I just got out of an relationship because my ex went crazy on me. We were together for four years off and on. And she has a seven year old daughter. I LOVE HER TO DEATH!! I am the only father she looks up to. I do get to see her every two week and sometimes more. And I don't want to be put out of her live. Because her mom and I had problems.

So the question is what would you think as a woman if you was dating a guy. And he loves this little girl like his own. Knowing she is not his child by blood. Would their be any problems in dating him?

Why do you ask this? You know they are gonna lie to you anyway, just do what you gotta do!

that is commendable that you want to still be int he child's life so much

If the person you start dating again can not understand this then she isn't the person for you

I don't think so, women like nice guys

Nice guys get eaten. Careful, I have a lunch menu...

But really, why would there be a problem? Unless of course you are dating someone who is crazy...oh, wait, you were...

do you think a woman would have a problem with you if you were volunteering to work with children? IMO it's much the same thing. you have no responsibilities to this little girl but you choose to spend time with her and help guide her through life. it's much like mentoring or being a big brother. if a woman has a problem with it then she needs to keep steppin.


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I dated a guy a hand full of years ago that was a widower with two small children. I loved them like they were my own and they loved me. When he and I ended our relationship, I did not and have not ever contacted the children. As difficult as that was, it was best for them in that I didn't want to give them the false hope that I would ever be back. I also felt that once he began to date again, another woman would step into "my" role and that I should not do anything to prevent their bonding with her. It's hard, and I'm sorry you are going through this.

lies
that's what they tell us while they're off banging the bad boy.


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I know you are kidding.

stop bein nice be a bastard that works

not until i'm proven wrong.


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That is painting with an awfully broad brush, imho.

IF YOU LOVE THE KID AND ACCEPT HER AS YOUR OWN THEN I WOULDN'T SEE WHY THAT SHOULD BE AN ISSUE. AND JUST SO YOU KNOW THIS IS AN HONEST ANSWER. BECAUSE I DON'T LIE!!!! IF IT IS AN ISSUE THEN THAT PERSON IS JEALOUS AND NOT THE ONE YOU WANNA DATE

Other than the kid isn't his, yep, that would create a problem. Legally there is nothing he can do if she isn't willing to allow him to see her, he has absolutely no legal ground or parental rights. Obviously the girl he was seeing is "crazy", that just complicates the manner...both with the view and the possible fact.

OH PLEASE DON'T TAKE THAT ADVICE ABOUT BEING A BASTARD IT MAY WORK TEMPORARILY BUT IF WANT A LONG TERM IT WON'T. I'M SICK OF BASTARDS.

me too but it's all that's left and even they are slim pickings!

I do not see how this is off topic, it clearly relates to the OP's question about women and if the nagging, bitchy, two-faced, gold-digging shoe fits? Well

I would see no problem. I give thumbs up to a person who steps up to care for a child that is biological not theirs.

Does everyone just ignore the legal reasons? If the girl is more than willing to allow him in the child's life, that's one thing...but any other manner is illegal.