I'm a great person, not being cocky or arrogant, but I really consider myself a genuine person. I speak my mind, am honest, have NEVER cheated and like romance. Not roses, and chocolates on Valentine's (I have never really liked this holiday simply because it's a very ironic day for me) but just someone who really cares. Who isn't afraid to care. Who isn't a liar, player or just out to win a bet...

where are the guys who can actually date before doing anything else... who aren't afraid of commitment. Commitment doesn't mean marriage. I'm FAR from that... just... A real relationship... something meaningful and real... I just don't understand. Where is the love??

Take your time and choose wisely.

What he said

Welcome, have fun and good luck

i hear you, but i dont hold a lot of hope for your quest.....sad aint it

Maybe you should head down to The Sand Bar....check it out.

I'll make it all better

YOu are very young... take your time, wait for the right moment, choose the right one and keep collecting and then select the best!

Depending on your definition of love it might be all in your head.


But seriously, I assume you mean that you're looking for a guy that wants more than sex. You have two options the way I see it.

1. Find a geeky guy that you can walk all over and direct.
2. Find a guy that is fed up with women and quick to throw a couple harsh words and instead of taking it personally, try to see his point.

You just want someone who cares, I'm not going to speak for all of us but a lot of the guys who are looking for a lasting relationship just want someone to listen and try to understand us once in a while instead of fighting us all the time.

I don't know where you fall in all of this, I have no idea who you are or anything about the people you have dated, but if you are looking for a nice guy, the well dressed guy at the fanciest club in town is NOT your best bet. I know a lot of them and 99.5% of them only care about one thing, no matter what they tell you to your face.

Best places are coffee shops, museums, or wherever you find us alone in a non-threatning environment. Myself I'm often out on my own by myself thinking, drawing, writing, typing or whatever. Find that guy and just walk up and say hi. He might be a little shy (which is a good sign for you) so don't force him to say something inspiring, just ask if he minds you sitting with him. Easy Schmeazy.

Man I wish I would have been born a female. Y'all got it too easy.

Sorry, didn't notice that was your first post, welcome to Mingle2.

I'm the jerk that all women hate, you'll see them yelling at me from time to time.

here have a drink



it's got a special formula in it

That was a very nice post.

Your very cute. Perhaps there's just a lot of jerks out there in Utah.

Roko

You absolutely said it right, beside the part of grouping people into either "geeky doormat" or "nicely dressed skirt hunter".

I think many women needs to understand a few things. (I'm attaching this to your explanation)

Granted, many women will have more than one guy going for..being asked out or let's just say, many women have choices, thanks to Mother Nature granting them something, that catches a lot of guy's attention, or just having a lot of friends..environment etc..

BUT

This does not include all women on the planet. (see example: single women on mingle 2 and other dating sites)

Here is the thing.

Don't wait for your guy to knock on your door. I'm gonna tell you right now, it's not going to happen. Especially now, in this stupid world.
If you are lonely and you really want to be with someone, don't depend on hollywood stories and fantasy, he will not show up out of nowhere. Don't wait for a "strange coincidence" or "accidental meeting" and similar, you might have read about or seen in a stupid soap opera.
YOU need to make some moves on your own. I know, many thinks this is strange to have women making the first move...I don't know why that is..but sitting around and waiting does not work for either sides.

For a woman to walk up to a guy, you are about having a chance of 9 out of 10, that the guy will talk to you and at least, have a conversation and you get to know him. (unlike men's chances of 1 out of 10 women might respond).
I don't know if men afraid of rejection more or women, but go try it out.

So I just want to say it again...if you are lonely, and feel the need of a special someone, and statuing around and sitting around waiting for your shiny armored guy just show up out of nowhere is not happening, guess what..you go ahead and make a move.
You will be surprised of the result.

Shh, don't tell anyone!

I lit love on fire last week, should of said something then...would have saved it for a bit longer.

You're not finding the "right" person because you are in the wrong places looking for them. If that isn't the case, then the "right" person doesn't really exist...kind of like, well, anyway...

When you open yourself and heart to someone there's always that chance. When you make a truly bad choice then you will surely get burned. Like it's been said, make better choices and one day there won't be any pain from the man deserving of you.

I heard something today and it is very true

"Don't ....oh shux...can't remember...will be back...

Now I remember...


Don't make someone a priority that makes you an option

I've heard that one recently too TxsSun;

"Don't make someone your priority when they only make you an option!"



I also personally like;

"If you can't accept me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best!"

It's better to have loved and lost......something, something......