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wtf? this is NOT normal ppl, it's not even real! Why is this kind of emotion not real? A lot of us live in areas with stupid dorks as potential dating partners. As for myself, I wont go to places alone. That greatly reduces the chances of meeting someone in the real world. When we finally do meet someone on line and establish a connection with that person, profess love and devotion, that is as real as it gets with the other person. It is the investment we make of our hearts. It can be very real. And it is very normal to want that kind of exceptance and love in our lives. Even if you only see that person every few months or so. We are accepting of this online/LDR as norm as this is how we choose to meet people. I don't get it Robin seriously i don't. I too live in an area where dating partners are just not available. but i would never believe i was in a 'relationship' with someone online that i'd met twice in 2 yrs! which is not every few months now is it? i spk to lots of people every single day and it would frighten me if i thought any of them thought this was a 'relationship'. it smells of stakerville to me 
i mean i accept i might be wrong or maybe i'm shallow or something but i can't get my head around how u can become emotionally involved with someone u speak to only online. i dunno? it's way weird to me and a tad creepy! 
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there are just too many Robins on this site
some people seem to be more in love with being in love than actually falling in love with a person you shouldn't stake the whole farm on someone just because they smile and say "I love you" once in a while |
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there are just too many Robins on this site some people seem to be more in love with being in love than actually falling in love with a person you shouldn't stake the whole farm on someone just because they smile and say "I love you" once in a while i know i never met anyone called Robin before, now i know loads - how kewl is that?
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{{{Pam}}}
Let me at um!!! 
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Wow! Two years is a very long time! Don't ever do that again, girl. If he is not within at least 100 miles, don't bother. It won't work. You seem like a nice person. I'm sorry that happened to you. Don't give up, though. You never know what is just around the corner :-)
Sweetie1965 in Alabama |
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I don't get it Robin seriously i don't. I too live in an area where dating partners are just not available. but i would never believe i was in a 'relationship' with someone online that i'd met twice in 2 yrs! which is not every few months now is it? i spk to lots of people every single day and it would frighten me if i thought any of them thought this was a 'relationship'. it smells of stakerville to me
i mean i accept i might be wrong or maybe i'm shallow or something but i can't get my head around how u can become emotionally involved with someone u speak to only online. i dunno? it's way weird to me and a tad creepy!
Heeeeyyyyy finally someone that GETS it!!! Good job, fife!!! 
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Never again will I do long distance.I was in a LD relationship for close to two yrs. We met twice and talked everyday.Sure we had are moments and fights.But a week ago he's still calling me baby, and darlin and misses me.A few days ago I call and we talk for awhile,he tells me he up and moved to another state and get this with a lady he met on here.Player or what.He just made it hard for me to even be on here and do it again,and i feel sorry for the next guy,all my trust just went out the window. So sorry to hear of this.
You were an inspiration to me as I feel we are a lot alike in the feelings and vulnerability department. Your poetry as far back as January was beautiful and very touching in regards to your relationship. I sincerely hope that you are ok. As far as other people saying and thinking that an online romance is impossible, I think that some people have become jaded because of their own experiences. But it is not wrong to want to believe in the good of people, and to think that possibly "this time, it is the right one, and the right person." This person that did this to you, took a good thing with a good person and decided to destroy it for their own selfishness. Some day they will realize that what comes easily, isn't necessarily the best choice. It means that they could not be as true and as heartfelt as you. It is their loss, and I hope you will still continue to believe that you are deserving of someone as beautiful as yourself. I hope your healing over this loss is as painless as possible and that you will see that it is just a step onto better things to come your way. It is very easy to think that everyone is a fake, and that there are no good people anymore, anywhere, but I know in my own heart that this is not true. Each person is an individual, just as ourselves, and just as we would not want ourselves to be catogorized in to a generalization, so we must continue to believe that of others until proven otherwise. Any relationship can work, whether online, or however, as long as it is the "right two people" with the same attitudes, morals, and commitment. Not saying it is ever easy in any form, but it is possible. Again, my heart goes out to you... Please take care...
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I don't get it Robin seriously i don't. I too live in an area where dating partners are just not available. but i would never believe i was in a 'relationship' with someone online that i'd met twice in 2 yrs! which is not every few months now is it? i spk to lots of people every single day and it would frighten me if i thought any of them thought this was a 'relationship'. it smells of stakerville to me
i mean i accept i might be wrong or maybe i'm shallow or something but i can't get my head around how u can become emotionally involved with someone u speak to only online. i dunno? it's way weird to me and a tad creepy!
Heeeeyyyyy finally someone that GETS it!!! Good job, fife!!!
You may not approve of what she had, but that doesn't mean it's going to hurt any less for her. It's sad when people cannot be up front about what's going on. No matter what the situation happens to be. |
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there are just too many Robins on this site  
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I don't get it Robin seriously i don't. I too live in an area where dating partners are just not available. but i would never believe i was in a 'relationship' with someone online that i'd met twice in 2 yrs! which is not every few months now is it? i spk to lots of people every single day and it would frighten me if i thought any of them thought this was a 'relationship'. it smells of stakerville to me
i mean i accept i might be wrong or maybe i'm shallow or something but i can't get my head around how u can become emotionally involved with someone u speak to only online. i dunno? it's way weird to me and a tad creepy!
Heeeeyyyyy finally someone that GETS it!!! Good job, fife!!!
