How do you tell your friend, who is a guy that you don't have feelings
for him the way he does for you, without hurting his feelings. I have
tried to tell him nicely, but I guess he still hopes. I know that he
gets sad too when i talk about other people that like me, but I can't
help it.

You just have to be blunt then and hope that he gets over it
and can still be your friend. It will be hard for him and it may take
some time. Hell it may ruin your friendship, but which is worse?

The blunt approach works most of the time.

But, some people need a bigger stick to get the message across.

I dealt with a similar problem by answering her door bell ring totally
naked, holding a shepherd's staff, and having a wooly sheep adorning
Victoria Secret's finest standing behind me.

Ok, the sheep rental and cleanup was a bit inconvenient but the pursuer
was no more. The look on her face, though, was priceless.

(This is further evidence why artists don't have many dates)

2x4x8

Honesty is the best policy...just be gentle...

i second that...be honest.

I AGREE WITH PUCKS....

pinky i thought you were down because you've never had a bf before and
how guys never go for plus size women, etc. .. but now you're saying you
actually have a guy interested in you but you're not interested in him..
interesting

if you are honest with him and he is truely your friend.. he will
understand

More evidence that nobody really knows what they want.

Hmmm, I say go with the sheep-thing...

Barring that, keep in mind that if they are lying to you about why they
are "hanging" with you, then they aren't really your friend. It's odd
how many ladies I have to explain this to, but if a guy says he's your
friend, but doesn't say he wants more, and you find out later he was
being your friend to hook up with you (even for just emotional
involvement, not just for the mattress mambo), then he was actually
lying about being your friend. Granted, I have had female friends that I
developed feeling for, but we either hashed it out, or I dealt with it
(cause it was my problem, not theirs). Bottom line is that you should
take him at face value. If he says he's your friend, regardless if you
"sense" he wants more, give him the chance to be honest. If he's got
feelings for you he'll either figure it out himself, or he'll do
something about it. If he's uncomfortable talking with you about things
that friends talk about, he ALWAYS has the option of saying, "Err, this
is making me feel uncomfortable, I'm sorry." After all, if he's a
friend, then you'll understand .

i guess not ever guy wants skiiny girls then do they



best thing to do is just tell him

if that doesn't work fix him up with someone else

just a thought

but hey what do i know

well I

kim should that not have been

well eye

this guy you are speaking of is insecure anyway...How about you? be more
assertive, that would help

but i do know that some guys don't take no for an answer. That makes you
be in a very bad spot becuase u don't want to be mean and hurful

I don't know cause all the men like skinny girls!!!!!!!!!

A billboard on the expressway can be surprisingly effective.

Pinky you seem to be the attention grabbing type...chill out girl,
you're going about it the wrong way... your posts are contradicting.

i agree with steve one post your complaining no one goes for bigger
girls, now your saying you've got this guy you don't want him.. and then
another post your asking what sex feels like... i'm kind of worried
about you lol