I've been happily taken for quite a while now. I still enjoy coming here to Mingle to see what everyone's up to; kinda a virtual hangout if you will. I see that many others also use this site as a social site, not just a dating site.

The reason I ask is that I found my GF started a profile on here without telling me about it. I think it's her way of checking up on me which is fine; I've nothing to hide. I already told her I go on the site and she admits to going into chat rooms sometimes when she's bored so I don't see much of a difference.

Is it wrong for me to still be on a "dating" site even though I'm not looking for a date?

no, nothing wrong with it until you do something wrong. If you're just here to chat and not looking to hook up with anyone then you're fine. If she starts deciding to have a problem with it later on then she might be a little on the jealous side, but if she says it's cool and you aren't doing anything wrong do you really need to ask?

I just thought it odd that she started a profile without telling me about it which makes me wonder a bit if there are some trust issues. On the other hand, would you want your significant other spending time on dating sites? I'm not sure how I'd feel about it; thus the reason for my question

I'm going to assume that you are in a pretty good relationship despite your own wondering thoughts and give you some advice. Don't worry about it. If she's trying to "spy" on you she will find out on her own that you aren't doing anything wrong and hopefully that will be the end of it. If you are worried about her being mischevious on a dating site then stop yourself right now and re-evaluate. She's with you, that's all you need to know. Don't start probing and wondering until there is a **** good reason to, okay. Don't repeat the same mistakes that I made. If everything is going good then let it go good and just don't worry about it. Otherwise you'll spend the rest of your life wondering about the one time that you were too insecure to pay attention to what you had in your hands. I guess I shouldn't preach so much but I left a really REALLY good girl once because of my insecurities, and it isn't something that you can take back. So my advice is, shut your brain off and enjoy what you have. If you don't take it, I'm one person that won't blame you, as I've been there too. Just looking out, you know?

So she has a profile

Big deal

Instead of getting all girly about it jump in and have fun with her

Ya know what a blast a couple could have with this !!!!!

I just hope she trusts me & doesn't give into insecurities either. Trust is key to a relationship & I don't want to betray hers in any way by being here.

Yea, I sent a friend request tonight! I think she went to bed already though which is where I should be LOL. About midnight here.

That is the plan gossip.

I agree with you dude and I'm right there with ya. Paranoia kills. It's good to see that you are having some fun with it but the two of you really need to just sit down and talk about it. Tell her that you're on here for dating advice, or to BS with friends you've made, or whatever the reason is that you're here... Then again maybe don't bring it up unless it's a deal for both of you. If this is your insecurity then I would say deal with it. If you think that she's that worried then have a heart to heart with her, and screw around with her as much as physically possible on here drop her notes, kick her in the but.... foreplay!

i'm on a dating site and i'm certainly not looking for a date

bad bad bad boy, think you need some spanky from you woman!

if it bothers you that much, and it really seems to, why stay? i try not to do things that make me uncomfortable

You are only here to chat in the forums.. You tell everyone how happy you are.. She may be a little put off that you're still here and that may be why she made a profile, but she will quickly find out how devoted you are and how much you love her...

As long as you are honest about it

You cheating whore

Pats

I agree with most that there is nothing wrong with you being here.

Mingle2 is more than a dating site....its a social site as well. There are many people on here that are not only in a relationship but some of them are married.

I think its a great idea that you are still here for the online friends you made and maybe your gf, now that she has joined, should come in and let everyone get to know her too

Well, maybe she thought it was a bit odd that you were still here? As long as you're just here for the forums and friends, there should be no reason why you can't stay.

After talking with her about it today, I've decided tonight's my last here.

It's been fun & I'm going to miss seeing the forum regulars especially, even that hannibal lecter guy

Even though I didn't find my mutual-match here, you guys helped bring me through some tough times and kept me laughing. I wish everyone here the best!



To love & happiness