Has anyone in here been the parent of SIDS or like loss of a child?

I lost a Grand Niece to SIDS a year ago

I lost a nephew to SIDS

I lost my daughter to SIDS.

I lost a niece to SIDS and my son was a near miss baby....so scary and so very heartbreaking

She would be 2 right now. I look at her brother and just wish I could have done things differently or have changed something so he could know her.

I was considering joining the SIDS Foundation up here in WA. But with little time between my son, my career and personal company not a lot of time right now.

Some friends of mine lost a baby girl to SIDS in 1991. I had held, fed, burped, and rocked this baby to sleep a time or two.....she was a little cutie.

When I think about her and the anguish of her parents, it still hurts.

There's nothing that you could have done differently.

My heart explodes with need for reason! I feel like there was so much I could have done differently. Yet I know my daughter would only want the best for her bother.

So very sorry about your baby....I know that part of your heart will never heal. I try to keep in my heart that when a child goes to God that it is because He needs their help in Heaven....May God hold and keep you.

I don't know anyone...but I couldn't even imagine that happening...so very sad

So sorry to hear! Had a neice ,her baby died with sids.
Hothing anyone can do.I hope your heart heals soon!!

I am a former paramedic and a deputy coroner!! worked for many years in the ER, I have lots experience with it!
the tears, the sadness, the questions,,,, and there are no answers for anyone...
I am told my 2 older brothers died of SIDS before I was born.

It sounds like you need to make time.

I'm so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you. I can't even imagine life without my little girl, I don't know what I would do if anything ever happened to her. To be honest there isn't a lot you can do about your situation, and questioning your actions won't lead you anywhere. Learn from it what you can, unfortunately there is a lot that comes with being a parent that you just don't know and have to learn on your own.

Focus on your son, keep your daughter in your heart.

If participateing in the foundation will help you learn to cope with your greif and give you a way to memorialize the daughter that you have in your heart I think it might be good on a limited basis. The foundation will be around for many years so you can do a little each year and still go forward with your life as a parent to the child you have.

I am not saying at times it won't be excruciateing. Loss of a child, is the worst loss you can bear, but you can survive it and I have found with time you will realize it is a priviledge. I say that because as painful as it is by surviving you honor her by reflecting the love that all your children reflect on you if only in the blink of their short lives in this universe.

Another organization that is a great comfort for families that suffer this all to common loss is Compassionate Friends.