So I have a very hard time finding a woman. I dont know why to be honest. Could be the lack of confidence but im working on that. I was wondering if anyone could give me some tips yeah?

im the same bud, everyone i meet sais im a great guy, i just dont have the nuts to aproach people like that, and my advice is just f`in do it.
that girl in the shop .. just f`ing ask her before you get in the habbit of being a shy basterd like me. its all sycological, if you can beat your mind, youll win

It seems that every guy I would date, is too far away. I don't ask people out either. I refuse too.

so many women refuse to ask a guy out and claim it's because of some outdated idea that it's the guy's responsibility. i think they just fear rejection as much as a lot of guys do. women always talk about equality...well take some equal risk now and then. my $.02

Just message anyone on here, everyone is dead friendly.
And if you see someone you like, just strike up a convo with them, I had someone complement my glasses and we had a long convo afterwards :)

Good luck

I don't because I'm shy and yes, I fear rejection

Oh I'll totally ask a guy out, who the fcuk cares LOL

Anywho on to the original topic...I remember being 19, and I also remember being a bit shallow and conceited at that age. It's more of a time to go out and have fun and meet people than it is a time to settle down.... go have some fun and the right girl will pop up when you least expect it.

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
"nothing ventured, nothing gained"
"no risk, no reward"


if fear of rejection makes you never even try then it's yielding the same result as actual rejection; nothing. and what's so scary about rejection anyway?

excuse me, i have to go win the lottery without buying a ticket

Similar problem, only I can't have the whole "Just go and ask someone" approach.

I don't care what anyone says: It's just not acceptable to waltz up to people of the same sex and ask them out without knowing whether or not they're into people of the same sex. Not yet anyway.

There's being rejected... And then there's being gay bashed!

Rejection is part of the game.There are a thousand reasons why a person would reject u,so don't think of it being ,because of u.


If u think of it like how I stated above,then it's much easier.

I don't even pick up girls anymore,because I became kind of shy over the years.

My avr before was about 4/10 success rate,so for 40 girls giving me there number about 10-15 were fake,so that left me with about 30 numbers and then u have to count the ones that don't answer,so that drops it down by like another 5

Leaving me with 25 real numbers and from these number I went on dates,got friends,a few girlfriends,network,etc

This was a longtime(Like 6 years ago) ago and my soical life dropped a lot,so I need to repair my soical life.

Don't worry about rejection!!It happens to everyone and look how I did.40 numbers,but 60 people reject me,so relax.



Peace!!!

Yea it's hard to find someone these days. Part of my problem is I live in a small town so there isn't much to do. Then with the economy being the way it is, I don't like to go into the city much.

Hopefully this site will at least help me meet new people. Nothing wrong with my current friends but I need to meet new people.

"Just message anyone on here, everyone is dead friendly.
And if you see someone you like, just strike up a convo with them, I had someone complement my glasses and we had a long convo afterwards :)

^^Well, i'd agree with this post above..eventho. i'm new and dont know much people on here, i still think mabee by messaging people and and complementing on whatever would help you get started. I think shy guys are (kinda) cute, but toO shy isnt attractive oh well, jst my .2$