but it was with many lies. Do you still see him/her? Do you move on?

I am at a confused empty state. Been dating someome for several months off and on. It was progressing I thought well. But I began to notice things were not what he said. For exapmle, he claimed he had a meeting he had to attend, but woudl call me after. But in actuallity he went home and unplugged the phones. This was odd why say that and do something else. When a simple I am going home tonight after work and chill was good enough. Then he woudl call the next day like nothing was wrong. So I passed it off.

His health is not his priorty. Yet he uses this as his excuse not to complete tasks or persue alternative help. Yet his profile reads active and fit. Yes ladies its the old back thing. while I myself have worked hard to keep as fit as possible. I expect my mate to do the same. I would not walk out if it was a case of needing help. This is a case of using his issues to gain help.( housework)

I raised my babies. I don't want to take care of a guy I am dating for a long time. If it was a mate that is differnt. If he had an accident when we were dating that is different, I feel he has used his medical issues, that he lied about, in the past to try and manipulate his girlfriends.

I'd say "kicked to the curb and NEXT!!!"

that is where I am. thanks

Can we say NEXT lol

Yes we can!!!

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had to put a bit of an attitude in it just because

don't ever sell yourself short or fall for bs.. Like you said, excuses, plain and simple.. very obvious.. Being nice only goes so far, then you're letting the best of yourself be used by someone very undeserving...

I would say to move on. If a person can't be honest...well, enough said.

Sorry that happened to you...

Dont seem to understand a thing! He's smart so what? You have not caught him "red handed" have you?

Dont seem to understand a thing! He's smart so what? You have not caught him "red handed" have you?

Whats your point he lied end of story ! Lose him !

when people stop putting up with bs then people will perhaps stop bsing - good luck to you

This story is a little confusing. I checked your profile and you are a bright attractive person. There is no apparent need for you to date someone who is not honest with you. You described a string of problems that would be "deal killers" for almost anyone. You understand what he is doing because you explained it to us. Why are you still in this relationship if honesty is really important to you? You act like someone who has fallen in love with a jerk and can't get away. There are a lot of fish in the sea and the sooner you get this one off the hook, the sooner you can land a "keeper".

If you have indeed "kicked him to the curb", what's the question?

Hmmm...could this be another generality???

A dude says his back is messed up, so it's just an excuse to not be as active as you might want him to be??

Are men now going to have to go and get the medical records so that they can prove they actually do have a bad back??

Mine has been messed up since 1991. It does limit what I can do somewhat. But if I am careful in what I am doing, I get along just fine. But there hasn't been a single day since '91 that it hasn't hurt.

Some guys really do have back issues that limit them. Some use it as an excuse.

But you make it seem as if they all use it as an excuse to be unhealthy.

Shouldn't even be a question - if he or she is dishonest, they're exiting stage left, final curtain call. If they'll lie about stupid things, they'll lie about important things too, so why tolerate it?

back thing? his health is his priority, yet he won't do anything about it? back injuries are common place. being concerned about it is too. But to use it as an excuse? I just don't get why both men and women have to lie on profiles and then try to cover it up later? what is that old saying "what a web we weave when we try to deceive" ....1 lie leads to more lies just to cover the first lie.... I refuse to lie to someone just to try and impress them. Like me for who I am how i am or not at all. simple to me.

Thank you all.......

And if it was just a back issue I could accept that. He has other issues as well.

Just a guy it is his excuse to be unhealty. I cannot elborate on here.

But his mistress is alos a bottle of booze. He lied about being in a 12 step program as well.

Time for me to move on............

thank you all