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Topic: Is there anything wrong with .interracial dating?? l
Morena350's photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:48 PM
Interracial dating has been an issue for a long time,
what is the problem with someone wanting to date out of their race?,, we
are in 2007 and things have changed a lot

Im half Puerto Rican, and half Dominican female, who is having a hard
time also dealing with the interracial issues between Hispanics.
We have the Dominicans, Puerto Ricans, Cubans, Panamanians,
Colombians, with issues about dating with one another

so with this statement Im telling you that not only between blacks and
whites is interracial dating an issue but also between Hispanics as
well, and Im also clear that there are interracial issues withing the
blacks and withing the whites as well, chinise and other races have
problems dating, wealthy families have a problem when one is dating
some broke ass person so money has to do with that as well

so interracial is not the color of ones skin,,,but the background and
culture, and wealthy position of the person,,

I find that, that is the real issue here !! what do you think!!?
if you have an open mind,,please tell me if Im wrong or if there is some
truth to this theory !!!

no photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:52 PM
well what i see is the aspects of inequality it is classism whether it
be sex, religion, culture, economical parts, etc.. I personally think
this is a huge problem not just with in dating but in general of
friendships as well.. you don't see many ( i live in south carolin)
many big groups of people where you have different races, or different
classes mixed together, I think partially because we go to a group that
we feel comfortable in so part of it is our fault, part of it is
socieities fault.. and the only way to really attempt to try it is to
try to create equality to the best of our abilities to try to sometimes
put ourselves out the box and try to talk to or overcome certain issues
of people who could be friends or romantic partners and to try to teach
this to other people as well.. .. i don't know if this really makes any
sense bc what im trying to get out i don't feel like i've said... kind
of like.. we all define ourselves by certain qualities and those
qualities hold us back .. ultimately we have to realize we're all equal
we're all human all connected??? does that make sense?? lol

no photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:53 PM
Well sis I think its a combination of color of skin and culture....I my
self have no issues with interracial dating...most that do have closed
minds and were taught that interracial dating is a no no ..Slowly very
very slowly society is coming around to acceptance.

Its not just cultures, skin color money or the lack of its also
religious issues as well....many do not date out side of their religious
upbringing

chopperdan's photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:53 PM
Morena I have no problem dating you, so stop worrying about all that
stuff!

lulu24's photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:54 PM
i do have a problem with humans dating german shepherds.

from a biological standpoint, race doesn't exist. a caucasian will
often have less in common with another caucasian than they will someone
of different descent.

there's only one race, and that's the human one.

Morena350's photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:55 PM
ye, makes perfect sense to me!! and still in 2007 the issue still there
tho!!!ohwell

no photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:55 PM
lulu is right biologically there is no concept of " race" it is intirely
man made.. cause in some countries black can mean your lower class, and
white means your higher.. even if your nationality doesn't fit those
categories..

and typically it is just the people who have descendants that were
closer to the equator( i believe) have more mellanoma than ones whom
were farther away..

nusalor's photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:55 PM
Unfortunately what you say is true, Mo.
It is not only the racial differences, but the social and economical
differences that separate people.
Kind of the "that person is way out of my league" mentality.
Which is too bad. So what if two people don't make the same amount of
money or come from the same background?
The Montague's and the Capulet's-it's not a new phenomena.
Just one that will never cease.

kntrygal1964's photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:56 PM
my sister-in-law is cuban and for some reason they dont like puerto
ricans and peruvians dont like mexicans so you are right its everywhere

Morena350's photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:57 PM
chopper your my hero baby!!!flowerforyou :heart:

chopperdan's photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:57 PM
Morena quit ignorning me and ask me out babe!

no photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:58 PM
i have a spanish friend, who hates to be called mexican..

ultimately these ideas are institutionalized with in us, the same goes
for gender barriers.. we're taught a certain "truth" and a lot of the
time those truths follow over, i went to a building cultural bridges
program where i heard an african american man said his mother always
said if she can't use your comb don't bring her home" ... i thought that
was kind of funny! but i think it is all education and it especially
starts with you to educate your children.. even your family about "it
is just a sking color," " its just money" etc..

lulu24's photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:58 PM
exactly. race is a social construct that was invented to categorize
people, and to hold power over others.

sadly, there are still people that judge others based on color...my
sister is "mixed", so i have seen much of the pain that she has gone
through during her life.

my daughters were at their friend's house the other day...and one of
them mentioned her "booty". the mother looked at my child and told her,
"white girls say 'butt', only black girls say 'booty'."

unfortunately, this is the socializing of our children. i haven't been
quite so furious in a while.

no photo
Sat 05/12/07 06:59 PM
skin.. not sking.. lol

passionart's photo
Sat 05/12/07 07:01 PM
I think you said it quite eloquently. It's nice to see people, as a
whole, coming together. I've lived with this all my life, and it's good
to see change!!!

Morena350's photo
Sat 05/12/07 07:01 PM
and withing races there is still issues..
because in the Dominican Republic, they have a problem if
one person from the capital is dating another from the south, or the
country,,and they fight to the point of killing for what they believe is
right!!ohwell

Fanta46's photo
Sat 05/12/07 07:03 PM
I think you are dead on morena. I kept referring to one of my neighbors
as being from Mexico and he got mad and started cussing Mexicans. He
went to great lengths to make damn sure I knew he was from Honduras, and
not a Mexican. Weird aye!!! I was shocked but he was mad and kept saying
bad, degrading things about Mexicans. I didnt understand that at all,
and still dont, but I had the strong sense that he was being a bigot.
Maybe I just took it wrong. Do the Mexicans and other S American
Nationalities feel racist toward each other?

chopperdan's photo
Sat 05/12/07 07:03 PM
Morena If I lived closer you would have no problem with a date babe!
Thanks!

NYCgirl's photo
Sat 05/12/07 07:07 PM
Well Morena, you are right, that is the reality unfortunately for all of
us. I am half Irish and half Hispanic and in both of my backgrounds, I
find the racial issue to be strong no matter what era we live in. My
parents ended up divorcing because of the same issue. My maternal
grandparents (Irish) could not accept my father and brother because the
color of their skin was a bit darker, but then, they wanted me because I
was light. What kind of **** is that? So I am glad, I grew up with my
paternal grandparents who had no racial issues to deal with and saw
everyone as equal.
That is the way I see everyone, and that is the way I am trying to teach
my children to live by.

This is an issue that has to do with the way we are brought up since the
moment we are born. Something that it is instilled in us and breed in us
through our years. All we can do at this point is think about the new
generations, our children and in my case, my children and students, and
teach them that being different is good but being discriminating against
differences is not.

LadyOfMagic's photo
Sat 05/12/07 07:07 PM
There is nothing wrong with interracial dating..I actually prefer that
to dating in my own race..my issue now is I can't find a good guy of ANY
racelaugh

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