Does anybody know how to get rid of a guy with out breaking it off with him verbally? I hate breaking hearts but I am not into this guy I have been dating for over a year. Just not enough chemistry to be with for the rest of my life, it was good while it lasted but now I see that I really don't want to be with him permanently, so how can i dump him without breaking his heart?

gonna have to, dont do it and it can end up biting you in the ass

There is no way to dump someone without hurting them unless they want it over as well...

No matter what his heart will be broken. Any long term relationship end unless mutual is hard on one or both parties. Just explain what your explaining now. I know thats not what you wanted to hear, but avoiding it makes it worse.

pay someone to beat the crap out of him

that way you keep your hands clean

If you are not into him, and you continue to date him, his heart is going to be broke either way. Better to be sooner rather then later. It's not fair to just keep going on when you know in your own heart that it isn't for you. So yeah, you will be uncomfortable about doing it, but do you think it will get any easier the longer you wait?

Sweetie I know I'm younger than you, but I've been through the same thing. If you don't communicate things could get weird. he could get confused and not know what happened while you'd think he was being a stalker.

Don't forget to say " its me, not you"
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Oh Phooey, maybe I will tell him I have been diagnosed with Guillian Barr and I am always tired, and then be tired all the time and now want to do anything. That should drive him away.

A year is worth at least a phone call. Face to face would be better.

TM

I'd be honest and just say it's not working out between us Ask yourself if it were you that someone was breaking up with wouldn't you just want honesty and the sooner the better

Here is how it's been done .(personal experience)

- Hun, I'm gonna need to talk to you face to face, this is very important.


That is usually the death sentence to the relationship, I learned it.

I know right away, this is trouble.

So anyway, after that, you just nicely explain it to him, that it's just not working out as it should be and offer him a friendship instead. If he goes nuts, just walk away. You have done your job. He will cool down, don't worry, but resist the force to return to him, even if he becomes very emotional about it, you must resist.

Say what you just said.

If you can't do it in person (hard to see THAT look, I know), then write a note and hand deliver (if possible) with an "I'm sorry" or in an email (last resort).

Just don't do it by text or let him hang on any longer. The longer he thinks things are ok, the harder it will be.

Pulling the bandage off quickly is always less painfull than trying to ease it off. Take a deep breath and just do it.

There is no easy way of doing it.He will get his feelings and his heart broken no matter how u do it.But just be as kind and gentle as u can.If he's not right for u,he just isn't and nothing u do is going to change that.
Good luck.

OK I get the picture, thanks

You can always say, "Hey, you REALLY should get tested". Works about 99% of the time.

I'm against any sort of emailing or phoning about this. Face to face is the only way.

Gotta ask this question-

If you're "not into the guy" as you say, then why have you been dating him for over a year? Surely you woulda figured that out at an earlier point-in-juncture, right? Something just doesn't sound kosher there...

Unfortunately, there really is no way around it- you WILL end up causing him grief if and when you break things off. Your best bet would be to just go out and tell him, and take whatever verbal onslaught he will unleash on you.

hey I know...when you're together just sit on your butt, drink beer, and watch sports...
after awhile he'll have to break up with you or go insane