You meet someone online, you nudge back and forth, you email back and forth. Spend hours and hours on line chatting. Both seems to be what each other are looking for.

Then disappear for a couple days, pulling double duty (without stating his job, I do know this is plausible, that and last min. trips.)

Phone calls back again apologizes, picked right back up, No prob. More plans to make plans to meet.

Disappear again for 2 days.
Sent email stating asking if he was still interested in meeting to call if not no worries and good luck with your search.

Emailed back explaining a last min trip and will be back Thursday really wants to take you to dinner, spend time together over the 4th, lets make plans. Still very interested(More plans to make plans).

Great you would think to your self, stop worrying about it.

Another day and half go by and you see him online but no email IM or anything. His daughters did have him sign up and could have been logged on but I think that is just reaching for an explaination.

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Being strung along or not? I think so....or am I just being impatient?
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I hate games, and I feel like I am in the middle of one.

Your thoughts?

****if it is not constructive comments to assist then keep them to your self please, I am just looking for a little advise from people who have been here awhile******

If the man is interested he'll make sure you know he is and ask for your number and call Someone who is sincere certainly wouldn't want you to worry

BTW...
My instincts must really be off cause he did not seem like the type at all to play games.

Gee, is that what the nudge is for? No wonder I don't get anymore, besides the frequent kick in the butt.

Well, you certainly didn't meet the beast on THIS site, did you?

I've met 9 people from dating sites, and in my opinion, I would have been better off jumping into an active volcano. Or even a passive one.

But the one thing I've never had to deal with (in those situations) was the kind of back-and-forth you describe.

For me, communication was always a consistent and everyday thing -- right up to the point when I found out (as I inevitably have) that they're not who or what they say they are. Some just take longer than others.

If I found myself in your position, I would chalk it up as a learning experience and move on.

The guy is married

Yes, THIS site.....

You hate games.We all do.
(although there's millions out there that play them....why do they??Who knows.)

It's already a game and will be just like this(and worse probably) if things go further.

Hope I am wrong.....but I'd move on quickly.

Reading your comments always make me laugh...Sometimes at you sometimes with you. LOL

I find these things happen...you find someone you are interested in and it burns hot and quick...but most never even make it off of the computer...I would move on...

I have found out through experience that sometimes the person you have been talking to is talking to several other people. He might be trying to figure out which one he likes better or is more willing to put out sooner. Move on and find the right one for you.

this time it is at me... I really just thought they were friendly "Hi's", I never e-mailed any of them back. Oh well at least you laugh, my job is done. Take care of your heart.

I HATE when that happens!!! It happens to me all the time! I too would like to know why? Why do they even bother? Are they just attention whores?

This has occurred to me also. I have more respect (which is about zero) for the ones who actually are honest and even list that they are married in their profile than the ones that hide it.

Sometimes instincts are wrong. I know how that goes. If he likes you, you'll know.

I don't know if you're being strung along or if he's just really too busy for more than an occassional friend.

Possibilities:
1) He's involved elsewhere and can only talk to you when she's not around. Are you willing to be on the sideline of another woman/man?

2) He's just too busy and even IF you meet and things evolve, he'll probably still be too busy. Are you willing to be on the sideline of everything else?

You have to decide.

I have seen it hundreds of times on here ,and I say that its 80% to 90% chance the guy is married or has a woman.

He just may be a busy person

Good point and I really don't want either. dealing with the job thing I could do (he is military) but other than that I will pass.