letting people know who they really are and what they want in order to get validated.

They are surprised how people are responding to their being nice and can't understand why they are not being appreciated, which often leads them down a path to blaming, being critical and defensive.

This just falls under the category of immaturity and low self esteem, which can be turned around by making a change in ourselves.

I find that woman truly want to please their man but if a man is not truly honest about who they are or what they really want in a woman the woman will become confused and insecure or creeped out.

So they gravitate to the so call "Bad Boy" who really does not care much about what they want, which is not ideal but the girl at least knows clearly what the guy is about, and where she stands in the relationship.

Take a gander at this book " Too Nice for Your Own Good : How to Stop Making 9 Self-Sabotaging Mistakes" http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=nice+good&x=14&y=11