Topic: How can you tell....
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Tue 06/02/09 05:38 PM

I can honestly say I don't think I have dated the same type of man twice in the last six months. This guy honestly didn't seem like a player in my book. I would like to know how to know they are players. Why would a player spend that much time on the phone with me and not even have a hint of sexual anything in the conversation??? I think they would get a feel for how much I would put out on a first date before they would drive over an hour to meet me!

In coversation, maybe tell him you don't put out on the first date. Maybe the 2nd one though:banana:

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Tue 06/02/09 05:41 PM
I told him I want to take it slow and he said ok. It wasn't until the next day he told me (after kissing for quite a while the nite before and told I wanted to take it slow) that he wasn't attracted to me. See, I can't figure guys out. So you aren't attracted to me but I'm ok to f*ck? (p.s. no alcohol was involved in the date)

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Tue 06/02/09 05:45 PM

I told him I want to take it slow and he said ok. It wasn't until the next day he told me (after kissing for quite a while the nite before and told I wanted to take it slow) that he wasn't attracted to me. See, I can't figure guys out. So you aren't attracted to me but I'm ok to f*ck? (p.s. no alcohol was involved in the date)

I think he is blind, deaf and dumn.
You are beautiful and he is a fool.

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Tue 06/02/09 05:46 PM

If a guy really likes you or just wants to get laid? I recently spent an entire week of 1-1/2 hour long telephone conversations (never brought up the sex topic) only to meet, have a nice dinner and some kissing and cuddling afterwards to the next day being told he "drove a long way for nothing"!!!!! I'm so tired of playing games and want to find someone to have a real relationship with. Everyone I meet seems to have an agenda. I'm about to become one of those women with a bunch of pets for company! PLEASE HELP!!!!!explode


When he tells you he "likes" you and he doesn't just wanna get laid. laugh

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Tue 06/02/09 05:47 PM
Thanks sandcrab. And the whole date he was a gentleman. It was the next day he was an ass!

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Tue 06/02/09 05:50 PM
Humm. Something was up with him. Your better off he is gone. He may have become a problem.

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Tue 06/02/09 05:52 PM
Yeah, weird is the word to describe him. Just like all the men in Central Illinois!

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Tue 06/02/09 05:53 PM

I can honestly say I don't think I have dated the same type of man twice in the last six months. This guy honestly didn't seem like a player in my book. I would like to know how to know they are players. Why would a player spend that much time on the phone with me and not even have a hint of sexual anything in the conversation??? I think they would get a feel for how much I would put out on a first date before they would drive over an hour to meet me!
Don't even sound like a player, a bit of a nut to me. Act like all is good then said that on the phone. A toad

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Tue 06/02/09 05:58 PM
It wasn't even a phone call... a text message! I sent him one and he responded with I'm not attracted.... blah blah blah..... then why kiss me???? See why I don't understand men!

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Tue 06/02/09 05:59 PM
Let's beat him up!!!!

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Tue 06/02/09 06:10 PM

It wasn't even a phone call... a text message! I sent him one and he responded with I'm not attracted.... blah blah blah..... then why kiss me???? See why I don't understand men!


Welcome to on-line dating......I can't count how many times this has happened to me. I must say though that I never got a text with bad news......

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Tue 06/02/09 06:10 PM
He's too scrawny. We'd probably hurt him! I told him after the text he was too scrawny and probably had a pencil d**k! I know, I'm bad but he really pissed me off!

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Tue 06/02/09 06:13 PM
Most of the guys I've encountered are chickens. they just quit talking to you. At least I tell them I'm not interested or a little white lie to let them move on! LOL

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Tue 06/02/09 06:15 PM

He's too scrawny. We'd probably hurt him! I told him after the text he was too scrawny and probably had a pencil d**k! I know, I'm bad but he really pissed me off!
Oh no good for you. The guys might not like it but after kissing you and him not getting any he deserved it.

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Tue 06/02/09 06:16 PM
Haha....you know that seems to be very common to come across. My roommate and I were just talking about how this guy she met online they started seeing each other. She told the guy she just wanted to be ONLY friends and the guy said yeah I agree. Only to shortly change his mind and say yeah i wanna be friends but I still want sex too. I just understand men at all why you would be such a dumbass. So when you figure at the manual to your question let me know LOL!

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Tue 06/02/09 06:16 PM
that is what I thought! Unbelievable!

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Tue 06/02/09 06:16 PM

If a guy really likes you or just wants to get laid? I recently spent an entire week of 1-1/2 hour long telephone conversations (never brought up the sex topic) only to meet, have a nice dinner and some kissing and cuddling afterwards to the next day being told he "drove a long way for nothing"!!!!! I'm so tired of playing games and want to find someone to have a real relationship with. Everyone I meet seems to have an agenda. I'm about to become one of those women with a bunch of pets for company! PLEASE HELP!!!!!explode


This is, unfortunately the question women have been asking since the dawn of an era. Sadly, there have yet to be any really truly good answers that I've come across. ohwell

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Tue 06/02/09 06:22 PM
Now that pencil d#ck isn't in your life anymore, you will find the right guyflowerforyou

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Tue 06/02/09 06:26 PM
Sandcrab, why do you live on the opposite end of the country???? I'm sure a lot of women ask you that! LOL

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Tue 06/02/09 06:48 PM


He's too scrawny. We'd probably hurt him! I told him after the text he was too scrawny and probably had a pencil d**k! I know, I'm bad but he really pissed me off!
Oh no good for you. The guys might not like it but after kissing you and him not getting any he deserved it.


I agree with her! The guy is an asshole and you deserve so much better! :wink: