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Have you ever been so tired or feel beat down by past relationships that you are too tired to look for anyone or care if you ever found someone??? if you knew the outcome...how would that be fun...and it's Dating...not relationship hunting...good luck though |
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Shoot, take the time and ENJOY yourself! When was the last time you did concentrate on you and finding your bliss?
I think alot of people jump from one relationship to another trying to fill a void in thier lives, not taking the time to find out why that void is there. Date, don't date. Meh, as long as YOU are happy, who cares? Don't be tired or worn down, just have yourself some fun and ride the waves of life for as long as you can. I like the fact that I don't have to tell someone what I'm doing or why I'm doing it. I come and go as I please. I eat what I want, sleep when I want and can spend hours reading without being interrupted. I get the WHOLE bed to myself O.O and nobody steals the covers. I dig it |
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I'm more mentally and emotionally tired. kind of like after I teach dance and I'm physically tired...when I get home I can relax and wind down. dating and looking for someone just doesn't seem to be on my to-do list right now.
maybe it's just a phase huh? I'm actually happy and relaxed and almost feel like a weight is off my shoulders and now I can relax. I don't mind being alone and I love to hang out with friends (mostly guys anyway lol). it's more me time I guess. maybe that's selfish (IDK) but for the first time I don't feel pressure or the "need" to support someone specifically |
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I'm sure there are a lot of us in the same boat. Since my divorce(over 2 years ago) I've dated 2 women one lasting 3 months and one lasting 2 months. I've often wondered if it's even worth it anymore. I have so much going on in my life that time seems to be an issue that interferes with my "dating". I do believe some day I will find someone, but I'm in no rush to and I can honestly say I'm not really looking for it. They do say when your not looking for it it will find you. But then I think if it finds me will I be ready for it. Seems like a vicious circle.
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TJ...you probably know me better than anyone on this site. after crappy relationships...I finally can feel relaxed and relieved. this is just a new feeling for me because I have felt the need to take care of people since I was little. now my son is 18 (yes I will always be there for him) but he is a man and spreading his wings. I don't have the drama with bf's that I've had in the past. and I'm actually relieved and fine being without anyone
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Edited by
yellowrose10
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Tue 05/12/09 04:26 AM
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cursed...I have been there done that hun. but it's actually cool being at peace. but if you need to talk...let me know and there are great people here too
hereformore...I'm not trying to ignore you hun lol. I understand what you are saying too because I have been there also. but it's not so much why bother....it's just not on my to-do list right now |
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CONTENT....that's the word I am looking for
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CONTENT....that's the word I am looking for content is a very good place to be |
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maybe give up wasn't the best topic for this huh?
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Content .... I wish I would have thought of that
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My grandma use to tell me that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince......what happens when the frogs all disappear
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amazing the things that come to you with a little bit of coffee
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My grandma use to tell me that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince......what happens when the frogs all disappear what about warts.....yuck |
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Edited by
plk1966
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Tue 05/12/09 05:01 AM
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My grandma use to tell me that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince......what happens when the frogs all disappear what about warts.....yuck I said frogs not toads though most turn out to be toads |
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lol mine too. at one time in my life, not too long ago...i would have settled for a frog
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Oh doll....I am not settling anymore
I am actually content with being alone but someone special would be nice. It doesn't define who I am as a person and my life is not empty without someone in it. Would be nice to share it though |
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so it is somewhat normal to feel content like this??? to feel almost relieved and relaxed???
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yes it is........do not ever feel that you are strange or weird cuz you feel that way
In order to be open to a relationship you should always feel content and relaxed if not it isn't the right relationship for you |
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My grandma use to tell me that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince......what happens when the frogs all disappear So your saying I should stop eating frog leggs then? |
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so it is somewhat normal to feel content like this??? to feel almost relieved and relaxed??? of course it is!!! and very liberating...too bad more people don't get it...lol i took kids to school, ran a couple of errands and came back and no new topics... |
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