You may not approve of what she had, but that doesn't mean it's going to hurt any less for her. It's sad when people cannot be up front about what's going on. No matter what the situation happens to be. well i'm not buying it! |
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I don't get it Robin seriously i don't. I too live in an area where dating partners are just not available. but i would never believe i was in a 'relationship' with someone online that i'd met twice in 2 yrs! which is not every few months now is it? i spk to lots of people every single day and it would frighten me if i thought any of them thought this was a 'relationship'. it smells of stakerville to me
i mean i accept i might be wrong or maybe i'm shallow or something but i can't get my head around how u can become emotionally involved with someone u speak to only online. i dunno? it's way weird to me and a tad creepy!
I am going to generalise here so not every one needs to shoot me all at once. Maybe this is the difference of a guy and gal thing? But here is a question Fife, do you consider any of the folks you talk to on here friends? If you answer yes to that Question, isnt friendship a mild form of a relationship? |
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I don't get it Robin seriously i don't. I too live in an area where dating partners are just not available. but i would never believe i was in a 'relationship' with someone online that i'd met twice in 2 yrs! which is not every few months now is it? i spk to lots of people every single day and it would frighten me if i thought any of them thought this was a 'relationship'. it smells of stakerville to me
i mean i accept i might be wrong or maybe i'm shallow or something but i can't get my head around how u can become emotionally involved with someone u speak to only online. i dunno? it's way weird to me and a tad creepy!
I am going to generalise here so not every one needs to shoot me all at once. Maybe this is the difference of a guy and gal thing? But here is a question Fife, do you consider any of the folks you talk to on here friends? If you answer yes to that Question, isnt friendship a mild form of a relationship? hmmmm, hard one where i can't win! ok here goes, who i consider to be friends (in the tru sense) are people i have actually met and get on with. i think online 'friends' is a looser interpretation and it would probably be correct to say i am 'friendly' with people here (your lovely self for example *crawl crawl, lick lick* )
also i am extremely 'lucky'(?)in that the chances of me actually meeting someone from mingle are slim to say the least. i'm not saying u can't have a ldr and communicate on here between visits - lots of u have shown me that can be done. what i am saying is i'm not prepared to believe that someone u met twice in 2 years u can consider yourself to be in a 'relationship' with. It just don't wash, sorry.  |
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I don't get it Robin seriously i don't. I too live in an area where dating partners are just not available. but i would never believe i was in a 'relationship' with someone online that i'd met twice in 2 yrs! which is not every few months now is it? i spk to lots of people every single day and it would frighten me if i thought any of them thought this was a 'relationship'. it smells of stakerville to me
i mean i accept i might be wrong or maybe i'm shallow or something but i can't get my head around how u can become emotionally involved with someone u speak to only online. i dunno? it's way weird to me and a tad creepy!
I am going to generalise here so not every one needs to shoot me all at once. Maybe this is the difference of a guy and gal thing? But here is a question Fife, do you consider any of the folks you talk to on here friends? If you answer yes to that Question, isnt friendship a mild form of a relationship? hmmmm, hard one where i can't win! ok here goes, who i consider to be friends (in the tru sense) are people i have actually met and get on with. i think online 'friends' is a looser interpretation and it would probably be correct to say i am 'friendly' with people here (your lovely self for example *crawl crawl, lick lick* )
also i am extremely 'lucky'(?)in that the chances of me actually meeting someone from mingle are slim to say the least. i'm not saying u can't have a ldr and communicate on here between visits - lots of u have shown me that can be done. what i am saying is i'm not prepared to believe that someone u met twice in 2 years u can consider yourself to be in a 'relationship' with. It just don't wash, sorry.
Its all ok sunshine, I just needed more info to understand what you were trying to tell me. But for me, a friend is a friend, even if we never meet in person. I would hold you in my heart for ever. But thats just how I roll. And I guess I am with you on the meet 2 times in 2 years is streaching it. My LDR was 4 times a year for 2 years. (8 visits total) And lots of phone calls and everyday on line. But never the less, LDR's are hard even done in the best of circumstances. And one day I hope to find that honest fella somewhere out there. In real life or on line to be in my real life. There are new fish every day in the sea of on line dating. (fingers crossed) |
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Edited by
gayfifer
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Sat 06/27/09 12:47 PM
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well yes i suppose if i was talking to them (as in speech) then they can be a friend too. i have a bond with my online friends but i just don't quite understand it! this online stuff is very new to me, just since my seperation so about a year. online everything else, shopping, research,whatever is not new. so i'm finding it fascinating that there are real people out there in puter world. plus i like them!!! go figure
oh and plus LDR's would involve the sort of trust i am simply not prepared to give to a man! |
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oh and plus LDR's would involve the sort of trust i am simply not prepared to give to a man! Yay fife! Me either! It's fantasy world. Those you talk to on-line are 'cyber-friends', the same way one has 'cyber-sex'. It's a click away from reality. |
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oh and plus LDR's would involve the sort of trust i am simply not prepared to give to a man! Yay fife! Me either! It's fantasy world. Those you talk to on-line are 'cyber-friends', the same way one has 'cyber-sex'. It's a click away from reality. Is that why you're here? For the fantasy world aspect? |
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i can't speak for anyone else but i am exclusively here for chat and fun.
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i can't speak for anyone else but i am exclusively here for chat and fun. D amn...and I thought you were hot! |
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now,now,no cheek
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Yep leave it to me...I find a handsome one with a sense of humor and hes here for fun and chat....not to mention he lives a gazillion miles away!
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